So I talked a little about my family drama and non-drama.
Ultimately, I decided to uninvite my aunt. It’s OK if you think I am the Worst Person Ever, because I kind of do too. My mom asked me to call my uncle (the only other family member who still really talks to her), who suggested I tell her now that she was no longer welcome—we thought maybe we could tell her if she didn’t stop she wouldn’t be welcome.
I won’t get into the details—it was sucky then and it still isn’t a great feeling, but I called and gave her son a heads up (his reply was, “Oh, yeah, definitely, I was assuming that.”) and then ripped off the Bandaid. I got yelled at a lot, but then it was over and everyone felt better she wasn’t coming. My uncle and I talked to the rest of the their siblings and everyone was super supportive, which also made me feel better. I also gave the venue coordinator a heads up, and one of our guests is a cop, but nothing happened at the reception, so that was good. (If you’re in the same situation, my venue coordinator said they NEVER come.)
But enough of that—there were some other things that went on with the guest list too.
I recently stumbled across an article on Huffington Post entitled “7 Signs You’re at a Millennial Wedding.” This made me think about my last post talking about how I am an older bride. After reading the article, I thought it would be fun to compare and contrast their millennial wedding against Mr. BC and me, who are part of Generation X.
They say: You know you’re at a millennial wedding when you hear about the couple’s engagement via social media.
I say: Disagree! I am pretty sure that almost everyone heard about our engagement through Facebook (with the exception of immediate family and close friends; we called them before posting on FB). I think people of all ages are on Facebook these days; heck, my grandma is on Facebook! Also, we didn’t send our save the dates out until a year after being engaged. FB peeps knew about it like an hour after we got engaged.
They say: You know you’re at a millennial wedding when the couple uses a friend to build a custom wedding website, rather than using a standard template like TheKnot or WeddingWindow.
Hi hive! I am so excited to get back to regular postings, but until I get my pro photos to start my recaps let’s talk about something else. Honeymoons!
Being on the other side now (still amazing), I totally understand the need for one and why people go right after the wedding. The wedding itself is stressful, and it’s a great way to relax and unwind, which I totally understand now. Besides, who wouldn’t want to spend a whole bunch of time with your new spouse smooching and loving life? I get it, I really do. However, we joined the ranks of many bees before us when we decided to delay our honeymoon. Shocker, I know (OK, maybe not). You will understand after this post, I promise!
Mr. Farmer and I decided pretty early where we were going to head for our honeymoon: Bora Bora. There is no place like it in the world, and it was a pretty easy decision for us to make. It was the one place we both wanted to go, and it was the only place either of us considered going. We enjoy traveling and wanted to make sure our honeymoon was a trip of a lifetime, and Bora Bora accomplishes that for us.
How can you say no to this, over water bungalows:
Photo via 8 Things to Do
Well friends, I apologize for being MIA for quite awhile now. These past few months have been a blur, but as things have started to slow down somewhat, I have to come back and make a big announcement. I, Miss Parisian, am not getting married. At least not right now, and not at all to Monsieur P.
There were a lot of things that happened, a lot of feelings to be had, a lot of talks that should or shouldn’t have happened. But the end result is the same—no wedding. And that’s okay! Sometimes, some people are just not meant to marry each other. And some people are better off as friends than a romantic couple. You can’t fit a square peg into a round hole! Like some bees before me (Mrs. Snapdragon and Ms. Fondue, for examples), I’m finding this to be a positive thing—the rainbow after the storm.
Photo from Lamour de Paris
missqueen shows off some photos of her DIY bridesmaids proposal cards. So pretty!
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Like many brides before me, I couldn’t wait to do a post-wedding chop! Brides-to-be often feel the pressure to grow out their hair leading up to the wedding for some preconceived idea of what “bridal hair” should look like. I guess you could say this partly described me (I wanted the gorgeous curly updo as much as the next girl), but really my hair was long to begin with. In fact, I can count on one hand the number of times I have gotten my hair cut (like literally five times in almost 30 years!). Of course we aren’t counting trims of an inch or whatever to keep it healthy and lose the split ends, but you know what I mean.
For me, my hair is my security blanket. It’s tied to my identity. It makes me feel feminine and pretty and maybe if I’m being totally honest, safe. I joke that my hair is like a curtain when it’s long, it just hangs there…but it also gives me something to hide behind, something to shield my emotions. It takes me back to the feeling of being a kid when all was right with the world. I never realized it before, but looking back, every time I cut my hair drastically it was at a time in my life when I was going through a major change (both good and bad.) Maybe I did it because in situations where things were chaotic, it was something I could control. I cut it for the first time in my life the year we were moving back from South Africa, then, the year I graduated college, followed by the year I broke up with my ex (the one before I met Billie), then the year Billie got sick and now this past time following our wedding. It may seem weird, but short hair brings out different emotions in me. It makes me feel strong and powerful. I feel like I’m taking control of my life and shoving myself out there into the world with my face exposed for all to see. Maybe I sound a little nutty, because maybe for you hair is just hair, and you change it all the time, and hey, that’s cool. To each their own!
Pre and Post Chop—all photos personal
I don’t speak Spanish…so yes, I assume that’s wrong, but it’s cute.
Hello hive!! Guess what?? I’m a missus!
I’m sure some of you are thinking…wait, what? You went from crafting to being back from your honey(mini-)moon? And you left us COMPLETELY HANGING?? (Yup, that’s right. I’m assuming you are all hanging on my every word.)
You see, I wrote a blog post the night before our wedding. Yup, I sure did. I was so tired, but I thought to myself, “I’m NOT going to be one of those brides who goes MIA until after her wedding! I WILL do a night before/morning of post!” So I took the time and wrote it, goddammit!
About five months ago, I talked about my inspiration for my hair and makeup for the big day, and I’ve finally been able to try it out! However, before I go into it, here’s a small piece of advice for all brides from Miss Goose: No matter what, ALWAYS GET A CONTRACT!
I’m a certified wedding planner, I know this! I have been diligent about getting extremely detailed contracts from all my vendors. Except my original hairstylist.
She was recommended by one of our other vendors. I did meet with her and discuss what I was looking for, but we never signed anything. I had a funny feeling, but I didn’t push too much. Then, back in June, I called to schedule a time to do a trial, and I found out that she is going to be on vacation during our wedding. So, about two months out, and I hadn’t booked anyone. I was able to stay calm, but I was a bit nervous.
All photos by Ashley Daniell Photography
What has to happen during a wedding to get a reaction like this?
Well, one way to get your audience in stitches during your maid of honor toast is to play a video of the bride and groom dancing to “Call Me Maybe” by Carly Rae Jepsen. Something along these lines: