Hello, hive! I’m so excited to be back and participating in the “After the Wedding” series! Have you missed me? I’ve missed you!
This November, Mr. Potion and I will celebrate our second anniversary. Two years isn’t very long—I mean, it’s ages longer than the typical Hollywood marriage, but even still, two years can still be considered no time at all. But unlike most couples nowadays, we got pregnant just three months into our marriage…and babies bring plenty of opportunities to test your vows. Let’s see how well we’ve done.
At first, in my mind, I really thought that I would like to wear a colored wedding gown. Nothing too bold, but maybe a blush or a gold. I tried on several colored dresses and loved them. However, deep down inside of me there must be a traditionalist, because I just didn’t feel like a bride. In the end I settled on an ivory gown (it looks white to me!) but have decided that I want to show some love for my favorite color via my shoes.
Shoes are awesome because they are hidden by long gowns, so they won’t be the first thing people notice (don’t want to be distracting from the expensive dress!), but they are a great way to show personality. Our wedding theme is “colorful, coastal chic,” and so I want to balance the fun with the classic look.
I immediately settled on pink shoes, and totally latched onto these Kate Spade wedges. I love the color, I think the wedge looks comfortable, and I am OBSESSED with the bow. But they’re $328. That’s way more than I would normally ever spend on two pairs of shoes, forget one! I really want to treat myself for my wedding day, but that seems outrageous.
After my big dress reveal, we did one last makeup touch-up and we were ready to head out. Tip #1 for brides to be. It’s a good idea to have one person (other than yourself) keep track of your purse/makeup bag throughout the day, because if you are anything like me there is so much else going on that you will most definitely walk out without it. The lovely BM Cali was carrying my purse here.
Tip #2. If you know your venue is going to card and the bridesmaids/yourself might not be carrying purses, ask the venue if they can check IDs during the rehearsal instead. That way everyone is good to go the day of the wedding.
Tip #3. Consider putting your lipstick on after your dress so you don’t stain the fabric (or loosely tie a scarf over your face)!
As you may have been able to figure out from my anniversary post, we’ve had a bit of a rough year. Not with our relationship, just with life in general. This series is such a great opportunity for me to reflect back on our vows and a good reminder to always be grateful for what we have, instead of upset about what we don’t.
In the first couple of months after we returned from our honeymoon, I really struggled with communication. I was suddenly very bored (going from two jobs, school, and planning a wedding to just one job gave me a lot more free time), and I was sad and scared about my mother-in-law. I had to remind myself to be good to myself and to be good to Sparky. Once I settled into my new rhythm, I felt better and more able to live up to everything I’d promised.
It’s always easier to be kind when things are going well—it’s much more difficult when things are bad. With this in mind, both Sparky and I made the extra effort to talk and work together, and I’m happy to say that we have really been living our vows.
I already shared our engagement photo shoot with you. Now, here’s what we used the photos for! After a LOT of debate and Photoshop time (sorry, Mr. Coral) we decided to abandon my original save-the-date idea (a watercolor map) and instead go with engagement photos. Honestly, they were too good not to share them. We decided to make a mini-collage of three of our favorite pictures, plus the wedding logo that Mr. Coral designed in Photoshop. It’s really simple, but we just wanted the pictures to stand out.
We ordered them from Vistaprint. Tip: Order postcards from the business marketing section and not the wedding section. They are significantly cheaper. We got 100 cards for less than $20, including our message printed on the back. Make sure you use Ebates (4%!) and Retail Me Not (free shipping!)! We saved a lot with cash back and coupon codes. Plus, my dad gave me a roll of postcard stamps the last time I went home. That made postage free to me! (Thanks, Dad!) So our total out-of-pocket cost was $16.99 (plus 68 cents cash back). That’s way under the $100 that I originally budgeted.