Let’s start out this post with a little game. Raise your hand if you’ve ever been to a wedding where your view of the bride and groom at a wedding ceremony was blocked because someone was holding up an iPhone trying to take a picture? OK, now raise your hand if you’ve ever been the person holding up your iPhone trying to take a picture of the bride and groom during their wedding ceremony. I guarantee you raised your hand to the first question, and you may have not raised your hand to the second question out of shame, but it was fun playing. Point is, we want an unplugged wedding.
Photo by Nora & Troy at Aurora-Photography.com
As I mentioned, it is getting beyond ridiculous now how many people are taking photos of wedding ceremonies on their phones. At the weddings we go to, we refuse to take photos during the ceremony and try to only take minimal photos at the reception, and usually those are just of us looking nice. It’s incredibly annoying to see a dozen people holding their hands up in the air holding a phone trying to take a picture during the exchanging of rings or the first kiss. It blocks everyone else’s view and looks ridiculous.
Soon after Mr. Crab proposed, it was obvious that there would have to be another proposal. We would have to ask an officiant, “Will you marry us?”
Although we were both raised in the Catholic tradition, we are not practicing Catholics now. We decided that it worked best for us to be married by someone who knew us both individually and as a couple. Our choice was clear—we would have to ask our friend, MGP, to officiate our wedding.
MGP and Mr. Crab in front of “The Egg” at Empire State Plaza
In addition to being one of the greatest humans on the planet, he’s probably known us the longest as a couple. To top it all off he’s incredibly thoughtful and a poised public speaker.
Ceremony, ceremony, ceremony. Thinking about our actual wedding day ceremony gives me slight anxiety. I’m so excited to be exchanging vows with the love of my life, and heck, that’s the most important part of the day! So why all the dramatics? Unknown to my friends and family, I am a very private, quiet person. But I’m not an introvert. Kinda strange.
My entire life, I’ve been a competitive dancer, cheerleader, piano player. I’m very used to being in the spotlight. But on the day of the wedding it will be all eyes on me. This terrifies me. I’m painfully goofy, and I laugh and giggle out of embarrassment or to disguise my shyness or being uncomfortable.
Now the problem that I will have with our wedding day is the fact that not only will we have our 350 guests attending, but like I mentioned before, Mr. W’s father is a well known pastor in the city of Detroit. He has friends that are featured on television shows, and he is pretty involved in his church’s COGIC (Church of God in Christ) denomination across the US.
In the months leading up to our wedding day, I started dreaming about a flower petal aisle runner. A few weeks before the wedding, though, I admitted to all of you that I wasn’t sure I was going to finish the aisle runner in time.
Spoiler alert: I didn’t.
But I did get far enough along to write up some instructions in case you want to attempt this yourself!
We took a brief photo-taking break where we all chilled out in front of some fans and drank lots of water. Our guests arrived and were greeted by some of our cousins/greeters. They were given this program (edited for you lovely hive), and they were asked to participate in our ring warming ceremony before taking their seats.
One of the things we did this weekend was sit down with our pastor and come up with the final ceremony layout. Some of the things we discusses were readings, vows and non-religious add-ins (like honoring our parents and whether we wanted to do some sort of unity ceremony).
Billie and I have been discussing whether or not we want to do a unity ceremony for some time now, so let me share the options we considered with all of you, lovely internet readers!
You might remember that a few months ago, I was totally freaking outmildly concerned about our ceremony space.
After some conversations about using the hotel ballroom for our ceremony and one quick look at our ever-expanding guest list, Mr. MC and I decided the hotel ballroom was definitely not going to work for us.
I’m a girl who has to have personal space—a little leg room, fresh air to breathe, and no one else’s sweat on my body and I’m good to go—and I assume our guests feel the same. We could squeeze our guests into the ballroom, but it wouldn’t be comfortable. And we want our guests to be as comfortable as possible.
With maximum guest comfort in mind, Mr. MC and I set out to find a new, affordable ceremony venue. But after a few weeks of searching and looking at every venue I could possibly find within 10 miles of our ceremony, I was feeling a little like Goldilocks. Everything was either too small or too expensive.