After my big dress reveal, we did one last makeup touch-up and we were ready to head out. Tip #1 for brides to be. It’s a good idea to have one person (other than yourself) keep track of your purse/makeup bag throughout the day, because if you are anything like me there is so much else going on that you will most definitely walk out without it. The lovely BM Cali was carrying my purse here.
Tip #2. If you know your venue is going to card and the bridesmaids/yourself might not be carrying purses, ask the venue if they can check IDs during the rehearsal instead. That way everyone is good to go the day of the wedding.
Tip #3. Consider putting your lipstick on after your dress so you don’t stain the fabric (or loosely tie a scarf over your face)!
As you may have been able to figure out from my anniversary post, we’ve had a bit of a rough year. Not with our relationship, just with life in general. This series is such a great opportunity for me to reflect back on our vows and a good reminder to always be grateful for what we have, instead of upset about what we don’t.
In the first couple of months after we returned from our honeymoon, I really struggled with communication. I was suddenly very bored (going from two jobs, school, and planning a wedding to just one job gave me a lot more free time), and I was sad and scared about my mother-in-law. I had to remind myself to be good to myself and to be good to Sparky. Once I settled into my new rhythm, I felt better and more able to live up to everything I’d promised.
It’s always easier to be kind when things are going well—it’s much more difficult when things are bad. With this in mind, both Sparky and I made the extra effort to talk and work together, and I’m happy to say that we have really been living our vows.
I already shared our engagement photo shoot with you. Now, here’s what we used the photos for! After a LOT of debate and Photoshop time (sorry, Mr. Coral) we decided to abandon my original save-the-date idea (a watercolor map) and instead go with engagement photos. Honestly, they were too good not to share them. We decided to make a mini-collage of three of our favorite pictures, plus the wedding logo that Mr. Coral designed in Photoshop. It’s really simple, but we just wanted the pictures to stand out.
We ordered them from Vistaprint. Tip: Order postcards from the business marketing section and not the wedding section. They are significantly cheaper. We got 100 cards for less than $20, including our message printed on the back. Make sure you use Ebates (4%!) and Retail Me Not (free shipping!)! We saved a lot with cash back and coupon codes. Plus, my dad gave me a roll of postcard stamps the last time I went home. That made postage free to me! (Thanks, Dad!) So our total out-of-pocket cost was $16.99 (plus 68 cents cash back). That’s way under the $100 that I originally budgeted.
Did you know that there is a difference between “escort” cards and “place” cards? I first learned about the difference between these two things on My Fair Wedding. (Thank you, David Tutera! And thank you to Netflix streaming, without which I never would have heard of this show.)
According to The Wedding Yentas (I seriously love what you can find on the internet!), here is the difference:
Oh, Google…that was my auto fill when internet searching.
Once the girls were all ready it was time for me to get dressed. I waited until the last possible second to put mine on because 1) it was incredibly hot in that thing and 2) I pretty much was incapable of using the restroom in it until after we bustled the train.
Since my mom and the majority of my BMs are also relatively short, we knew that they were not going to be able to pull this monstrosity over my head (as we were instructed to do at the fitting) without completely undoing my hair. So we improvised. We took my slip skirt and shoved it under the dress (the dress basically stood up on the floor on its own at that point), and then I stepped into it from above. Then my mom snuck back out into the other room so that we could take pictures of the great reveal to my dad. My mom was so cute. (That’s the only picture she kept asking me if anyone took after the wedding, a picture of my dad seeing me for the first time. And luckily, my boss was on it and she snapped one for me.)
One of the best wedding decisions we made was to have a Flickr account for guests to upload their photos. I made some business cards through Vistaprint for really cheap and our wedding coordinator put them at each guest’s seat.
Front of the business card; back was directions to the website
I remember other bees saying they didn’t get a whole lot of photos, but I think putting them at each seat really helped with the amount we received.
Almost all of these next pictures come from guests photos. I was way too frazzled to take any pictures myself and it was wonderful to see what our guests were up to all weekend while Mr. CS and I were busy.
Leisurely days at the beach soon gave way to a hectic 48 hours. On the day of the rehearsal I went with a couple of bridesmaids and cousins to get our nails done, then back to the house to give commands gently ask my favorite aunts and uncles for help with some last minute wedding tasks.
Don’t they look so motivated
Before I knew it, it was time to walk down the aisle… for fake.
Gathering in the lobby
Me, Papa CS and our fantastic coordinator Daniella!
CS sisters are hams!
Our coordinator Daniella was all business and fantastic! Getting us to rehearse was similar to herding cats and she did an amazing job. I think we were in and out in about 20 minutes, but everyone knew exactly what they were doing and all questions were answered.
Off to the fun! As previously mentioned, we decided to rent a house in Cape May and host a Pig Roast for all our guests.
Perfect porch for a pig roast!
Did I mention the day before the wedding was also my birthday?
Our guests explored Cape May and found a yard sale. Stuffed birds make a perfect birthday gift.
The pig, all gone!
Our guests raved! about the pig roast. Pappy’s Pigs did a wonderful job of setting everything up and taking it all away. I didn’t have to worry about a thing which makes for a happy bride.
Around 10:00pm, I decided to leave to get my beauty rest and according to guest’s photos this is what happened…
I am so glad that our guests had a great time hanging out together even if I missed the fun. Mr. CS and I hoped that everyone would have a wonderful weekend and maybe see a wedding in-between. Mission accomplished!