Now that marriage equality is the law of the land, some LGBTQ couples who are planning to get married are forced to figure out some of the logistics that were traditionally defined by gender. … read more
June 26, 2015, is a historic day. Today the Supreme Court of the United States of America ruled that states cannot ban same-sex marriage.
The happy tears in my eyes made it difficult to read the news alerts flooding my phone.
I’m a wedding blogger. I spend several hours each week writing about my upcoming wedding and future marriage and soon-to-be spouse. I’ve opened the doors to my life and let anyone who wants to peer in. I live openly in my love for Mr. Puffer.
Yet there are several special people in my life who have not been as open and carefree with their wedding plans as I’ve been. There are several people I admire and respect who still feel the need to lower their voices in the office when telling me about their wedding day. I’ve watched these incredible people ridiculed and mocked and even hated simply because they’ve found love.
(Name that lyric from that song from that popular musical.)
I need to address something VERY important to me. I need to openly share my feelings in regard to this topic. I need to state that I believe ALL PEOPLE SHOULD HAVE THE RIGHT TO MARRY WHOMEVER THEY DAMN WELL PLEASE. Love is the most beautiful, delicate, fascinating, special, soul-building emotion you can experience and it should be celebrated. Always celebrated.
Phew! That felt good. Thanks for listening to me, hive. I know that I am not alone in this sentiment. Bees before have shared similarfeelings, and bees before me have shared how all love is not treated equal and how sad things can happen. But even though it was discussed before me and will be talked about after me, until everyone is given the same rights of legal marriage, we need to continue talking about it.
OK, let’s pretend that I’m not biased. (In fact, I’m not, but you might not believe me.) Let’s pretend that my relationship with another woman, Lady T, has nothing to do with my emotions toward same-sex marriage. (Again, it doesn’t, but you might disagree.)
I want to emphasize that these are my opinions. I don’t claim to know it all, to have studied it all, or even to have worked through it all myself. These opinions are based on my personal experience and how I was raised.
I have a fundamental conflict with government controlling the legality of marriage.
I also have an issue with religion dictating that marriage is strictly between a man and a woman. Let me repeat, religion.
The Bible, according to some religions the word of God, was written how long ago? Additionally, how many times was it translated JUST in writing? Let’s not even think about how each individual person reads and interprets the meaning behind the words in that book.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not downplaying the importance of the Bible or the words within it, I’m merely suggesting that understanding the book within the context in which it exists is important to consider.
Our photography package includes engagement pictures. Our photographer was really trying to make it to California for our e-pics but our schedules didn’t line up. With reality setting in, we realized that we needed to squeeze e-pics into our last Kansas City planning trip.
Thus the hunt for e-pic inspiration began”¦
Thankfully, one of my friends from college had posted some of her super fabulous engagement pictures on Facebook. Between her pictures and some inspiration from our photographer I was starting to get excited about engagement pics.
One night I was chatting with my good friend Z about same-sex marriage. Z is gay. Our conversation got me thinking about my and Mr. Wizard’s upcoming nuptials and how we could best recognize the fact that we, as two people entering into a “privileged” heterosexual marriage, are able to take this very important and life-changing step in our relationship while some of our closest friends and family cannot do the same.
Between Mr. Wizard and me, we have a lot of friends who are gay. Many of those friends will be guests at our wedding. We simply cannot in good faith stand in front of those people we love and say our vows and parade our so-called privilege in front of them, when inside we are asking ourselves, “What ”˜privilege’? What have we done that makes us more ”˜worthy’ of marriage than them?” We knew that we had to recognize this disgusting disparity in equality in a public way at the wedding, but without causing undue drama and tension on a day that is supposed to be filled with happiness. We want to be respectful to those with different opinions, but we also want to make it known that we respectfully (well, maybe not so respectfully, but that is neither here nor there) disagree.
Most people love Disneyland — the food, the rides, the souvenirs… did I mention the food? I loved Disneyland as a kid. My family would take one trip a year down to Southern California to visit and go to Disneyland. We had a whole routine down pat, complete with order of rides, when we’d go back to the hotel, and then our late night return to the park.
Since I moved to Los Angeles about eight years ago, I’ve only been to the park three times… and all three times were when I had family members come from out of town. Some of the Disney magic wore off on me over time, I suppose.
But I just got a bunch of love for Disney.
Disneyland will now be offering their Fairytale Wedding package for same-sex couples. This is a huge deal in getting a family-oriented conglomerate on board with supporting same sex couples’ rights (as many companies use “family oriented” to mean “no gays”)!!
This makes me really happy–I’m a big fan of Ellen’s show and thought Portia was hilarious on Arrested Development; they’re one of my favorite celebrity couples! I really admire that they keep their private life private, yet everything I’ve read indicates that they’re really great together.
I haven’t done much research on gay/lesbian weddings or commitment ceremonies, but I know that as more states legalize some sort of same-sex union, they’re becoming more popular everyday. That said, and without trying to start a fight:
Though I never really gave it much thought before, the cake topper industry has not exactly gone out on a limb to represent the mixed ethnicity couples of today. Thankfully, a company called Renellie has stepped up to the plate.
To best represent your unique situation, you may choose between eight interchangeable figurines. You can pair a White Groom, Black Groom, Latino Groom or Asian Groom with a White Bride, Black Bride, Latino Bride or Asian Bride. This would also work great for gay couples as you can choose to match brides with brides or grooms with grooms. As you get to choose the two figurines for your own cake topper, you can ensure that it best represents you and your partner as a couple.