The Boas got married on May 26, 2012, two and a half wonderful years ago, in an early morning ceremony followed by a brunch reception. We were 22 years old and had just barely finished our college degrees. Though I had read over and over on the internet how we should wait until we were at least 25 if we wanted to have a chance at a successful marriage, I thought our age was no biggie!
The cake was cut, the drinks were flowing, and the dancing was in full swing. In the blink of an eye it was time to play one last song and end the reception I spent so long planning. Our DJ suggested a few songs, but somehow we decided to play our first dance song again, “White Dress” by Ben Rector.
Thank you everyone for all the nice words and compliments on our invitations! My minions and I truly appreciate all the love!
You’re probably tired of hearing me wax poetic about our invitations by now, but I wanted to wrap up Squid invitation week with assembly, a budget recap, and some final thoughts.
Because invitation headquarters was at my parents’ house in New Jersey and we live in NYC, I tried to identify DIY tasks that could be done during the work week in our studio so that we could be super-efficient with our time in New Jersey. Turns out, addressing the outer and inner envelopes and prepping RSVP cards were pretty much the only things that could be done on a TV tray. It actually streamlined the assembly process to have the envelopes pre-addressed with the corresponding RSVP card tucked into each envelope.
I did a bit of research on if there was a proper way to assemble a wedding invitation. I figured some etiquette guru out there had determined the “correct” way to present all the pieces, and sure enough Invitations by Dawn had a handy dandy visual aid.
Well, hive, you guys have heard about some of my wedding planning I’ve accomplished so far, but I never have even told you how Mr. W asked me to be his wife!
WHENEVER I think about this day, or tell the story, I get teary eyed. I cant help it, LOL. So as I type, I can feel the tears welling up in my eyes.
New Year’s Eve rolled around, and Mr. W and I ended up hanging out all day together. His good friend and coworker had gifted us with concert tickets for Christmas so we could all go together. We made plans to meet at dinner beforehand. I was just excited to spend New Year’s with him (since that was our original anniversary date back in 2002). For most of the day we relaxed, watched TV, and had a couple adult beverages. Mr. W had went into work at about 10:00 AM that day, and came home a little after 12:00 noon, which was odd because he said he would be home at about 4:00 PM. He had gotten some bad news at work that he was taken off a special assignment, so he got sent home early. He was bummed about it (but it later became a blessing in disguise). I could tell it still put a slight damper on his mood.
Soon after Mr. Crab proposed, it was obvious that there would have to be another proposal. We would have to ask an officiant, “Will you marry us?”
Although we were both raised in the Catholic tradition, we are not practicing Catholics now. We decided that it worked best for us to be married by someone who knew us both individually and as a couple. Our choice was clear—we would have to ask our friend, MGP, to officiate our wedding.
MGP and Mr. Crab in front of “The Egg” at Empire State Plaza
In addition to being one of the greatest humans on the planet, he’s probably known us the longest as a couple. To top it all off he’s incredibly thoughtful and a poised public speaker.
Before we started on our wedding-planning journey, I had no idea what a wedding website was. But when I found out what it is, and what it could be…I couldn’t WAIT to get started on designing ours.
I knew I wanted four things:
A custom domain name
A way for guests to share/upload photos
A countdown clock or widget
An RSVP section
I was so excited about this task that I proceeded to sign up with every (free) wedding website host I could think of. Even before our wedding date was settled, I had website accounts ready to plug in the wedding weekend information. Right after we put the deposit down at our venue to secure the date, I narrowed the websites down to the top three choices that worked for our needs (and budget!).
Hi, hive. Mrs. Palm Tree here, excited to be back in action as a participant in the “After the Wedding” series. This part’s prompt focuses on what we’ve learned and how we’re different as a couple as well as individuals since being married.
Mr. Palm Tree and I are almost at exactly a year and a half of marriage—my most recent post was our anniversary post from May. If you’re familiar with us, you know that Mr. Palm Tree and I were together for nine years before we were married. It’s safe to say that going into marriage, we knew each other for better or worse.
Personal photo | Mr. Palm Tree and me, Halloween ’06
The first year of marriage was pretty much like every other year we’d spent together: We laughed, we cried, we went on dates, we maintained our individual lives as well as our lives as a couple…nothing out of the ordinary. Sure, we’d refer to each other as “husband” and “wife” in a joking, loving manner because we could, but other than that, I wouldn’t say anything changed. “How’s married life?” people would ask, and I’d respond, “Same as always.”