Two days until our wedding day launch found me back under my parents’ roof for the last time as a single lady. I had just spent the previous week in Alabama running a debate camp for high school kids, so describing myself as “wiped out” has to be the understatement of the year. MOH K could probably tell how exhausted I was in the days leading up to our wedding, and so she put together an amazing girls spa day for me and Bridesmaid E on Thursday. My other two bridesmaids were not set to arrive from Georgia until Friday morning and late Friday night respectively, so I didn’t really want a big bachelorette party that they would get left out of.
But Mr. Blue Moon did bowling and drinks with his boys the weekend before, and I really wanted one last day of singlehood, hanging out with MOH K, who I have been best friends with for 18 years, and E, Mr. Blue Moon’s little sister who I’ve basically watched grow up. A spa day was a great way to spend time with my hometown ladies and knock out some of our pre-wedding to-dos.
Geared up for a perfect day / Personal Photo
We started the morning at a salt cave, which I had actually never heard of until MOH K raved about going to her first one. We have two near our hometown, and MOH K booked an appointment at Serenity Salt Cave at 10:00 AM.
I’ve been to a ton of bachelorette parties over the past five years and had some seriously good times. Open bars in NYC during Fleet Week. Rowdy house parties. Surprisingly, not one trip to Vegas (yet)!
Plans for my own bachelorette party didn’t materialize right away, which was expected since MOH R lives out of state. I was on the fence about having one anyway because I’m not keen on going out anymore, and the burden of planning a bachelorette, rehearsal dinner, welcome lunch, and a wedding by myself was going to be too much.
Enter Friend M, who loves getting people together, is a planner, and is an overall wonderful person. She offered to host my bachelorette at her apartment and plan everything for 13 ladies to take a wine tasting trip to Woodinville, Washington. I’m not sure if I can put into words how grateful and lucky I feel to have found a friend like her.
We started our day at Friend M’s apartment, with an assortment of cheeses and pastries plus mimosas. I grabbed a few quick photos of the decor while we were waiting for everyone to arrive.
I’m super excited to be writing this post because I believe MOH A and I have officially finalized (well, mostly) the Ice Cream Sundae bachelorette!
Since the engagement, I have had many ideas floating around regarding what I wanted to do to celebrate. I’m definitely not huge on the night life scene, so I was able to rule that out early on. I knew that I first had to decide on the location, though, because a party in Syracuse was going to be quite different than one in San Francisco.
Originally, I wanted to do some sort of a boat trip with the ICS maids in San Francisco. Thankfully, they were all on board with flying out and actually were the ones who originally suggested it. But after I priced some things out, I just couldn’t shake the guilt of having them spend all that money for such a potentially short trip.
I saw this photo (see below) on Amanda Stanton’s (yes, from The Bachelor) Instagram, and thought it looked like SO much fun. I loved the idea of doing a boat trip with the girls on a big yacht, where you could just lounge and relax all day.
After we finished all the bridal shower fun, we left for the next surprise. The girls planned the entire bachelorette party night while keeping me in the dark, thus why I was making this face:
The house was decorated from top to bottom in streamers, photos of everyone in the wedding party, signs, balloons, and props for photos! And of course…typical bachelorette party paraphernalia in a certain shape. 😉
My amazing ladies planned lots of fun activities, and my stomach definitely hurt from laughing so hard. One highlight of the evening was our “plant the kiss” game. Which is the equivalent of pin the tail on the donkey…but with Tony Stark’s handsome face.
Or, as I originally titled this post, “My Spectacular Pseudo Bridal Shower/Bachelorette Thingy.”
The clock to the Puffer Wedding is winding down at an alarmingly quicker pace each day. One of our “sh*t just got real” moments was when we switched from counting down months to weeks until the wedding. We have a huge to-do list left that seems to be growing rather than shrinking. Nearly every conversation we have with each other, with family, with friends—even with strangers—is about the wedding, and the subject matter has started boring even me. I think Puff and I are both at the let’s-just-get-it-over-with-already stage of wedding planning.
But along the way, we’ve had a lot of fun with our wedding. My recent Saturday with the girls was definitely one of the highlights.
It is now October, which means I am just a few weeks shy of my wedding. Thanks so much for following along if you have been. As you might have noticed, my blogging will become a bit sporadic as we get into this final stretch. But I promise that I’ll get to all the fun details in time!
As for right now, I’m fresh from an amazing weekend with my closest friends and I can’t wait to tell you all about it.
I went into this weekend knowing next to nothing about what was planned. I had a round-trip bus ticket to New York from Boston and an address for an Airbnb in DUMBO, but that was the extent of what I was prepared for. When I got to the location on Saturday afternoon I was surprised and delighted with this:
I am not a typical bachelorette person. They’re just not my thing. Both Mr. Narwhal and I wanted to have a carefree outing with our friends before our wedding, and while this would be typically considered as a bachelorette/bachelor party—we were pretty adamant on them not becoming a big deal or a costly imposition. This isn’t to say that we have something against people choosing to do this, but because of how we felt about them, we didn’t want it to become a big deal for our wedding party, when our goal was to just spend time with them.
Mr. Narwhal and his wedding party went on a four day intense camping trip three weeks before the wedding. They had an absolute blast, and GM Duffy even flew from BC to surprise Mr. Narwhal the morning they left. All I know about the trip is that the portages were extreme, the weather was unreal, they heard wolves howling several nights, and they had way too much fun.
For my party, we were at a bit of a loss at first. All I knew was that I wanted something simple that didn’t involve penis paraphernalia or going to the bar. We had a little bit of an issue figuring out a location, so I suggested that it would just be much easier/simpler/inexpensive to host it at my family cabin on the river. Summers are busy, and two weeks out from the wedding I made it clear to everyone that there would be no hard feelings to anyone that could not make the trip to be part of our girls’ night. I just wanted an old school girls’ night sleepover with a day in the sun, followed by a bonfire and late night girl talk.
Happy fall, everyone! I will (finally) give in to pumpkin-flavored everything. I love summer so much that it’s hard for me to accept that fall is here, even though it is a chilly 52 degrees. I seriously refuse to even drink pumpkin beer until summer is officially over…whew, anyway!
On to wedding things! I have been referring to my bridesmaids’ dress find in a few different posts, and I thought it was about time I just came out with the whole story and let you all in on the not-so-secret secret. So my plan as soon as Mr. Ray and I were engaged was to let my bridesmaids decide on their bridesmaids’ dresses in a general color palette as these cute little bowls from Anthropologie (random, I know). I thought they could choose, and maybe even reuse dresses from other occasions, and everything would just go so easily and well together.
This is a little bit random, but I wanted to share some ideas for a bachelorette party scavenger hunt. I have found myself looking on Pinterest many times for different friends’ bachelorette scavenger hunts, and it would be nice if they were all in one place. So, here are some ideas. And a free printable!