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I’m generally a pretty organized person. My day planner may as well be attached to my hand, because I always have it with me, and I’m the queen of lists. However, planning our wedding is most definitely putting my organizational skills to the test!
We’re getting really close to the big day, so I’m down to finishing up the final details (writing notes on favor tags, tying ribbons around sparkler stems) and confirming with vendors… and I’ve found myself wondering, ‘how in the world am I supposed to keep everything organized?’
Honestly, I’m kind of ashamed of myself. Here’s my last-minute organization method:
You guys have heard of Baby Brain, right? The way I understand it, it’s a condition that one may find oneself in while pregnant. Basically, you might become absentminded, spacey, and just generally out of it.
I think I’ve developed Wedding Brain. We’re five weeks out, and my head’s all over the place. I can’t focus – on wedding-related issues or otherwise, and it’s driving me (and Mr. Magnolia!) up the wall. (And no, I’m not pregnant… I’m sure of that!)
Yesterday afternoon I had a five minute conversation with our friend David about how he was hoping that I might puppy-sit for a few hours. This wasn’t a problem at all, so after work I ran over to his house to pick up the dog. I was a little distracted while I was there, because I was on the phone with my Maid of Honor, but I gathered Millie and her leash and had her tinkle before loading her into the car. Then I happily headed back toward my house, thinking about how we were going to run around in the backyard and play in the leaves. (I’m dying for a dog of my own, if you can’t tell…)
One of the last major milestones before the wedding is done!
While I could go on (and on and on…) about all the things that I “should” do before the big day, most of them are unnecessary. The last real necessary task was completed last week before flying up to Sacramento for Thanksgiving…
(drum roll, please)
We got our marriage license!
Hi everyone! Countdown is on. Countdown to how long it will take to lose it! Honestly, while I’m terribly enjoying this time of single-hood before the wedding on Saturday, I’m also finding out there are more and more things to do. Let me list them:
- I must pick up the centerpiece vases from the valley - an hour long drive if there is traffic.
- I must also pick up a hot glue gun or some of that 3M Double stick tape. Somehow I trust the glue gun more, although I was banned from using anything with the words “hot” and “glue” when I was a girl scout.
- While picking up that tape, I must also get some more of those handy colored bead/marbley things to put in the centerpieces. They should have that at JoAnn’s right?
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My beloved hive, I have ten days left. Ten days. When we got engaged 19 months ago (good lord), I never expected the wedding to get this close. Since we’ve had such a long time to plan, I was lulled into a false sense of security, believing I had waaaaay more than enough time to do everything. Now that the day is so close, I’m finding myself needing to do a ton of things.
Due to um, unforeseen circumstances, there are still at least 7 people we aren’t sure are coming. A few of them haven’t responded to any attempts at communication, leaving me very frustrated. So, because of them, I have a few things left to do- placecards, seating chart, final totals, final cost breakdown… That’s totally a lot of stuff left.
Not related to those people, I have yet to hear from the ceremony musician about the music we chose for the ceremony. Was I a fool to give her free reign? Will I be stuck the night before doing programs? Hell no! If we don’t hear from her by Thursday, I’m going to print the programs without any of the music. Let that be it. My vindictive Scorpio side is telling me to leave her name off the program. 
Would I? Never.
Last night, after picking up his suit, Mr. Kiwi and I got into a big fight. It was the biggest fight we’ve had in a long time, and it took a little bit of yelling and crying to really get into the real issue below. From what I’ve heard from my “super fantastic friendly non-formal” poll, the final two weeks before your wedding are the most stressful you’ll have.
It seems like it’s the test drive before the wedding. As in, so… you just fought over the color of ivory versus cream. Do you REALLY want to spend the rest of your life fighting about stupid crap? If not, now is the time to get out. If you still love him despite all the tear-jerking arguments you’ve had lately, you’re all set.
Then again, as Mr. Kiwi said to me last night, things don’t get easier. They get HARDER. Though I agree with him about this, hopefully we’ll never get put under such pressure. Planning a wedding is hard- it’s time consuming, nerve-wracking, and causes you to doubt everything you’ve ever been sure of, even the groom! When you’re crumbling under pressure, and your groom doesn’t see it and help you out- it makes you doubt every feeling you’ve had. Will he be there to help me when I need him most? Why can’t he see I need help? Like I learned last night, since he doesn’t have x-ray glasses to see inside your soul, you have to tell him you’re falling apart.
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Mr. Kiwi and I had a big day yesterday! We both decided to take the day off, and get a bunch of wedding errands done. We woke up at 8am to get to Beverly Hills to get our marriage license. Besides another couple in front of us, we were the only people there. It was a lot less nerve-wracking than I thought it would be. On the advice of Mrs. Lemon, we filled out the application online, where they’ll hold it up to 15 days. I printed out a copy and showed it to the clerk in the office, we handed her our ids and promised that all the info was correct (to our knowledge). Application done!
Next, we went to the mall to pick up Mr. K’s contact lenses, unfortunately, it was a day that all his former students had off, as we ran into about 15 girls there- each of them asking why he wasn’t at school. 
After a quick perusal in Things Remembered (still trying to find gifts for the moms), and a slice of pizza at Sbarro, we headed home to pick up some things we needed for our next appointment: the bank.
I’m writing from the edge of my sanity, here. Last night we had our final meeting with the Father, who had tried to talk us into having a mass, telling us the ceremony would be short and meaningless otherwise. When I replied about my Dad’s side probably not going up to receive a blessing, he bet me Mr. Kiwi’s salary (he works there) that they WOULD. Well, I know my family, and they WOULDN’T. Two weeks before the wedding- I don’t need him to change everything we’ve had planned for over a year!!
