Weddings take a lot of stuff. Just ask my dining room. With three days to go, boxes and bags of wedding gear have taken over the place where we have candlelit dinner every night ‚Ä¶room we don‚Äôt really use anyway.
And the thing is, we didn‚Äôt budget for any of this stuff. I mean, there were generic line items in our budget for things like ‚Äúdecor‚ÄĚ and ‚Äúattire,‚ÄĚ but I never put much thought into the specifics of what we‚Äôd need to buy up in the weeks leading to the wedding. I just wrote $500 next to decor. It seemed like enough.
Spoiler alert: It was not enough. Here are some of the things that we‚Äôve recently shelled out for to complete our wedding day:
So…I‚Äôm getting married this weekend! To say we‚Äôve been busy is an understatement. There have been lots of little details and decisions happening the past few weeks, and I‚Äôll embellish on all of it in time. For now, here‚Äôs the final countdown.
I thought planning a wedding would be the best time of my life. The celebration, the details, the crafting: I live for this stuff. And yet, I‚Äôve spent the later part of¬†our engagement resenting our wedding.
First of all, let me say this: I don‚Äôt feel anything but joy for our marriage.¬†I love Rooster, and committing to¬†spending every day with him is the most natural and exuberant thing in the world to me. But when it comes to The Wedding, I‚Äôve been feeling a bit lost.¬†When we were first engaged 17 months ago, I¬†anticipated spending a modest amount on a very practical party.¬†For me, it would be all about the marriage. But somewhere along the way, I got caught up in weddings. I spent most of the time battling between what I could do and what I wanted to do, and I‚Äôll admit that I lost sight of our practical goals. Or maybe I just recognized that the pomp meant more to me than I‚Äôd imagined in the first place.
Our small wedding turned into a big¬†drain on our time, our thoughts, and our wallets. And if I‚Äôm being totally honest, I began to resent it. I‚Äôve heard newlywed brides say that after their own hectic days were done and behind them, they wished they‚Äôd just eloped, and I certainly expected to feel the same way. I never expected, however, to feel that way¬†before the wedding was even here.
After our first looks, it was time for the ceremony. Except for the heat and a stifling humidity, the weather was beautiful. Fluffy white clouds in a mostly blue sky defied the predictions of torrential rain and strong winds.
Mr. U and I opted for a Jewish-ish ceremony. I say ‚Äúish‚ÄĚ because it wasn‚Äôt entirely traditional. We didn‚Äôt have a chuppah‚ÄĒmostly because my DIY attempt at making one was the most epic of failures. Instead, we made do with the venue‚Äôs gazebo. We did, however, provide custom yarmulkes for the gentlemen to wear. Mr. U even designed a cute logo for the inside.
The inside of our yarmulkes (aka kippahs) / Personal photo. Logo by Mr. Unicorn.
There‚Äôs apparently a fine line between ‚ÄúOh that‚Äôs so interesting!‚ÄĚ and ‚ÄúWhat the heck was she thinking?!‚ÄĚ
Thanks to our small budget and pseudo-hispter desire to do things a little out of the norm, Roo and I have been coming up with creative solutions for our wedding. Things like serving food from a food truck and popsicles instead of cake. So I‚Äôve been trying to think outside of the proverbial ‚Äúbox‚ÄĚ when it comes to decor, too.
Already in the works for table decorations are crafty DIY projects involving dollar store candles, plastic succulents, and gold spray paint—a trio I realize sounds crazy, but I‚Äôm totally confident will look incredible. What I‚Äôm not so confident about? Kraft paper table runners.
Something I‚Äôve learned about weddings as a bride is that they‚Äôre not about you. They‚Äôre about family. The family you‚Äôre creating by marrying your beloved. And the family and community that has supported each of you along the way.
There‚Äôs never a good time to lose someone close to you. But some times seem harder than others.
I think I can speak for both Mandy and I when I say that our amazing hosts did an incredible job of honoring us. Roo‚Äôs sisters Amy and Wendy, along with his Aunt Diann, coordinated a colorful brunch shower that was so full of love and laughter that I don‚Äôt think either of us will ever forget it.
Ponytails and pops of color. That‚Äôs what I was after for my wedding-day look. Inspired by Olivia Palermo‘s bridal style, I wanted hair that was laid-back and a little messy, with dramatic eyes and a bit of bright color on my lips.
So how did my trial go?
Even after years running a blog and promoting my personal brand on social media, I still feel a little strange just talking about myself. Weirder still is posting a bunch of photos of my face and asking you guys to comment on it. But it‚Äôs important to share things like a bridal beauty trial, especially for the brides looking to find advice for working with hair and makeup artists. For me, it helps to remember we‚Äôre talking about a hairstyle and makeup and not the hair and face beneath it.
So‚Ä¶here‚Äôs my face. The makeup on my face here was done by the lovely and talented Brielle Brenner.