Sorry for the radio silence, hive. It’s just that, you know, all my time has been spent DOING all of the things lately instead of writing about doing all of the things! But I’ve been busy, and now that I’ve had a chance to catch my breath, I’m back to share some deets.
First things first, we had to find a venue. Knowing that we had a date in mind made it easier to narrow down venues, because they needed to have an opening for our new date. And that was how we ruled out a few places right off the bat.
With the focus on the New Year’s Eve party, most of the restaurant venues got ruled out, because they wouldn’t support the party we wanted to host. I dreamed of a winery wedding, but a winery didn’t really support a winter wedding.
So, I went for the given: hotels/banquet/event centers.
After finishing up at the salon, we still had about an hour and a half until Mr. Clownfish’s and my first look. We stopped for lunch at the local Saladworks, and made our way over to Landis Valley Museum with (what seemed like) plenty of time to spare. As soon as we arrived, I could feel the nerves starting to set in. Most of our vendors had arrived, the chairs were set up on the lawn, and I could see our florist setting up our flowers around the venue space. My groom was on his way, with his groomsmen in tow.
Whoa. This was really, seriously happening. TODAY. In a few hours. Cue the panic.
Somehow I managed to eat half of my salad before deciding that I absolutely had to get into my dress thisveryminute or else I would be late to my own first look. What seemed like so much time had seemingly vanished, and suddenly we were 15 minutes behind schedule. Before I knew it, I had put my dress on, my girls were helping me with my finishing touches, and it was almost time to see my groom!
The room where I had put my dress on was very fluorescent, which I knew would not make for good photos of “the finishing touches.” I had asked Kristina to pick out a nice, shaded spot for me to finish getting ready, and she did not disappoint! I just had to walk around the side of the Country Store to find this spot, which turned out to be such a great spot for these photos.
I haven’t left you out of my whirlwind life cycle—I’ve been around the block. This isn’t my first rodeo.
The girl I was when I planned a wedding for the first time is most definitely not the woman I am today.
My first wedding was a major production with every little detail planned down to the minutiae. It was a beautiful celebration that left me feeling off—like I was watching my life from the outside. There were 250 invitations, a cathedral veil, a five-tier cake, and a favor for every guest. It was all of the things that books, people, and the internet told me it should be. It was exhausting. I remember feeling defeated that day—I was surrounded by a mountain of things that just didn’t feel good. It should’ve felt good.
Choosing to do a first look was pretty much a no-brainer. The superficial angle is that it was unlikely that we’d get that coveted “reaction shot” at the ceremony. But the real reason to opt for a first look was because I didn’t want to wait so long to see my future husband. Weddings are nervous-making, and I knew I’d be much too jittery if we were apart for the entire day.
Are we that co-dependent? Maybe a little.
Having this moment together relieved so much of the stress that was building since I woke that morning. So much of the portrait time was just an excuse to hold each other and laugh together. I would whisper in his ear, “I know we’re supposed to be smiling for the camera, but I honestly can’t help it!”
Once dressed, I was whisked down behind the hotel where there was a lovely shaded spot with trees and overgrowth. Izzy, our photographer, had already done such an incredible job scouting out camera-worthy locations around the grounds.
We followed her lead on all things, and we got some adorable photographs in return.
I did some research when we first decided on our beach wedding location to determine the requirements for getting married in Mexico. I found it is quite involved for two foreigners to be married in Mexico and for the marriage to be recognized in the United States. This is not an exhaustive list, and I’m not sure how up to date all of these requirements are, but I hope it is helpful to anyone not from Mexico that is thinking of getting married there. Also, some requirements vary from state to state and there are many different lists of legal requirements, so make sure you ask your specific location well before your wedding date. Some resorts will include some of these items in your wedding package, so make sure you check with your wedding location.
Legal Requirements for Mexico Wedding : (between foreigners)
UPDATE: We have created an “other gemstone” category, so anyone with a gemstone ring that is not included in any of the other categories can submit their ring now!
We know the hive loves engagement rings. Just take a look at the Gallery or our Rings boards, and you will see all kinds of e-rings, discussions on what kind of ring to buy, pros and cons of different styles and stones, etc. So we thought it would be fun to create a series of ongoing “Ring Porn” posts with the hive in mind!
So we’re launching a set of ring surveys, starting with 15 different styles of engagement rings (you can find them at the bottom of this post, and we’ll also post them on the Boards as a stickied post). All you do is fill out the survey corresponding to your ring style (round diamond, Moissanite, sapphire, etc.), Mrs. Mouse will email you to ask for a photo of your ring, and then once at least 10 people with that style of ring have filled out the survey, it will become a post here on the blog!
The posts will continuously be updated to reflect new ring submissions, and eventually we hope they will be an amazing repository of REAL engagement rings to inspire bees for years to come.
To kick off this series, Mrs. Mouse asked the bee bloggers and hostesses to submit their own rings to get an idea for what the ring posts will look like! Without further ado…
Mrs. Funnel Cake’s “Klein und Fein” (small and fine) five-stone solitaire diamond with two stones flanking each side.
Why did you or your FI choose this ring? I wanted a multi-stone ring with a traditional profile higher than the wedding band like my mother’s, and Mr. FC thought the engagement ring (which he didn’t think we needed) should cost less than the more important wedding ring. We decided to compromise, which was good because I anyway did not like how far all the 0.5-1.5 carat solitaires I tried stuck out on my finger. In the end, I preferred a ring with a very minimal profile for everyday wear.