Personal Wedding Vows
You don’t need to look further than our vows to get an idea of how different Mr. Feather and I are. I started writing my vows about three months before the wedding. Mr. Feather started his vows two days before and finished/edited them with Best Man B as they were getting ready that morning. Which personally would’ve given me a heart attack, but Mr. Feather works best under a little bit of pressure. And his vows were phenomenal (and also, incredibly funny!).
He drew a beautiful picture of our lives together: from meeting on a park bench in San Francisco (with a little help from OkCupid), to moving across the country (three times), to adopting a dog, to running from a bear (we are still not 100% sure if it was a bear, but it sounded a lot like a bear…always hike with bear spray!).
Airbrush Wedding Makeup
All photos by the outstanding Laurel Mountain Photography!
After a quick pit stop at Mama Dreamcatcher’s to get my dress, we arrived at Linden Hall around 11:15 AM. Our vendors weren’t arriving until 1:00 PM, so there was plenty of time to relax, eat lunch, and set up a few things. Our ceremony took place in the garden of the Mansion at Linden Hall, so the “getting ready” area was the upper floor of the building. We had lots of fun exploring the gorgeous rooms!
Before I knew it, though, makeup, our photographers, and our florist all showed up. In hindsight…it’s definitely best to stagger these things because I felt a tad bit overwhelmed when everyone started asking me questions. After a few moments of giving directions, I sat down and began to get my makeup done!
Bridesmaids Pre Ceremony
After finishing up our before-the-ceremony photos, I piled into my parents’ car with my youngest brother, Groomsmen S, who is in high school, and complained mightily about how my dress was taking up most of the back seat (some things never change). Mr. Blue Moon, his family, and the rest of our wedding party carpooled over in various combinations ahead of us, with two groomsmen making quick stops to pick up their dates. As you might imagine, we were all running a few minutes behind at this point, and a few of our guests beat us to the church.
Photo by Amilia Photography
Once we arrived, Mr. Blue Moon, our officiant, and Best Man L were hidden away in a room behind the altar. Our other groomsmen were set in the front entry to seat our guests. Our wedding planner, Adriel, whisked my bridesmaids and me into the nursery at the front of the church to await the start of the ceremony. This nursery room was awesome because it contains a one-way mirror looking out at the sanctuary space, which we were greatly entertained by as we watched the guests arrive. It was also pretty fun for selfies.
Unique Diamond Cuts
We’ve shared the round diamonds and the cushion cuts, the pears and the squares…but there are some diamond cuts that don’t quite fit into any of our categories. Check out the beautiful unique diamond cuts we’ve got for you today, from real brides in the hive, as always.
For those playing catch-up, we launched a set of ring surveys, starting with 15 different styles of engagement rings (you can find them here and at the bottom of this post, as well as on the Boards as a stickied post). All you do is fill out the survey corresponding to your ring style (round diamond, moissanite, sapphire, etc.), which will prompt you to upload your ring photo to the Weddingbee Gallery, and then once at least 10 people with that style of ring have filled out the survey, it will become a post on the Weddingbee blog!
The posts will continuously be updated to reflect new ring submissions, and eventually we hope they will be an amazing repository of REAL engagement rings to inspire bees for years to come.
Note: If you’ve filled out the survey but haven’t yet submitted a photo, it’s not too late to be included in this post! Simply email your photo along with your Weddingbee username and ring style category to mouse (at) weddingbee (dot) com, and we’ll add it to the post!
Submit your ring deets here:
- Cubic Zirconia (or other lab grown; all cuts)
- Diamond Asscher
- Diamond Cushion
- Diamond Emerald
- Diamond Other Cuts
- Diamond Oval
- Diamond Pear or Marquise
- Diamond Princess or Square
- Diamond Radiant
- Diamond Round
- Moissanite (all cuts)
- Morganite (all cuts)
- Non Stone (e.g., claddagh, knot, milgrain, etc.)
- Sapphire (all cuts)
- Other Gemstone (all cuts)
OK bees, get ready for some unique diamond other cuts from Weddingbee members.
bauhinia‘s Old European cut diamond ring with side baguettes
Why did you or your FI choose this ring? This was a family heirloom. The diamond came from my great-grandmother’s Edwardian era tiara.
