Now that you’ve seen our invitations, let’s get into some details! I realize this might not be the most entertaining for a casual reader, since it’s more of a list and mini reviews for anyone in the market for some similar products. When I was researching, I had some trouble finding out info on some of these pieces I was researching, so I figured I might as well put my knowledge out there.
As a reminder, here’s the whole enchilada (mmmm, enchiladas are my fave):
I picked up a swatch from a paper store to confirm that the thickness and color were satisfactory, and Uncle G ordered it. This had the potential to get much more complicated, since no one believed me when I said I just wanted some shade of ivory and did not care what. The sales clerk wanted me to look at all the different swatches, but I only saw that ending with me curled in a fetal position whimpering, surrounded by little card stock pieces that all looked the same. I selected the Cougar because she had a little sample book for me to keep, and I moved on with my life.
Shortly after getting engaged, Mr. MC and I attended a friend’s wedding. The wedding was beautiful, but our most vivid memory isn’t of the bride and groom—it is of the guest that insisted on taking pictures of all the big wedding moments.
I remember her blocking my view for part of the first dance and standing opposite the photographer during the father-daughter dance, using her flash for multiple photos. I don’t know who she was or how she was related to the bride and groom, but I saw her everywhere.
I saw her so much that I remember exactly what she looked like (green pantsuit, brown hair!), even though I can barely remember what my friends and I were wearing that night. By the end of the reception, Mr. MC and I had agreed that we wanted our entire wedding to be unplugged—no cell phones, iPads, Instagram, Facebook, Vine, or Twitter.
Just two days after the wedding, I already had several ideas for how to tell guests about our unplugged wedding. I was serious! / Image via Love and Lobster, photo by Audra Bayette
It was a really great opportunity for all the different sections of our family and friends to get to know each other better before the wedding day. This is important since our families are so large and blended—I received a six page family tree as a gift at the shower (and that’s just my family, bees!!).
The Buzz is a Weddingbee series created by the hive, for the hive! Each week or so, we’ll head to the boards and ask a series of three questions—one geared toward pre-engaged, one toward engaged, and one for newlyweds. We’ll look to you to quickly provide your expert advice, and compile a selection of great answers into blog posts. Learn more here, and contribute your ideas for future “Buzz” questions you’d like to see answered!
We wanted to know:
Looking back (on your wedding day), would you have done anything differently?
Without further ado, here’s what you would have changed about your wedding days.
I would try not to be so stressed the week before!! I kept trying to relax and let things go, but I was too excited/anxious and everything seemed like a huge deal.
I would have insisted that the MUA NOT use primer with sunscreen. I asked him not to because of photos, but he said “Oh, this primer won’t cause a reflection in your photos, I promise!” but he was wrong. All of our guest pics with flash look ridiculous because I have ghost-face.
I would have sprung for the full hair trial instead of the free consultation, because I feel like I could have liked my hair a bit better.
I would have checked (and double and triple checked) the photographer’s work to be sure I was happy with their style. In my opinion photography is the most important part of the day. You only get one chance to capture the day!
I would have gotten the flowers I had always dreamed about, even if they were not “in season,” instead of settling for another type just to save a few extra bucks. It still, to this day (and I’ve been married a while!), bothers me when I look at our wedding photos in their picture frames in our home. I should have been holding sunflowers, darn it!
I would have gotten a delivious cake. The venue we chose had the wedding cake included in their menu, so I just went with it. Wish I had insisted I just buy a cake that I LOVED.
Disclaimer: This post touches on our wedding budget. I was hesitant to write about our budget because budgets can span a huge spectrum and are completely personal/individual decisions. However, I feel that our budget was one of the first big wedding decisions we had to make, and I didn’t want to just ignore it. That said, I’ve found weddings of all budget sizes that I love and envy and would be ecstatic to call our own. OK, disclaimer over. Now on to your regular programming.
Planning a wedding. The thought makes me giddy and nauseous all at the same time. On the one hand, I love to plan, and I love to be pretty and surrounded by pretty things. Oh, and I also love Mr. S. On the other hand, our wedding is a BIG MOTHER TRUCKING DEAL. Why?
I am an only child. No other siblings to get “do-overs” with.
I’m the first in a long line of cousins my age to get married. And it’s been five years since the last “kid” in our family got married.
Mr. S and I have been together for 13 years. We have a lot of “shared” people who have been waiting for this day to come.
And so, the pressure is on, along with all the options, decisions, and expectations to consider. Every time one decision is made, another one rears its ugly head before I can even think of congratulating myself on a job well done.
When making certain choices about the timeline or flow of our wedding, I like to imagine myself as a guest. So if you would humor me for a second, let’s try a visualization exercise, everyone:
You’re a guest at the intimate (90-person) wedding of your good friends Rooster and Hen. It’s fun. It’s not formal, but there’s an air of celebration. The ceremony has just ended and the food truck behind the ceremony space has opened. You wait in (hopefully a very short) line, grab your baby back ribs, and go find your seat.
What happens next is where I get stuck. Should we let our guests grab their own spots, or assign seats at certain tables?
While dancing was obviously a huge part of our reception, Mr. Waterfall and I knew that we really wanted to offer a photo booth to our guests. And boy was it ever a hit! It was fun for the whole family.
Flower Girl M with her brother JC (my parents’ godson) and their parents
We negotiated the photo booth as part of our photography package instead of going with a separate photo booth company, mostly for budget reasons. Jesse and Catherine set up the booth, which was completely automated, and our guests did the rest. It was so easy to use that people of all ages were lining up and striking a pose, from our older guests…