Weddingbee

Sorry for the lack of updates this weekend! It was crazy busy - I attended a Mika Inatome fashion show/party Friday night, Bridal Market was all day Saturday, and Miss Butterfly’s bridal shower was yesterday.

Lots of stories to tell, but I’ll give you one highlight for now. I was at the Michelle Roth/Henry Roth fashion show on Saturday when someone from Martha Stewart walked by, looked at my name badge and said, “I love weddingbee!”

Ah yes. It takes so little to make me happy.

Am I the only one that’s had a nightmare about things going wrong at someone else’s wedding?

One night was the Mother of the Groom (my friend’s mom who is INCREDIBLY conservative) getting completely drunk at the rehearsal dinner and sick to the point she couldn’t attend the wedding.

Another was that the bachelorette party had taken place in a different country and the bride flew first class so she made it back, but the bridesmaids were all stranded there. (first class typically flies the same plane as coach so that one didn’t even make sense)

Another was that I’d been asked to do something in the wedding (not even sure what) and I left for the wedding wearing the wrong dress and had to stop along the way to buy one but no stores were open.

Becky H

Today I received the following comment on one of my posts:

I get so torn with these posts. On one hand, they’re so cute and affordable and do make a great gift.

On the other hand, will there be (is there?) a post from any vendor who sends you info? It makes the blog feel less about individual brides’ planning processes and more like a sales pitch.

This was my response:

we get emails every single day from vendors that want us to feature their products. when we feature products, it’s ones that we genuinely like and think the weddingbee readers might like. we never ever get paid or receive some sort of benefit for featuring a particular product. there is no pay for play.

we work very hard to keep that line clear.

I know the commenter had the best of intentions, and that her question was totally fair. But to tell you the truth, I felt a little sad because I wondered if people ever doubt my/weddingbee’s editorial integrity.

Read more…

Mrs. Bee here.

Yesterday Miss Apple brought up the topic of prenuptial agreements, so today let’s talk about another legal document - the will.

Mr. Bee and I have been talking lately about having wills made. He has some stock to take care of, while I have massive debt to bequeath. It’s something that we seriously started considering now that we’re married.

Are you and your significant other planning on creating wills?

sadylady - An outdoor Oregon affair.

AlmostMrsScott - A Shreveport celebration.

kiwifruit - Green and white themed New York nuptials.

In today’s beehive:

• Jelly is not having an engagement party until March so she is wondering if sending out engagement announcements is common these days as she’s never received one.
• lanamia and her boyfriend want to move in together to save money for a wedding. Her mom thinks she’s cuckoo for coco puffs and thinks it’s setting a bad example for other family members. Did you live with your SO before getting married? Any advice on how to solve this problem?
• Tea is looking for oversized cardstock 8 1/2×14 or 11×17 etc. where she doesn’t have to pay per sheet.
• Jessi’s MOH highly recommended a DJ, but she was a little weirded out when he told her to come hear him at an actual wedding reception and stand in the back and
  “spy.” Has anyone else ever done this?
• Jenn’s still looking for a place to get an affordable straight perm in ny.
• Jenn’s mom is throwing her a bridal shower with mostly her church friends as guests. Any suggestions for favors?
• minapoly is considering hiring a day of coordinator and is wondering if she needs to provide a dinner seat for her.

To add your question to the beehive, leave a comment below and we’ll update this post to include your question. See all past beehives here.

Mrs. Bee here.

Our last reader buzz was about cheating nightmares - I guess everyone has them! Now I don’t feel like such a freak!

So yesterday I was reading my friend’s astrology advice blog ElsaElsa, and she had a great post about a cheating spouse. It was about a woman who was happily married for twelve years with two children. She recently discovered that her frequently travelling husband had had numerous affairs. His defense was that all men do it, it’s natural, it meant nothing, and that it was just sex. She doesn’t think he’s going to stop and the worst part is, she’s trying to figure out what she did wrong.

Now I’m not going to deny that I’ve imagined myself in this type of scenario a million times - even long before I met Mr. Bee. Could I forgive a cheating spouse? I know the answer is not so black and white when you’ve been together so long and especially when children are involved. But I really don’t think I could.

In today’s hive:

• M is looking for information on renting a wedding dress in the New York area.
• Pam’s 2 flowergirls are wearing qi paos down the aisle. Do you think it’ll look weird if the ringbearer wears a tux? She’s having trouble finding an appropriately formal Chinese outfit for him. And it looks ok when the bride wears a qi pao and the groom stays in his tux?
• Chris is looking for photographer suggestions in the LA/OC area.
• Becky’s friend is looking for creative centerpiece ideas and pictures that don’t use flowers or candles for a Catholic Church.
• Beth wants to know the appropriates ages for flower girls and ringbearers. Her flower girl is is 8.
• Mrs. M got married over two months ago and hasn’t received gifts from some of her guests (mostly single male friends). She’s not sure if they didn’t give a gift or whether it got lost in the shuffle. What’s the etiquette on bringing this up, or should she bring it up at all?
• jenn is looking for korean salons that do amazing, affordable straight perms in nyc.

To add your question to the beehive, leave a comment below and we’ll update this post to include your question. See all past beehives here.

Mrs. Bee here.

Sometimes I’ll have a nightmare where Mr. Bee cheats on me, and I wake up mad at him. Mr. Bee doesn’t see how this is fair. But I have the most vivid dreams of anyone I know - I swear it just seems so real!

Have you ever had a dream that your significant other cheated on you, and woke up angry at him?

ladyred7 - This was actually the first knottie bio we ever featured. She’s married now!

Smooshie - Colorful Canadian Celebration.

hmwende - Purple and orange themed Baltimore nuptials.