When we get married, Mr. Tractor and I will have been engaged for 25 months. Seriously. I Googled it for you, and according to a survey conducted by TheKnot.com and WeddingChannel.com, the average length of an engagement is 13.8 months, with only 7% of people surveyed reporting an engagement of longer than two years. Side note: As I was typing into the search box “average length of…” I suddenly panicked at the potential for unsavory results, but luckily I found only what I was looking for.
When we got engaged, I was in the midst of my first year of two and a half years of grad school, and while plenty of people manage planning a wedding while being a full time student, I wanted to take it easy. The bottom line is, having a long engagement worked for us, and here are some reasons it might work for you too!
I have previously mentioned that we are planning our wedding with a cocktail reception. Way back in 2007, I attended a family wedding that started later in the evening (after dinner), and I absolutely loved it. First of all, we were out-of-town guests that were able to travel down the day of (one night hotel costs versus two nights). Secondly, we got to go out for dinner before the wedding, and then show up ready to party celebrate. Not having an entire Saturday dedicated to the wedding is nice. Summers are precious, and once you hit your late 20s you start going to a lot of weddings.
When Mr. Narwhal and I discussed the idea for us a year or so ago, it became our goal. Whenever we would mention the idea to friends and family they loved it.
Planning your timeline is a little difficult when you’re going outside the norm. So…I figured it would be helpful to share how we came up with our date and timeline.
One random weeknight in 2013, my boyfriend told me he was going to play hockey with his friends, which he typically does about three times a week. A half hour later, he called me saying he forgot his glove and asked if I could please bring it to him. Let me pause the story to tell you that it had been a long day for me. At this point, it was already around 10:30 PM, but I thought about my forgetful yet wonderful boyfriend who gladly did inconvenient favors for me all the time, and I peeled myself off the couch and grumpily drove to the rink to bring him his glove. I arrived in the parking lot, pulled my car over, put my flashers on, and ran up to the doors, expecting to quickly toss him his glove and get back home to my Law and Order. But instead, I opened the doors to this:
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Hearts and love and photos of my face EVERYWHERE! … read more
So once the decision was made, there were quite a few things we had to think about from the get-go. There are also several other things that I’m fairly certain I’m still missing from this list. So, backyard bees, help!
This is the most important piece to consider when you’re getting married at home. You need a place to put everyone. We are very aware that it could potentially rain on our wedding day, so a tent is a must for us.