Where did you purchase your ring? heirloom
Carat size: 3.8
Secular Wedding Ceremony
Mr. Feather and I decided early in the planning process that we would write the script for our secular ceremony as well as our own vows. It was a ton of work, but absolutely worth it in the end to have a ceremony that included everything we felt strongly about. I’ve included a few snippets from our ceremony text—hopefully they can help another couple looking for something similar!
Welcome & Moment of Silence
We started our ceremony with some brief words of welcome and thanks for the role our family and friends have played in our lives, both together and apart. Almost all of our guests traveled from hundreds of miles away to watch us get hitched, which meant so, so much to us.
We are launching several new editorial series on the Weddingbee blog, and we need our hive members to participate in order to bring them to life. If you recently got married and would love to show off your wedding to the hive, we’d love to feature YOU! Keep reading to see ALL of our featured series below.
This week, the spotlight is on…
Real Wedding Playlists
We want the inside scoop on your wedding playlists, whether it’s ceremony, dinner, or dancing music, or even your “do not play” list!
If you’d like to share your playlist, send the following in an email or Google Doc to guest (at) weddingbee (dot) com:
- What type of playlist is this? Ceremony? Dinner? Dancing? All of the above?
- What songs/artists were on your playlist?
- Describe the vibe of your wedding playlist in a few words or sentences. (i.e., moody, bubbly, romantic, pop, indie, etc.)
- What was on your “do not play” list?
- What did you want your guests to feel when they heard the music at your wedding?
- What were the biggest hits or misses?
Be sure to include photos of your guests rocking out on the dance floor if you have them! If you submit professional photos, please credit your photographer.
Formal Bridal Portraits
All these photos are thanks to the one and only Amilia, of Amilia Photography.
Before I interrupted your regularly scheduled recap with a details post about our wedding day, we left off with us and our fabulous, fun bridal party down a trail in the woods. Before I jump into the beginning of our ceremony, I wanted to share some photos with you that I sort of hesitated to share at first. As a bit of introvert who is shy and self-conscious about pretty much everything, it is really hard for me to love, or even like, photos of just me. While I will share the crap out of a photo of Mr. Blue Moon and me (I mean, he’s so handsome), or myself in a group picture with family or friends, I am really not about being photographed by myself.
Though our photographer includes a separate day for bridal portraits (another popular Southern wedding tradition) in most of her packages, I firmly vetoed it because I just couldn’t imagine anything more horrible than spending hours being photographed by myself, being told how to pose, and (potentially) screwing it up with all of the weird and awkward stuff I do. Though I know Amilia would have done a lovely job, bridal portraits with anyone sounded like a special form of torture to me.
Sparkly Bridal Accessories
Along with the shoes, I don’t know what I’m doing about jewelry, but I’ve got a few ideas. I just have to nail down a color palette first. Do I go gold or do I go silver. Do I mix metals? If I go gold, does it matter that my engagement ring is white gold?
Annnyway—here’s what I’m thinking:
- Skip the earrings: For some reason my ears are super sensitive…no matter what kind of metal I wear. I want to be at least somewhat comfy on my wedding day, and not worrying about sore ears is a good step.
- Statement necklace: Something eye catching, sparkling and unique—MAYBE something colorful?
- Hair bling: Maybe a headband, maybe a comb or clip—something vintage inspired, sparkly, and pretty. I AM wearing a veil (more on that in another post), but I’m not wearing it the whole night. So something pretty.
Wedding Day Timeline
Sorry, hive, for being a bad bee. I’m back to finish off these recaps. Let’s go.
I wanted to quickly share our wedding timeline in order to provide some context to my recaps. Feel free to steal and alter this timeline. It worked great for us—I wouldn’t change a thing. We didn’t feel rushed while getting ready, had plenty of time for photos before our ceremony, and felt like our reception was well timed.
Mr. H and little H enjoy a quiet moment on our wedding day. “Why does the timeline say ‘drop off at dog sitter’ for me?” | Source: personal
A note that this is more of a “people logistics” timeline. Our coordinator set delivery times with our florist/baker/other vendors that aren’t included in this timeline.
Our timeline, for our 4:30 PM ceremony, looked like this: