For me personally, working out can feel like a chore. A treadmill doesn’t magically inspire me, and those weight benches just plain scare me. However, over the years, I’ve come up with ways to work out that are fun. … read more
Nothing can make or break a wedding reception like the best man’s speech. Too much talking and rambling will bore the guests to tears, but a well-timed speech can make for an experience that the newlyweds and all the guests will be talking about for years to come. … read more
While the girls were spending hours getting ready, Mr. Dreamcatcher and Company were sleeping in and livin’ the easy life. Mr. D woke up in our home, had a leisurely breakfast, and headed to the hotel at Linden Hall. He checked into the room we’d be staying that night and waited for the rest of the guys to arrive. I don’t have a ton else to say because, well, I wasn’t there. But judging from all the pictures we have of hugs and silly faces, I’d say they had a nice morning too.
Yes, we had a big wedding party, and I wouldn’t have it any other way! The wedding party was a bit of a debate for a few days between Mr. S and me. I was worried that we weren’t supposed to have such a big wedding party with such a small guest list. I kept reading all these articles about what percentage your wedding party should make up of the total guests at your wedding, and I would relay the information to Mr. S. Finally, after a few days of talking about it, he said to me:
“Look, I don’t care what ‘they’ say we are supposed to do, we are going to have who we want to have in our wedding party. These guys have been a huge part of my life, and I want them standing next to me on the most important day of my life. I really don’t care how many of them I’m supposed to pick—they all have to be there. These are my people.”
And I was kind of like…”Whoa, yeah, you’re right.”
I got so caught up in all the rules of weddings I forgot to look at the bigger picture. I knew that it meant so much more to the two of us to have our closest loved ones in our wedding party than it did following some percentage rule. So after that brief argument conversation was over, we agreed to have the people who had been through so much with each of us, many of them for our entire lives, and forget the percentage/numbers requirements.
You know what I love about getting married in 2016? A lot of “traditions” are fairly optional anymore. Nowadays, there isn’t a ton of side-eye for less-than-typical bridal parties, like ours. Thankfully, many brides and grooms before me have paved the way, making uneven numbers and various genders pretty common. From my last post you can gather I have two “bridesmen,” which is simply my male version of a bridesmaid. Microscope and Coaster have been two of my best friends since elementary school. We were pretty cool kids.
You’re welcome for those embarrassing awesome pictures. These gentlemen are two of the most important men in my life, and giving them a special role in our wedding was very important to me.
Umbrellas make great favors. They also make great accessories for yourself and your bridesmaids and groomsmen (you’ve seen all of those parasol shots on Pinterest, haven’t you?). Best of all, if you customize them yourself, they’ll match your color scheme while giving your guests a lasting reminder of your special day that they can actually use. … read more
Symmetry. Aesthetic balance. Yin and yang. When it comes to the wedding party, Mr. Puffer pictured the two of us with a uniform number of attendants so we didn’t look unbalanced. Then reality set in.
I’m an introvert, which means I’m just not interested in having dozens of friends. So I told Puff I wanted us to have one attendant each. He had seven groomsmen picked out. And he wasn’t too eager to budge. I had to up my bridesmaid count. In other words, I had to add some yin to his yang.
Long before we were engaged, Mr. Puffer and I talked about marriage and found we agreed on nearly every aspect. We shared similar thoughts on what we wanted from our partner, the life we’d build with one another, and what we’d have to do to get there. We even shared a similar vision of our wedding: simple, short, and small.
It’s funny how a word like “small” can be wildly misinterpreted.
Here are a few fun facts about me: I’m an introvert. I hate being the center of attention. I have, unfortunately, attended far more funerals than weddings. I never thought I’d get married and, to be honest, never really wanted a wedding. And did I mention that I’m an introvert?