When I came home, I had an email from the church lady, saying she had no paperwork for me yet. Um. I sent it via snail mail- at her request. What do you do when the only person who controls your ceremony has no idea who you are, despite talking to me many times?
Which do you want first? Ok, we’ll start with the good because it makes for pretty pictures, and we all know that pretty pictures is what makes you guys come back day after day. (That and the hope that Mr. GB will write that Japan guide for you, and he will, but probably after the wedding.)
I’m feeling a little blah today, I took a nap on the couch promptly after waking up, and Mr. GB left with the dogs to take them to the butt-fluff trimmers. He walks in, totally lacking that nap-time quiet and boisterously flung open the living room french doors, gigantic package to match his equally gigantic grin. He tells me that the UPS man was joking with him this morning, about how there hasn’t been a day when he has to drive up our street that he hasn’t had a package for us…. we’re sad that after the wedding all he’ll be delivering is the occasional anthropologie package. We slowly cut the tape around the package and open it up to reveal… my dream wedding package.
I’d like to apologize for my lack of posts lately. Thankfully, you have a horde of new and old bees to keep you entertained! Although I am not wanting to make excuses for my MIA-ness (I’ll MAKE it a word), I do have some… “reasons why I haven’t blogged”:
1.) We are about 33 days away from the wedding, and I’m just realizing some things need to be taken care. So I should ask my hair lady to come to me, instead of ME to her? What a novel idea.
2.) Despite our recent luck with gifts toward our wedding (and less-than-expected quotes), we are still lacking sorely for cash. We have everything planned down to the penny, and we’re still $500.00 (at LEAST) off from being able to pay for things. We’ve done all we can to make things affordable, we’re taking every spare job we can, and dropping things that don’t have to be done, but we’re still hurting. 
This makes me very sad, and is making the last couple of weeks very very hard to enjoy. It’s kind of hard to look forward to something if you are constantly worried if you’ll actually be able to pay for it.
For the past few weeks, I keep getting asked these questions constantly:
“Are you stressed?”
“Are you nervous?”
“Are you ready?”
After the first dozen times, I’ve been polite and given my real answer. Now it’s a monotone and short “no.” The thing is, I really am not stressed or nervous but now that people are asking me all the time, I’m starting to stress and get nervous! I feel that all the eyes and the pressure of their questions is making me feel uneasy. Inside my head I’m thinking “Why!? Is there a reason to be nervous?!”
It’s down to the last month of singlehood - time to get in those last minute flings and wild sex parties in!!
Honestly, though, I’m feeling half completely relaxed and half completely insane. How is that possible? Well, nothing is technically going wrong at this point, there are a few things to smooth out, a few things that haven’t arrived and vendors I haven’t heard from… and most of my rsvps are still in the void. We think the USPS has eaten them, as we know a few people sent theirs and they have yet to arrive. But it’s a kind of lull before the storm, I think. I can feel the winds a-blowin’ and the air is thick with the hurricane to come… or I could be misinterpreting my deep desire for a pair of bright wellies.
I know we’re going to be busy, so I’m trying to soak up my few fake moments of calm. I mean, frankly, the only thing that is completely done and finalized is the venue and the cake - so I should be working my little butt off to get everything done before the end of this month so I can focus on the things that are inevitably going to break and need attention in October. By this I mean, I’ve spent all week avoiding doing anything wedding related other than making lists of thing to do and instead, have been sitting on my ass eating a whole lot of candy.
Early this morning, I am picking up two of my bridesmaids and then we are headed down to Newport. We have 10 hotels to go to to drop off out-of-town bags. Then, we can veg out, have some lunch, relax and wait to be picked up by the car service to go to the rehearsal at 3:00. The rehearsal dinner follows that at 4:30 and then the rehearsal party at 6:30pm. Then I will go home and try and get some sleep before the big day.I am having a hard time conveying exactly how I feel right now. I am not excited, I am not nervous, I am not scared. I am just very tired and slightly overwhelmed.
There is a serious ‘carrot’ dangling in front of me, just out of reach though, and I catch myself saying moment to moment: ‘in the end, when it is all over, I will be Mrs. Corn’.
And that is what I will be the next time I write. We won’t be back from the honeymoon until late September, but I will try very hard to post a teaser picture before then.
I have done a pretty good job of having everything organized, but I knew that there were things that would have to wait to the last second…like figuring out the logistics of getting people’s stuff out of the bridal suite, etc. I just didn’t expect it to put me over the edge so quickly.With two days to go, it really is a battle to remind myself that the wedding is really about Mr. Corn and I getting married, and if a few people are annoyed or talk smack about some detail that isn’t to their liking, I just need to let it go.
What put me over the edge yesterday, was a combination of 1) getting a new table layout from the rental company (after I had painstakingly made my table envelopes) 2) realizing that there was a vendor that I COMPLETELY forgot about (I am picking up a full sized mirror from a rental company since the condo where I am getting ready doesn’t have one) and 3) finding out that moments after I had printed our out-of-towner wedding newsletters (something I will have to post about after the big day) the time changed for the shuttle information that is included in said newsletters.
At 5:50 am we were ready to leave for Vermont. I am NEVER up that early, yet when we woke up this morning I was excited, bouncing and ready to go. I even went to our market (gotta love 24 hour produce) and got some rolls to make sandwiches for our 6+ hour drive.We’re getting married on Saturday!!!!!!!!
OK — back to getting ready to go 
I’ll try to touch base at least once more before the wedding. Soon we’ll be able to wear our t-shirts that were a shower gift…
Cheers,
Miss Onion
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