Dancing Myself Into a Corner

Hive, I need your help! With a week to go before the wedding, I haven’t picked a father-daughter dance song. Well… that’s not entirely true. The two songs I picked were shot down by Daddy PaC. And we haven’t come up with anything suitable since then.

Some helpful background information:


I’m so proud of my dad.

  • Daddy PaC is a musician. He taught himself to play guitar in high school, rocked in a band before I was born and continues to play music in a band and at church. He really has an ear for music! The man owns enough guitars to fill my old bedroom—just ask Mom!

  • We share a love of The Beatles.
  • Neither of us is an experienced dancer. A choreographed dance number is not going to work.

When I excitedly suggested my two favorite father-daughter dance songs, Blackbird and  In My Life by The Beatles, he nixed them for tempo reasons. Straight from Daddy PaC: “‘Blackbird‘ is a fast tempo song… and ‘In My Life‘ has a bit of a strange ‘beat.’ It’s like 3/4 time and does change in several parts of the song. They are both very nice songs but I don’t think danceable is their strong suit.”

Oh, I was bummed! Here we had sentimental, slower songs by one of our favorites artists… and no.

Daddy PaC gave it some more thought and came up with  Ann by David Gates, the same artist they selected for their wedding song. He also suggested if I wanted to pay homage to our French heritage,  French Waltz by Nicolette Larson (my namesake) would be nice. These traditional songs were lovely, but nowhere near what I had in mind.

Thinking that if Daddy PaC saw our playlists, he’d understand the vibe and be able to utilize his music knowledge to suggest a really cool song, I emailed over the song list. Here’s a representative sampling:

Mother/Son: Wildflowers – Tom Petty


Rock, Alt, Indie and a little Reggae

He didn’t recognize 90% of the songs and the remaining 10% didn’t jump out at him, so he bowed out of the decision. Which left me feeling sad… and guilty. (I had no idea the father-daughter dance was so emotionally charged!)

When I asked my married friends what they danced to and/or would suggest, I came across three schools of thought:

  1. Dance to what you want
  2. Dance to what he wants
  3. Don’t stress out over the song. You won’t remember it years from now. (I would.)

So hive, I’m putting it out there. I need help. You guys are the experts. Wow me with your recommendations!


Mrs. Pain au Chocolat

Wilmington, DE
Wedding Date:
June 2011
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  1. painauchocolat Bee
    painauchocolat 2298 posts, Buzzing bee @ 5:09 pm

    @chrispygal: I considered covers of both Beatles songs but they lose a little specialness without John & Paul singing them.
    @mcmillan0529: Had I planned a little bit better, asking my dad/dad’s band to perform a song for the dance would have been super sentimental/sweet. Love that you get the best of both worlds for your father-daughter!
    @Miss Palmetto: “Wild Horses” by The Sundays made our dinner playlist!
    @Crabbabs: My dad also loves Clapton. Any great guitar player really gets his attention. Mr. PaC and I danced to both of the Beatles songs to determine which was more “danceable.”
    @Heather Ash: “Imagine” is a great choice! Sure to get some tears at your wedding!
    @PandaPanda: omg, “I Will” is one of my favorite Beatles songs. Paul’s voice is so clear and earnest in it. I think we have that on the dinner playlist too.
    @Jess1054: Smart! You get a modern version of the song you both like. I’m afraid the tears will start and won’t stop. They’ll need a mop for the dance floor by the end of it.
    @Mrs. Trail Mix: We have a DJ so can’t change the lyrics, but what a clever idea for that song.
    @occhiblu: Good idea! That was one of the songs under consideration if we couldn’t find a Beatles tune. “Sweet Pea” is an adorable song that matches the relationship my dad and I have.
    @lifegavemelimes: I’ve never heard that version; will have to give it a listen. Nat’s voice is like buttah!
    @okpharmbride: Daddy PaC likes Buffett. I came across a list with that as a suggestion.

  2. snowcone Bee
    snowcone 1141 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:40 am

    I’m on team “let dad pick”… I think it’s an awesome way to let his true feelings with the situation come through via song selection. Hope you find something awesome!

  3. Guest Icon Guest
    Devon, Guest @ 1:16 pm

    Hey Miss PaC! Just wanted to extend a “rock on and good luck” to a fellow DE bride 🙂

  4. painauchocolat Bee
    painauchocolat 2298 posts, Buzzing bee @ 10:25 pm

    @Devon: Thank you! We are so close!!!

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