Soon after Mr. Crab proposed, it was obvious that there would have to be another proposal. We would have to ask an officiant, “Will you marry us?”
Although we were both raised in the Catholic tradition, we are not practicing Catholics now. We decided that it worked best for us to be married by someone who knew us both individually and as a couple. Our choice was clear—we would have to ask our friend, MGP, to officiate our wedding.
MGP and Mr. Crab in front of “The Egg” at Empire State Plaza
In addition to being one of the greatest humans on the planet, he’s probably known us the longest as a couple. To top it all off he’s incredibly thoughtful and a poised public speaker.
Before we started on our wedding-planning journey, I had no idea what a wedding website was. But when I found out what it is, and what it could be…I couldn’t WAIT to get started on designing ours.
I knew I wanted four things:
A custom domain name
A way for guests to share/upload photos
A countdown clock or widget
An RSVP section
I was so excited about this task that I proceeded to sign up with every (free) wedding website host I could think of. Even before our wedding date was settled, I had website accounts ready to plug in the wedding weekend information. Right after we put the deposit down at our venue to secure the date, I narrowed the websites down to the top three choices that worked for our needs (and budget!).
Hi, hive. Mrs. Palm Tree here, excited to be back in action as a participant in the “After the Wedding” series. This part’s prompt focuses on what we’ve learned and how we’re different as a couple as well as individuals since being married.
Mr. Palm Tree and I are almost at exactly a year and a half of marriage—my most recent post was our anniversary post from May. If you’re familiar with us, you know that Mr. Palm Tree and I were together for nine years before we were married. It’s safe to say that going into marriage, we knew each other for better or worse.
Personal photo | Mr. Palm Tree and me, Halloween ’06
The first year of marriage was pretty much like every other year we’d spent together: We laughed, we cried, we went on dates, we maintained our individual lives as well as our lives as a couple…nothing out of the ordinary. Sure, we’d refer to each other as “husband” and “wife” in a joking, loving manner because we could, but other than that, I wouldn’t say anything changed. “How’s married life?” people would ask, and I’d respond, “Same as always.”
One really awesome thing about having a destination wedding at an all-inclusive resort is that my hair and makeup for the wedding day are included! One crap thing about having a destination wedding at an all-inclusive resort is not having a makeup or hair trial in advance of the big day. (Technically I could make an appointment with the resort salon and pay out-of-pocket for a trial, but it’s expensive!)
After spending the last five months with me on Weddingbee, I’m sure it’s a surprise to no one that I am not that girly…I wear yoga pants and flip-flops on the reg, and wear my hair in a ponytail most days. I don’t wear very much makeup; on a (work) daily basis my beauty staples include: 100% Pure argon oil moisturizer with SPF 30, Neutrogena mineral powder foundation, 100% Pure eye shadow in cocoa plum, Revlon Colorstay pencil eyeliner, 100% Pure mascara in blackberry and…well, that’s it. Here’s my normal work face:
Sorry, coworkers! In my defense it was a Monday morning, and I’d slept terribly the night before. I do not know what that white ring on my neck is. Hopefully it’s the light. Yikes!
Yes, I’m still talking about our invitations, concentrating today on the inside bits. This gets fairly technical so I won’t be offended if you choose to skip the words and just look at the pictures.
Design. I designed our invitations in Power Point. I searched far and wide for the perfect fonts and finally settled on Jellyka—Nathaniel a Mystery (the scriptier font) and Artisan12 (the blockier font), both free downloads from DaFont.com. And because I love making things harder for myself in the name of aesthetics, for the Artisan12 font I used only the uppercase letters and denoted the capital letters by using a slightly larger font size. For example, in the picture below the “B” in “BROOKLYN” is in font size 11 and “ROOKLYN” is in font size 9.
Ceremony, ceremony, ceremony. Thinking about our actual wedding day ceremony gives me slight anxiety. I’m so excited to be exchanging vows with the love of my life, and heck, that’s the most important part of the day! So why all the dramatics? Unknown to my friends and family, I am a very private, quiet person. But I’m not an introvert. Kinda strange.
My entire life, I’ve been a competitive dancer, cheerleader, piano player. I’m very used to being in the spotlight. But on the day of the wedding it will be all eyes on me. This terrifies me. I’m painfully goofy, and I laugh and giggle out of embarrassment or to disguise my shyness or being uncomfortable.
Now the problem that I will have with our wedding day is the fact that not only will we have our 350 guests attending, but like I mentioned before, Mr. W’s father is a well known pastor in the city of Detroit. He has friends that are featured on television shows, and he is pretty involved in his church’s COGIC (Church of God in Christ) denomination across the US.