My sister, MOH Curls, has a tendency to exaggerate about some of my not-so-fine points, so if you find yourself in conversation with her, just keep that in mind. Little sisters, right? She likes to remind me that I “hate kids.” And this is not true. I don’t hate kids, I’m just not very good with kids. I’m not Robin Scherbatsky or anything, but I just feel like I don’t connect with them very well.
My sister and I used to tag-team babysit sometimes, and I was always in charge of preparing their dinner and making sure they got to bed on time and that we didn’t leave a mess behind. She was the one that played games and kept them entertained. But I’m only human female, and precious little kids will give me some pretty hardcore baby fever and that’s something I’m trying to keep at bay for a little while! I feel like I’m getting better at interacting with kids—being a cast member at Disney World will do that to you—but I’m not really around children in my life.
Suffice it to say, we won’t be having any children at the wedding. It’s not because I don’t like kids, it’s just that we really don’t know any.
That also means no flower girl or ring bearer. None of our family members have children yet, but a couple of his friends do (including one groomsman). We thought about including the groomsman’s son as a ring bearer, but he would still be a little young and the only child in attendance, and we didn’t want the parents to have to worry about him all night. And anyone else we thought of would have been a stretch, and I didn’t think it was worth it.
So we just skipped right over the decision that some people go through about children “ruining” a wedding. Crying during the ceremony, taking over the dance floor, sticking fingers in the cake (a crime committed by MOH Curls at our aunt’s wedding back in the day!)—I think these would all be worth the risk if we had tiny cousins, nieces, nephews, or godchildren. Showing them the pictures when they grow up or sharing the stories of the day would be worth it even if there were some misbehaving.
So in general, we are just applying a blanket rule of an adults-only reception. There shouldn’t be any issues there, since this all started because there aren’t many children in our circle, and none of our traveling guests have children.
I do get a little pang of regret when I see adorable dresses and suits on flower girls and ring bearers, that we won’t have any of that cuteness included. But I really didn’t want to force it with children we only slightly know.
On the plus side, I don’t need to worry about another set of outfits, flower girl basket, ring pillow, signs, and kids’ activities at the reception. I’m all for taking this off of my list!
Did you have any little ones in your wedding or did you skip them? Anybody else get to wedding planning and realize they don’t know any youngsters?
- New Orleans, LA
- Petroleum Engineer
- Wedding Date:
- May 2014
- St. Francis of Assisi Church & N.O. Board of Trade