Wedding Traditions to Skip
OK, real talk for a second: These past three weeks or so have been the craziest maybe of my entire career. I’ve been working at a frantic pace for days and days and the work just keeps coming! If you can relate, I’m…so sorry. Anyway, I am taking a break from all of that to talk about some of the fun traditions, moments, and customs…that we’re NOT doing at our wedding.
Ready to light some sparklers at a dear friend’s send-off. Just lovely!…but we’re not doing it.
While I absolutely love tradition (I’m Catholic, after all), I also feel that couples shouldn’t follow customs simply for customs’ sake. If you don’t want to do something, don’t feel guilty about it! And personally, I really enjoy reading about the reasons people choose to do certain things (or not), so I figured I’d give a quick rundown of the traditions we have certainly enjoyed at others’ weddings, but have vetoed for ours.
FLOWER GIRL: They’re so unpredictable! Children and animals, am I right? Just kidding. I don’t really know any little kids, actually, so this one was an easy no.
FUNKY ENTRANCE: We really want to attend our own cocktail hour, so we’re planning on just…coming in. Our DJ will formally announce us when we sit down for dinner, but no sunglasses or hilarious choreography will be necessary.
BOUQUET TOSS AND GARTER THROW: In my 20s, I thought the former was charming. In my 30s, I fear it’s slightly shaming of non-married people…? At least, I wouldn’t want to take the risk of embarrassing my unmarried friends. And we’re forsaking the latter based on tact as well as on a horror story I read (on the boards here, I think!) of a bride sweating and sweating on her extremely hot wedding day and then the best man catching the garter…which was soaking wet. Insert wide-eyed, horrified emoji here.
PHOTO BOOTH: I am kind of sad that I didn’t get married earlier, when these were a really neat novelty. Since they’re no longer unusual and an extra expense/hassle to set up, we figured we’d skip it.
CONFETTI/SPARKLERS/EXIT WHATEVER: Too much work for something I’m not sure we would even use. We are planning a quick exit about a half hour before our reception ends. And that brings me to my last point—
ATTENDING AN AFTER-PARTY ON OUR WEDDING NIGHT: Ben and I are so, so excited for the day we get married in front of our dearest friends and family. However, as a couple of introverts, we are also looking forward to slipping away for some alone time on our wedding night. Plus, I just love the tradition of being actually sent off together! That being said, I very much hope that our guests will party into the wee hours of the morning.
What did you NOT do—or are not planning to do—at your wedding?