My recaps are all done, but I have a few final posts to wrap it all up. The first one is a sequel to our original budget post—what we actually spent. I promise I’ll do this as quickly and painlessly as possible!
I know that the big budget weddings are usually more interesting to read, but if you’re a bride planning a wedding with less cash on hand, I hope this is helpful to you. We did what we could to keep the costs down and still have a beautiful, special wedding. I have zero regrets when it comes to what we spent on the wedding.
Catering & Venue
Food & Drink: $1347.50
This included all the food from our brunch buffet and sweet tea, juice, and water at our drink stations. It also includes the hot tea and coffee that was served before and after the ceremony. It ended up being $12.25 a person and was more than enough simple, yet filling food.
This was fourteen cakes—one on each table—at about $20 a cake. The greatest investment of the wedding, in my opinion! It made a great impression on the guests and was a fun conversation piece.
I’m almost to the end of my recaps, but I have to do the details post, right? The focus of the pictures of the day was definitely on people and moments, but I asked Niki to grab a few shots of some of the things around the room, especially since they were things we had spent a lot of time on.
My parents were both 22 when they got married and Mr. Lemur’s parents were in their early 20s. This last weekend my parents celebrated their 28th wedding anniversary and Mr. Lemur’s parents have been married for 31 years. We have a great legacy to live up to!
For a while the cakes just sat on the tables and looked pretty, but let’s be honest…the real reason for the cakes was to eat them. And to eat them we had to cut them. As a way for us to spend more time with our guests, we went around from table to table and cut them all ourselves. We didn’t spend a long time at every table, but we did get a chance to say hello to everyone.
Back in March, I read Mrs. Treasure’s post about cakes as centerpieces and I knew we just had to do it. Originally we were going to do five or six bigger cakes as a dessert table, but I had a meeting with our caterer three weeks before the wedding and I asked her (with a little trepidation) if there was any way this would be possible. And can I just say that she is the sweetest lady? The conversation went a little bit like this:
Me: “I have this idea…but I don’t know if it will work or if we can afford it.”
Caterer: “I’ll try to make anything work!”
Me: “I would love to do a cake on each table, maybe six or so different flavors. Our budget is $600.”
Me: “Is that enough?”
Caterer: “Honey, I wouldn’t charge you more than $250 for that. I don’t understand why people see ‘wedding’ and think ‘charge six times as much.'”
This was hands down our best last minute decision of wedding planning. We stacked several books on each table (some borrowed, some bought at a secondhand store), threw a cake on it, and called it a centerpiece. We added the scrabble letters in the holder to let people know what kind of cake was at their table. There was white…
You know how people always say they didn’t eat at their wedding? I swore I would…but I really didn’t. First of all, we never really sat down at a table. Our top priority was making sure we spent time with all of our guests, so most of the time I was walking from table to table and standing and chatting with people. After everyone had gone through the buffet line, we grabbed plates and continued visiting with guests as we ate. Mr. Lemur ate plenty, but I swear I had like three bites and didn’t feel well. I don’t know what it was—maybe a combination of stress and everything going on? I tried to eat, but I wasn’t really hungry and nothing tasted quite right.
Everyone else has told me the food was good. No one raved about it necessarily—but I knew from the beginning our food wasn’t going to be mind blowing. There was plenty of it and it was good, which is all I was looking for at our price point.
Way back in February, I blogged about having a kid-friendly wedding. We ended up having fifteen kids under the age of twelve at our wedding, and all of them did great! Sure, we delayed the start of the ceremony because not everyone had arrived, but once everyone got there and was seated, they all behaved perfectly for both the ceremony and reception. (At least from what I remember—I was pretty focused on the fact that I was marrying Mr. Lemur.) I think there were a few things that we did that helped it work out.
Activities. As we transitioned to the reception, the kids all did a great job of sitting and coloring quietly until their tables were dismissed to the buffet lines. If you’re having kids at your reception, I highly, highly recommend having some kind of activity for them! Several parents said thank you to me for helping keep the kids occupied, especially since it was lunch time.
I’ve been saving our detail pictures, but here’s a shot of what the tables looked like. Simple, yes, but I loved them. I felt like they were the perfect blend of casual and fun for us. This table had several kids—you can see their crayon boxes at the seats on the left. The adults had the more grownup pencils.
We were officially husband and wife! Now it was time to celebrate with our loved ones. Because of the way our venue was set up, it was as simple as walking to the end of the aisle and turning around. Then it was hugs all around.