Holy Moly Matrimony: the Marriage Happens

This was the moment: the moment where we would make our vows, in front of our family and friends, and become married. The moment that I had been imagining in my head ever since Mr. Mole and I met for lunch on a snowy day in a windy city.


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Reverend Walter turned to us, and asked us the following two questions.

Jeff and Dana, do you, with family and friends as your witnesses, present yourselves willingly to be joined in marriage?

Will you promise to care for each other in the joys and sorrows of life, and to share the responsibility for the growth and enrichment of your life together?


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We did, and we would. But marriage is not only a union of two people but a joining of two families and circles of friends. We wanted to involve these people in our ceremony as well. So Reverend Walter next turned and addressed our family and friends.

As family and friends, you form a community of support and strength that surrounds Jeff and Dana. Each of you, by your presence here today, is being called upon to support them in loving each other. Always stand beside them, and never between them. Encourage them when encouragement is needed, and listen to them when they ask for advice. In these ways, you will honor this marriage into which they have come to be joined today.

Do you offer your love and support to strengthen their marriage and uphold this family created by their union? Please answer by saying, “We do.”




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Our loved ones answered with a resounding and heart-swelling, “We do.” We are so thankful for their love and support. After this statement of support was given, we were ready to exchange our statements of commitment. My sister came up to the front to read an appropriate selection from Robert Fulghum’s “The Union.”

You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married”, and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” – all those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.

The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.” Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for you have learned much from one another these past few years. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same.

For after today you shall say to the world –
This is my husband. This is my wife.


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Reverend Walter turned to us, and asked us to share the vows that we had each written for the other. This was most important part of the ceremony – and my most cherished memory from our wedding. Mr. Mole was first.


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Mr. Mole’s vows were amazing. Really, really amazing. I teared up as he talked about our relationship, from the first blind date to this moment at the altar. He explained how much it means to him, how much I mean to him, and how he is going to stand by me for the rest of our lives.


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I cried through my vows to Mr. Mole as well. Parts are highly personal, but here is how they ended.

A friend once told me that the value of life must be measured by the kind of people we are – the quality of our spiritual integrity, the good that we do, the beauty that we exude. By all standards, then, you are the most amazing man that I have ever known. I love you so, so very much.

Because I love you, I want to make these vows to you.

I vow to always be faithful and honest with you, to believe in you, to give you all of my love and support.

I vow to always listen when you need an ear, to speak when you need a voice, to reach out when you need a hand.

I vow to always place our relationship first and fully appreciate you, to remember how important you are to me, to recognize how fortunate I am to have your love.

I vow to always be my best for you because it’s what you deserve.

I vow to always love you for the rest of my life and forever, even after rainbow bridge.


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With our personal vows exchanged, we then exchanged our rings.

The ring is an outward and physical sign of the vows you have made today and of the inward bond that you share. Let these rings be a sign that love has a past, a present and a future, through you and within you.

Jeff, take Dana’s ring. Place it on her finger and repeat after me:
I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and faithfulness, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I take you as my wife.


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Dana, take Jeff’s ring. Place it on his finger and repeat after me:
I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and faithfulness, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I take you as my husband.

Reverend Walter blessed us and our rings, reading from James Dillet Freeman’s “A Blessing for a Marriage.”

May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding.
May you always need one another – not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know your fullness.
May you need one another, but not out of weakness.
May you want one another, but not out of lack.
May you entice, but not compel one another.
May you embrace, but not encircle one another.
May you succeed in all important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces.
May you look for things to praise, often say, “I love you!” and take no notice of small faults.
If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back.
May you enter into the mystery which is the awareness of one another’s presence – no more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side by side, and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities.
May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy.
May you have love, and may you find it loving one another.


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With that, Reverend Walter pronounced us husband and wife. Those famous, and highly anticipated, words then followed: “Mr. Mole, you may kiss the bride.” And boy, did he ever.


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Our recessional, Bob Dylan’s Tonight I’ll Be Staying Here with You, started to play as we turned to face our guests. It wasn’t just tonight for us, though. It was for always. We were married!

We even have the ubiquitous bouquet and ring shots to prove it.


Photo by Cashman Photography

All photography in Las Vegas by Brian Saculles, unless otherwise noted.

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Mrs. Mole

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Wedding Date:
January 2012
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    eeper 129 posts, Blushing bee @ 2:40 pm

    Love this, so beautiful! And you are gorgeous.

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    Matrimony, Guest @ 3:36 am

    What a Wonderful Wedding Ceremony.Boom I love it..

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