Before I completely drop the invitation coverage—seriously, too many posts!—I wanted to address the issue of addressing.
Addressing our invited guests on the envelopes, that is.
But first, a disclaimer: Etiquette rules exist for a reason, and I do not want to minimize them. But I do believe every couple must decide how strictly to follow those rules. We went with our own approach, but I understand why others might decide to stick with tradition. It’s your wedding; do what you feel is best based on your personal beliefs and regional traditions.
Now back to the Puffer wedding. I am a feminist, and proud of it. While I’m taking Mr. Puffer’s name, I never assume other women made the same choice. In fact, a number of my friends have kept their maiden names. I also don’t feel comfortable with using the “Mrs.” title after the wedding ends, and I never refer to a married woman of my generation as anything other than “Ms.”