Though I gave her a hard time, I have to say, I’m grateful my mom won the battle on our rehearsal guest list and thankful that they were able to put it together for us. At our reception there were so many guests I hadn’t seen in so long, and one night just wasn’t enough to catch up and have some meaningful conversation. But with the family and friends that attended our rehearsal dinner, I felt like I got some quality time with each of them. It also gave me the chance to practice the art of table hopping—staying long enough to have a conversation with each person but excusing myself to move onto the next group of people.
Just to get this off my chest…I do not believe that BM is a suitable acronym for the lovely ladies who will be by my side on the most wonderful day of my life. I’ve giggled one too many times at brides-to-be that casually use this acronym to describe their bridesmaids without actually realizing what this acronym usually stands for. So I will be using BBM (which in my world stands for “Best Bridesmaid) in place of BM. If you have no idea what I’m talking about, just ignore this last paragraph and proceed on.
the ultimate bridesmaids, let’s be honest. GIF via Photobucket
I have a lot to say about why a long engagement worked for us, but one challenge I never thought about was that with a two-year engagement, that leaves plenty of time for me to completely forget about very important, time-sensitive tasks. Let me tell you a funny little story: I call it “The Time My Long Engagement Caused Me to Lose the Ability to Perform Basic Math.” (I’m still working on the title.)
Around the beginning of December, Mr. T and I went out for a celebratory dinner. We were celebrating the end of my clinical fieldwork rotation, Mr. T’s new job, our six-year dating anniversary, and the six-month mark before our wedding. It was so coincidental that all of these occasions occurred around the same point in time! It wasn’t until several weeks later, around the new year, that I realized that wasn’t actually the six months till our wedding date—it was the five months till our wedding date. Six months had come and gone, and I still had not decided on my bridesmaids’ look. Oops.
One of the very first projects I undertook when we got engaged was to put together a wedding binder. I know those things are getting kinda outdated nowadays, what with Pinterest and iPhones and all that newfangled stuff the hoodlums like to play with, but I had my reasons for starting a binder.
For one thing, I generally just prefer looking at things on paper than on the computer screen. (If there’s something I really have to read carefully at work, I’ll print out a copy and go at it with a highlighter. Environmental studies major FAIL.) For another, it’s easier for me to go to a meeting with, say, our florist or my hairstylist if I have my inspiration photos printed out full size, rather than trying to zoom in far enough on my phone’s screen to see the details. And finally, I’m big-time into saving mementos, and I figured the binder would become the ultimate memento post wedding day. Those hopes were justified when I came across my mom’s wedding binder a few months later (OK, fine, it was really a scrapbook that her mom put together of all the wedding planning stuff, but close enough):
Yes, that is an early-days spreadsheet that bears an eerie resemblance to my bevy of Google spreadsheets. I am my mom’s clone.
Now that we’ve handed out a majority of our save the dates and the rest have been mailed and received, it’s time to show them off!
I designed them in Photoshop Elements 12 with one of our favourite engagement photos. After converting the photo to black and white, I played around with the fonts* we are using on our invitations (sneak peek!), and once the final design was secured and triple checked, I held my breath and hit the purchase button.
We’re really happy with how they turned out, especially since they were under $27. We have also gotten lots of compliments from our guests, which has been really nice to hear.
I thought I’d take a break from all the honeymoon talk and post one of my favorite wedding projects.
I mentioned briefly when I posted about my makeup trial that I was expecting happy tears on our wedding day. I knew I would cry at our wedding because, the fact is, I cry at every wedding. I don’t even have to know the couple, which I found out when I was searching for a videographer and crying at all the sample videos. I love the profound emotions that are flowing on a wedding day, and I get all the feels.
Despite the fact that my tears are basically a foregone conclusion, I almost universally forget to pack tissues as a wedding guest. So when I saw pictures like this…
My bridesmaids planned a brunch at Water’s Edge restaurant on Shem Creek in Mount Pleasant. It was really neat because we sat outside in the “sun room” (quotes used because it was pouring rain all day!), but we had the perfect view across the creek of my and Mr. C’s wedding venue! It was fun to look at it and talk about the big day.
This weekend was my bridal shower hosted by my lovely bridesmaids. I am STILL overwhelmed at how beautiful EVERYTHING turned out. I know my bridesmaids have been planning this shower for a while now, and so they were also so excited at my reaction when I walked in. It was way more awesome than I ever could have imagined.
I walked in (fashionably late, of course, with cupcakes in tow—oops) and just cried. I was just so overwhelmed with how everything looked. I think I just kept hugging them and telling them thank you over and over the entire afternoon.
Now I know you remember me telling you guys that I’m planning a very large wedding. Not because I am inviting every T, D & H, but because we both come from HUGE families. Both of our fathers have 10 siblings and we each have first cousins in the 20 or 30 range, and in our 15 years of knowing one another, we have accumulated a lot of mutual friends! So that means my shower had 80 guests! It was so awesome to just be in the same room with all my family and close friends at the same time.