I think I’ve mentioned before that I love Palm Springs not for the pools and golf courses, but rather the eccentricities and odd finds. There is perhaps no better example of that than the Integratron. George Van Tassel began construction on the building in 1954 after he claims to have been contacted by aliens. The aliens gave him instructions on how to build a machine that would rejuvenate living tissue cells (a fountain of youth, if you will). Unfortunately, Van Tassell’s death came before the completion of the machine. Today, they host a variety of private and public events in the incredible structure. And, according to the website, “many visitors experience the Integratron as a very powerful vortex for physical and spiritual healing”.
So, our hotel block didn’t work out too well. My fiance’s family booked a hotel 12 miles out of town so that they could save a few dollars, and my family procrastinated until the block expired. In the end, only five rooms out of the 20 were reserved before the deadline. We had planned to hire a shuttle service to drive everyone back to their hotels so that no one would have an excuse to drive while intoxicated. However, with our family scattered to the wind, such a shuttle suddenly became impractical.
What should I do? Would it be enough to frame some phone numbers for taxi companies, place them on the bar and leave it to the guests to make their own arrangements?

The more I read about destination weddings and the trend toward wedding weekends, the more I hear about how I must have some sort of event for guests to take part in over the course of the weekend. For instance, a wine tasting (in Napa) or a surfing lesson (in Hawaii). While I think these are great ideas, is this going overboard?? Is this just another example of excess? (okay, don’t answer that…)
On our wedding website I listed a number of my favorite area attractions, but I’m letting all the hype get to me and convince me that it’s not enough! Despite my hesitation, here are some ideas that I’ve come up with:
One possible activity is the aerial tram.

My last project is finally complete! I feel so accomplished. That’s it! We’re done! No more loose ends! Nothing else to do but relax and look forward to our wedding. With the Playbill now printed, we finished filling the gable boxes and we’re ready to roll. Inside the gable box were my water bottles with my DIY labels, pretzels, postcard and “stamp”, a 5th Avenue candy bar, coupon to Top of the Rock, Playbill, phone list, maps, and an apple (not shown).
Procrastination is an evil evil thing. I never got around to finishing pages 5 and 6 of my Playbill. Rather than let the project go to waste, I just printed the front/back cover and “The Players” page making it a one page booklet basically. The phone list, map and sites to see pages are just going to be printed on regular 8.5×11 and put into the OOT bags. Either way, I am sure guests will appreciate the information.
These were printed at work and the results weren’t too shabby.

Our wedding is by no means a “Destination Wedding.” But we have been amazed at the number of friends and family who are willing to fly/drive to Chicago just for our big day! Here is our tally:
Alabama - 2
Arizona - 1
California - 10
England - 1
Florida - 1
Georgia - 5
Hong Kong - 4
Kentucky - 6
Massachusetts - 1
Michigan - 2
Minnesota - 8
New Orleans - 2
New York - 3
Ohio - 2
Taiwan - 9
Texas - 2
This is over 25% of our guestlist from outside Chicago! I am really touched that all these people care so much, and we can’t wait to see them all. Unfortunately, I will also feel really bad about not being able to spend much time with each of them, but I hope they will understand… What’s your out-of-towner count like?
I thought I had thought of everything to make planning for our guests as easy as possible — wedding website? check. room blocks? check. airport information? check. rental car info? check. when/where details? check. directions/maps? check. Pet friendly hotels? WHAT? Ugh.
If you remember, when I had my shower, the favors were these delightful boxes of chocolate shells with chocolate rocks and sugar-in-the-raw sand.
I loved these soooo much and wanted to put them in the out of town bags, but in the end it just wasn’t going to be fiscally possible so I gave up the idea and started thinking of making lobster cookies.
It was a hit with the guests long before we ever saw them: our OOT bags!

Most of our guests were travelling to reach our wedding… some from SoCal, others from the midwest and the east coast, and we wanted to make sure they made the most of their trip. For that exact reason, I made sure I bought reusable bags that people could keep… which was obviously a good idea since Mr. Lemon’s mom used hers throughout the entire trip!
This past Saturday was our rsvp due date. Out of 160 invited, we have 4 no’s, 5 maybes and 10 no replies. The no replies are the least of my concerns, we can call them to find out if they can attend. It’s the “maybes” that had me concerned. You may have noticed I said had. Our final count is due to the caterer this week, so a “maybe” is just too up in the air; I need a yes or a no.
Yesterday as I watched a marathon of “Whose Wedding Is It Anyway?” I got some great tips on how to deal with the maybes and unexpected guests. Since the maybes were friends of mine, I basically said “I would love for you to come, but, I am turning in a final count to the caterer. You will be first on my list to show the photos to from our big day!” After I did this I felt better. If they were able to give me a for sure answer of yes or no then great, but if their plans were still up in the air, well then, sorry (the extra plate can be $$$ in our pockets). I didn’t feel guilty or impolite, just relieved that I was now on my way to getting my final count.
Does anyone else have any good suggestions on how you have dealt with your “maybes”?