About four and a half months ago, I posted about the various Jewish traditions that Gander and I were planning to incorporate into our wedding. (Oh, February Goose, I miss you and your calmness…) Well, one of those traditions is actually a pre-wedding tradition—the Auf Ruf.
I tried to explain the Auf Ruf in a very basic format, but now I’m here to explain the Auf Ruf completely, as best as I can. As with all my posts on anything related to a Jewish wedding, please remember that the Toronto Reform Jewish community is very different than most American Reform congregations, as well as other sects of Judaism, and may not be the same as some people may be used to.
The actual Auf Ruf itself is pretty standard in how it’s done. The word Auf Ruf is a Yiddish word meaning “calling up,” so to call up the groom (and in Reform congregations, the bride) to give a blessing over the Torah. Once the blessings have been done and the Torah portion of the week has been read, the Rabbi will make a blessing for our wedding and our marriage. Gander and I also make three prayers for our marriage as well: we each pick one out of a list, and then we pick one together. And that’s all there is to planning the ceremony! The bulk of the Auf Ruf planning is, in all honesty, the Kiddush lunch afterwards.