You probably can’t tell it here, but I write for a living. Mostly advertising/newsletter/sales stuff, but every day I go to work and put (digital) pen to paper for money. And you’d think that’d make writing my wedding vows easy…but the honest truth is, I’m struggling.
In fact, it’s straight-up hard. Hard enough that I sometimes wish for a religious ceremony with a set script. And I take comfort in knowing Mr. W isn’t done with his either, but still…I should have this one in the bag!
Here’s the REALLY ridiculous thing: I’ve been working on my vows since October. I actually started writing them on a work retreat to Joshua Tree.
Not pictured: The horrifying snake that slithered through our picnic.
Lura and Ryan were wed in a gorgeous intimate mountain wedding at Lee Valley in Virgin, Utah. The wedding party wore shades of gray and beige with beautiful pops of red. The couple celebrated their nuptials with close friends and family at a Western themed restaurant in Springdale, Utah.
Bride’s Name: Lura Groom’s Name: Ryan Venue: Ceremony at Lee Valley, Kolob Terrace, Virgin, Utah; Reception at Bit and Spur Restaurant, Springdale, Utah Wedding Date: December 21, 2016 Bridal Gown Designer: David’s Bridal Shoes: Tony Lama Boots Florist: DIY from saveoncrafts.com Photographer: Red Desert Studios and Rori Glover Catering: Bit and Spur Restaurant Stationery: moo.com Bridesmaids’ Dresses: Azazie Menswear: theblacktux.com Honeymoon: Monterrey and Matacanes, Mexico
After having a bit of a restless night, I woke up on W.M. (Wedding Morning) well before my alarm. I spent some time alone in prayer, took a long shower, and blow dried my hair at a leisurely pace. It felt lovely to not be rushed.
My shoes—and sixpence—were also ready to do this thing.*
A little before 9:00 AM, my mom arrived and we walked across the street to get pretty while my sister finished up with the bouquets. I had my hair done first, and Krista, my stylist, gave me the nicest compliment ever when she exclaimed, “What product did you use today?! It feels like a different head of hair!!” (The product in question is Living Proof’s Full, a thickening mousse that really does wonders. HIGHLY recommended.)
With T-minus 51 days till the wedding, Mr. W and I have been plugging away at that tedious to-do list, pretending to care about all the little details that are “so important,” and nailing stuff down. I mean, admittedly, over the last week, I’ve spent more time sleeping off the world’s worst sinus infection than doing wedding stuff, but still…
And instead of drawing all of that out into individual posts, here’s a bullet-point style update of all the crap important stuff we’ve done over the last few weeks (with a picture or two, to boot!).
1. We bought wedding bands! One weekend day, we got our act together, went and got Mr. W. sized, and got a sense of what we liked. Of course, jewelry store prices are expensive, and neither of us wanted super pricey wedding bands, so once we had a sense of what we liked, we shopped online.
Long ago, we decided that my sister and I would make our own bouquets. Going through a florist is hella expensive, and with just two* of us, I figured we could handle it. I didn’t really care about flowers as long as they were white and pretty.
The final product of my long-suffering sister’s labor | Photo by RRG Wedding
Backtracking a little to Thursday, the morning of my bachelorette: my sister and I went out to get white flowers and greenery. (Side note: This is super cheap. We spent less than $50 for a ton of flowers.) We brought them home and arranged them into bouquets, taped them up, and put them (in water) in my bedroom, which always stays cooler than the rest of the apartment.
Anjie and Angelo held an elegant and timeless wedding ceremony in the beautiful 19th century Anglican church in St. Kilda, Australia. They celebrated tying the knot with a classic, sophisticated reception at a nearby hotel.
After my sister and I came home from the bachelorette on Friday, we got right to work getting everything packed up and ready to go downtown. My parents were so gracious in loading up the cars with luggage and décor boxes while I showered and repacked my bag for the next two days.
And Benjamin, you ask? Ben was HUNGOVER AF. Apparently, his ex-coworker had pulled the ol’ “when you see his drink empty, bring another” trick with the server the previous night.
And like a lot of couples, we have a few Valentine’s Day traditions…but here’s the thing. We don’t go out to eat. We don’t go to the movies. We don’t buy each other gifts. We don’t even do flowers (but he’ll often bring some home on the 15th, because hello cheap arrangements!).
So what do we do? Honestly, it’s pretty basic. And it’s not much different than other nights. We cook dinner together, and we plan some big-ticket fun dates throughout the year. I’m talking about concerts, plays, and other stuff we need to set aside funds for.
It’s kinda like the Valentine’s Day that keeps on giving…eight or so ultra-romantic dates THROUGHOUT the year.
Plus, it’s a fun way to focus on us, without the pressure of getting dolled up and being “on” after a long day at work, or worrying about a reservation at a restaurant that’ll inevitably be overcrowded and stretched thin.