Next up, my mom did a reading. She gave me the hard copy of her reading, but unfortunately, who has the time to transcribe pages and pages of text? What’s funny is that as soon as Pastor York called her up to the altar and she opened her portfolio thing, Mr. BC turned to me and whispered: “Oh no, your mom’s got a book!” and I started dying laughing. My mom is known for being a talker (but she is always entertaining). She wrote her speech herself and broke it up into two parts; a part dedicated to my side of the family, and a part dedicated to Mr. BC and his side of the family. She made mention of the tree analogy (lives growing separately, and then intertwining, and growing together) that Miss Hammerhead talked about recently. On to the photos!
I know that people spend a lot of time writing their wedding ceremony. Um, we didn’t. Pastor York had two versions of the ceremony: traditional and contemporary. We chose contemporary and told him that we also had personalized vows (in addition to the traditional ones), and I told him that my mom wanted to do a reading. Voila…our ceremony was “crafted.”
Here was our ceremony text with some photos thrown in.
Welcome! Good afternoon. We are gathered here today in the presence of family and friends, to celebrate one of life’s greatest moments. We are here to give recognition to the worth and beauty of love, and to add our best wishes and blessings to the words that will unite Kelly and Timothy in Holy Matrimony.
So, I missed this entire part of the ceremony (obviously, because I was tucked away), so all my commentary is based off the photos. I had done an order of procession, but I guess the resort doesn’t do that sort of thing. All of our wedding guests, our parents, plus Mr. BC and his BM & GM met at the Martini Bar, and got walked over to the ceremony site. (I think MOH M and MB L went separately. Although, who knows…)
The boys were taking selfies at the Martini Bar!
Personal photo | Boys at the Martini Bar before the ceremony. That’s my cousin in the background. hehe
Let’s start out this post with a little game. Raise your hand if you’ve ever been to a wedding where your view of the bride and groom at a wedding ceremony was blocked because someone was holding up an iPhone trying to take a picture? OK, now raise your hand if you’ve ever been the person holding up your iPhone trying to take a picture of the bride and groom during their wedding ceremony. I guarantee you raised your hand to the first question, and you may have not raised your hand to the second question out of shame, but it was fun playing. Point is, we want an unplugged wedding.
Photo by Nora & Troy at Aurora-Photography.com
As I mentioned, it is getting beyond ridiculous now how many people are taking photos of wedding ceremonies on their phones. At the weddings we go to, we refuse to take photos during the ceremony and try to only take minimal photos at the reception, and usually those are just of us looking nice. It’s incredibly annoying to see a dozen people holding their hands up in the air holding a phone trying to take a picture during the exchanging of rings or the first kiss. It blocks everyone else’s view and looks ridiculous.
Soon after Mr. Crab proposed, it was obvious that there would have to be another proposal. We would have to ask an officiant, “Will you marry us?”
Although we were both raised in the Catholic tradition, we are not practicing Catholics now. We decided that it worked best for us to be married by someone who knew us both individually and as a couple. Our choice was clear—we would have to ask our friend, MGP, to officiate our wedding.
MGP and Mr. Crab in front of “The Egg” at Empire State Plaza
In addition to being one of the greatest humans on the planet, he’s probably known us the longest as a couple. To top it all off he’s incredibly thoughtful and a poised public speaker.
Ceremony, ceremony, ceremony. Thinking about our actual wedding day ceremony gives me slight anxiety. I’m so excited to be exchanging vows with the love of my life, and heck, that’s the most important part of the day! So why all the dramatics? Unknown to my friends and family, I am a very private, quiet person. But I’m not an introvert. Kinda strange.
My entire life, I’ve been a competitive dancer, cheerleader, piano player. I’m very used to being in the spotlight. But on the day of the wedding it will be all eyes on me. This terrifies me. I’m painfully goofy, and I laugh and giggle out of embarrassment or to disguise my shyness or being uncomfortable.
Now the problem that I will have with our wedding day is the fact that not only will we have our 350 guests attending, but like I mentioned before, Mr. W’s father is a well known pastor in the city of Detroit. He has friends that are featured on television shows, and he is pretty involved in his church’s COGIC (Church of God in Christ) denomination across the US.