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My DH is a very outgoing, social person and has many lady friends (most he has known longer than me). Many of them are single, but I have met many of them and they do seem nice. On occasion, a few of them have stayed a night at our house. This is somewhat annoying to me, but I do feel that one night isn’t a problem.
However, one single lady in particular seems to cross the line with me. A few years ago, she wanted to see my husband, so she stayed at our house for a long weekend. I was very uncomfortable about this but respected the fact that they’ve been friends for years. To make matters worse, one night at around 2:00 AM I went to bed, and they stayed up several more hours watching TV together. This caused a huge argument after she left, and afterward my husband apologized.
The real problem now is that DH has asked if she could come stay with us for a week! I don’t feel it’s appropriate for any guest (except family) to stay more than a few days, but to have a single woman stay at our house for a week seems ridiculous. And after their past behavior together, I wouldn’t want her to stay at all! I suggested that she stay with her other friends in the area, but apparently she doesn’t want to stay with them.
I’ve expressed my concerns to my DH, but he says that I’m overreacting. He’s known this woman for several years and feels that since I know her too I shouldn’t have a problem with the situation. He also seems to believe that no one else would find a problem with the situation either. So now I’m upset not just because a single woman wants to stay at my house, but also because my DH is not taking me seriously or understanding where I am coming from.
Am I being ridiculous? Or, if not, how can I get my DH to empathize with me?
And can I just say, it took a bit of an adventure to get them there. Remember in part one where I was going with Vistaprint to do the inserts? That didn’t happen.
You see, Vistaprint ONLY has horizontal layouts available for their flat notecards. And no matter how huge/high-res my files were, they kept uploading slightly blurry. So I scrapped that idea and went with a really highly regarded local print shop instead.
And you know what? It was half the price and done quickly, and it was SO nice to work with an actual person, face to face.
So while the inserts were being printed, I went on another quest: belly bands or the equivalents to go around our pocketfolds. Mr. W and I both loved the look of laser-cut bands, but the price point was a bit ridiculous, so we tossed around a few other options—ribbons, lace, and even fancy paper—before settling on our final pick.
Our initial favorite—sorry bout that blurry photo.
Believe me when I say that there are a lot of things to do in Oahu. Mr. Horseshoe and I ended up seeing half of what we wanted to. Next time! Isn’t that always the case when we go on a holiday?
As you know, we stayed at Aulani, a Disney Resort & Spa in Ko Olina on the west side of the island. We really enjoyed staying in the Ko Olina area. There are many resorts in the area to stay at, and Paradise Cove Luau is a hop and a skip away. There’s also a really nice oceanside pathway outside many of the resorts in Ko Olina. Just be aware of private property versus what you can walk freely across as you explore. There’s also a small shopping area, Ko Olina Station, across the street from Aulani that features many restaurants, small boutiques, and an Island Country Market—a sundry store that has a decent selection of groceries and supplies.
A beautiful view from the marina
We spent our first full day and our last walking from Aulani to the Ko Olina Marina, soaking in the views along the way. Hawaii truly is breathtaking.
As my time on the ‘Bee is winding down, I thought I’d finally do the second half of the questionnaire started by some wonderfulbees before me. My planning journey was quite the roller coaster, filled with extreme highs, and toward the end some pretty looow lows. It was fun for me to look back and see how my answers compare!
Looking off into the distance like, “Oh, Miss Dreamcatcher, if only you knew how tired of wedding planning you’re going to become.”
1. What was your biggest priority for the event?
The closer I got to the wedding, the more I just wanted everyone to have fun. I didn’t have energy left to put into the details, so I was just hoping the food and music would keep the guests happy, ha.
I woke up early on the morning of our wedding, and much to my delight and surprise it was a gorgeous and sunny day. Perhaps because Oahu was all rained out from the prior days, there was no rain left to be had on our wedding day. Either way, it was a good sign for the day ahead.
Our wedding site the morning of
Mr. Eel had already started getting breakfast ready, so I jumped in and helped him with our final tag-team task as an unmarried couple. We weren’t really concerned with traditions like not seeing each other before the ceremony, and seeing him that morning helped to ease my nerves. Everyone else was still waking up, so while we cooked breakfast together we shared an excited “We’re getting married today!”
Like many before us, the Horseshoes decided to visit Oahu, Hawaii for our honeymoon. Best decision ever. Friends kept telling us that it was unlike any other place in the world and that we’d be hooked. Spoiler alert: They were right.
Mr. Horseshoe and I decided to delay our honeymoon by a few weeks after our wedding—definitely a good decision for us. It was nice to settle down and decompress a tiny bit from our wedding before the real relaxation began.
Quicksand roses are definitely a new favourite of mine.
There were also other minor benefits like us being able to enjoy our flowers for a bit longer after our wedding. Our beautiful ceremony “milk jug” pieces lasted a good couple of weeks.
Kicking Off the Wedding Weekend: Beach Wedding Rehearsal
We’ve finally come to the point where I can start the Eel wedding recaps! We received the last of our professional wedding photos, and I can’t wait to share them with you all. But before we get to the actual wedding day, let’s rewind to Thursday, August 18, 2016.
It was an overcast and rainy day, which was not a good sign for our upcoming outdoor Saturday wedding. The forecast was rain for the remainder of the weekend, but I tried to push that out of my mind as we got ready to leave for our beach house. It turned out to be a task that wasn’t very hard to do as there was so much to be excited about waking up that morning—Mr. Eel was officially on vacation, BM C and her husband were flying in from Santa Barbara that morning, and the rest of our wedding party was en route to meet us at the beach house for a weekend sleepover (and not to mention a wedding).
The view from the patio of our beach house on Thursday: The weather left much to be desired, but you can’t go wrong with ocean front property, a hammock, and a crazy beautiful view.
As soon as we all arrived, we cracked open some beers and wine, and kicked off our wedding weekend. It was a relaxed afternoon spent with our closest friends and just what I needed to calm my nerves before our wedding day. That night I took my bridesmaids, mom, and future mother-in-law to dinner at a local restaurant known for their massive prime rib, while Mr. Eel and the boys (his groomsmen, my dad and brother, and my future stepfather-in-law) stayed back at the beach house and ordered pizza.
Let Them Eat Cakes (Eight, That Is): Wedding Cake Buffet
Guys, I finally did it. I picked a wedding cake. Or rather, I picked wedding cakes. Eight of them, to be exact.
As you may remember, I was having a harrrrd time picking the cake. Blame it on my pastry-chef past—it’s not easy putting down a few hundred bucks on something I could do myself (and could do better, in some instances).
But believe it or not, we nailed down flavors—without EVER tasting the cake.
How? Well, I trusted my dad, mom, and sister to do it. And one day, my dad and sis went on a cake tasting, brought back leftovers for my mom, and sent Mr. W and me a VERY detailed email regarding each flavor, along with this shot of the tasting cupcakes.
Cupcakes at the tasting | Photo courtesy of my dad