The most important item on our wedding-day timeline is not my hair appointment or even the arrival of our guests. Our wedding-day timeline is being entirely dictated by one thing: the sun! Since we are having our wedding officiated by a rabbi, our ceremony is not able to begin until after Shabbat (Hebrew for Sabbath, or day of rest), which ends at sundown on Saturday.
I used this website to determine the time of sunset on our wedding date: in May, the sun will set in Boston at right around 8:00 PM. This was important for us to take into consideration early on, because it was a major factor in selecting a venue. Some of the venues we considered had very strict rules for when the party had to end, and that just wasn’t going to work for us! With the ceremony starting after eight o’clock, we needed plenty of time to fit in all of the fun we had planned.
We quickly realized that at this time of year, there simply wouldn’t be enough time for a ceremony, cocktail hour, dinner, and reception, all after 8:00 PM, without partying into the wee hours of the morning. The traditional wedding timeline was a bust!
I’m not going to lie, finding our ownway of doing things at our wedding has been important to me us. I absolutely love weddings. I’ve been addicted to Weddingbee far longer than our engagement, and definitely have been planning my wedding for as long as I can remember.
When Pinterest was first introduced, I jumped right on board (no pun intended). Pinterest very quickly was becoming a hub for wedding ideas, and alongside many a woman not yet engaged (or, ahem, single) at the time, I became pinning wedding inspiration ideas.
“That’s so clever” somehow, though, became “That’s so Pinterest!” with time.
In a world filled with so many unique ideas, it can be hard to not overwhelmed by that pressure to be unique too.
When we get married, Mr. Tractor and I will have been engaged for 25 months. Seriously. I Googled it for you, and according to a survey conducted by TheKnot.com and WeddingChannel.com, the average length of an engagement is 13.8 months, with only 7% of people surveyed reporting an engagement of longer than two years. Side note: As I was typing into the search box “average length of…” I suddenly panicked at the potential for unsavory results, but luckily I found only what I was looking for.
When we got engaged, I was in the midst of my first year of two and a half years of grad school, and while plenty of people manage planning a wedding while being a full time student, I wanted to take it easy. The bottom line is, having a long engagement worked for us, and here are some reasons it might work for you too!
I have previously mentioned that we are planning our wedding with a cocktail reception. Way back in 2007, I attended a family wedding that started later in the evening (after dinner), and I absolutely loved it. First of all, we were out-of-town guests that were able to travel down the day of (one night hotel costs versus two nights). Secondly, we got to go out for dinner before the wedding, and then show up ready to party celebrate. Not having an entire Saturday dedicated to the wedding is nice. Summers are precious, and once you hit your late 20s you start going to a lot of weddings.
When Mr. Narwhal and I discussed the idea for us a year or so ago, it became our goal. Whenever we would mention the idea to friends and family they loved it.
Planning your timeline is a little difficult when you’re going outside the norm. So…I figured it would be helpful to share how we came up with our date and timeline.