Though our wedding is absolutely “ours,” there have been a few wedding-related topics in which Mr. Tractor is less than invested. It took me a while to come to terms with this, but what I’ve figured out is this: it’s not that he doesn’t care about themes or flowers or decor, but he knows that I care a lot, and, as always, he wants me to be happy with what we decide. That said, we still make all of our wedding-related decisions together, so sometimes Mr. T finds himself weighing in on things like stamps, or envelope liners, or what particular shade of coral is the perfect balance of pink and orange. And I am very thankful to him for this.
One decision that, I swear, took absolutely no discussing, convincing, or leg pulling was our decision to take dance lessons to prep for our wedding. One day, I emailed Mr. T a link to information on lessons at a local studio, and within a few hours he emailed back, “All signed up for August!” I mean, I should’ve known. I already told you all how he’s a dancing machine, and he’s generally game for anything, but I was surprised (pleasantly!) at how enthusiastic he was about the whole thing!
Mr. Tractor and I love to dance. We dance everywhere from our apartment kitchen to the grocery store. For the record, I have tried them all, and the cereal aisle is definitely the best for dancing. Though we are firm believers that you can dance anywhere, anytime you want, in our opinion one thing makes dancing even better: a band!!
Living in Boston, there is no shortage of cover bands—you can basically walk into any bar from Faneuil Hall to Fenway on a Saturday night and find one. But how to go about hiring one to host a rocking party on your wedding day, I wasn’t sure.
There are these two framed pictures in our living room. One thing that Mr. Narwhal and I bonded over in the beginning of our relationship was our love for and similar taste in music. When we first started dating we would always send each other pictures of love quotes and music quotes that said things like, “Music speaks louder than words.”
One of those photos Mr. Narwhal sent me was a picture filled with music quotes, and he told me it was his favourite music picture yet. It was small and pixel filled, so I decided to draw him a new one filled with better quotes and more significant things to us. When I gave it to him he told me he had the perfect gift for me. He had a picture that he had drawn three years earlier that shared many of the same quotes. They now share a wall in our living room.
Music in the living room / Personal photo
The moral of my tangent is that music plays a huge role in our lives. There is usually music playing in our kitchen, Mr. Narwhal knows the lyrics to every song ever, and car playlists are our jam (pun intended). Live music? Our favourite. Spending our hard earned money on concerts is money well spent in our home, and we have been to many concerts together. A real vacation? Hasn’t happened yet. Concerts? I’ve lost count.
Well, that a was busy few weeks! But with Canadian and Jewish holidays over, and work back to normal, it’s time to get back to writing. I’m still waiting on getting a few more things together for my recaps, but thought I would talk about some of the choices we made that I didn’t want to reveal before the wedding. Today, it’s music!
Months ago, I talked about our music options for the wedding, but never mentioned what they would be playing. Although music was important to us, we didn’t feel like we needed to control every single song that was played, and gave our vendors a good amount of leeway in their playlists, with only a bit of general direction.
Ceremony and Cocktail Hour
Our prelude before the ceremony was one of the things we were willing to give free range on. We had been very impressed by our string trio’s talent and professionalism, so we just asked them to play whatever they felt was best from their Jewish and classical repertoire.
A sampling of the classical selections / Video credit: Royal Strings
(Apologies in advance for my terrible video camera skills.)
Music wise, I think we are covered for this wedding. DJ Ben the Beyonder will take care of all our cocktail and reception needs, and while we haven’t yet spoken to the musical director at St. Charles, we are planning to make use of their in-house musicians for the ceremony. We’ve been meaning to finalize plans with the St. Charles musical director, but summer vacations on both sides have been getting in the way. Normally, I’d be a little bit more frantic about not having secured the ceremony musicians by now, especially when our wedding checklist says I should have completed this task months ago. But I’m not breaking a sweat this time because I have a plan B in place. Sort of. It’s more like a blueprint of a plan B in place. OK, maybe it’s just wishful thinking…
Every day, Monday through Friday, I pass through Grand Central to get to and from work. After six years of making this route twice a day, I’ve become immune to the landmark’s charm. For me, Grand Central is not a sight to see, it’s just an over-crowded conduit to my final destination.
Hive, you were extremely helpful last week with all your advice and input about Mr. BC’s wardrobe and pop-of-color options. Thank you! I came up with some new ideas and threw the ball into Mr. BC’s court. I’m not yet sure what we’ll end up with, but I am definitely liking the new path we’re on.
You were so helpful and awesome that I’ve decided to throw all of my questions about the wedding to you guys for advice and input. I’m calling the series “What Would Bees Do?” HA!
So here’s my next dilemma: reception entertainment. I am undecided about what to do for entertainment at the reception. I have been kicking this around for six months and still feel just as undecided as the first day I started thinking about it. *sigh*
Our wedding package comes with a three hour reception that includes dinner. I figure dinner, toasts, first dance, and cake cutting is probably 90 minutes, right? (Please feel free to correct me.) So that leaves 90 minutes to fill. The obvious choice is to book a DJ, but the resort charges $1,200 for three hours.
Our RSVP date was this past Saturday, which means the wedding is almost here. How did that happen?!
This past weekend was packed with a wedding (the third of the month!), my hair & makeup trial, and a LOT of wedding related paperwork. This? Is not the fun part. We started on our seating chart, and now many of the things remaining on our to-do list are “finalize this” and “confirm that”—and of course one or two projects I may or may not still do!
My hair trial turned out exactly how I wanted (despite me vaguely saying, “I want it up…like here….curled. Pinned?”).
Remember that bridal show we went to? Well, we found a pre-approved DJ we really liked right off the bat, Top Shelf Entertainment, Inc. They fit within our budget, they agreed to do the ceremony and the reception, and there really isn’t much more to the story than that. The one thing I will mention that we love about them: Kris plays the guitar and sings during the dinner hour, which is really nice because it allows for a more low key environment while everyone is eating. Billie likes to think of it as karaoke hour…
Side note, Billie will be performing “Your Song” by Elton John for me, during the reception. This is one of the first songs he ever sang to me, and the voicemail he left me (where he sang me this song) has gotten me through many a rough day.
My courtship with Mr. Rooster was nontraditional, to say the least (read up on our bonerversary if you need to catch up). There was never a “first date,” nor can I remember the first song we danced to together. The period we spent getting to know each other was marbled with group dates, happy hour meetups, and conversations in the break room at work. But it all came to a head one night at a Corey Smith concert.
I remember the day Rooster asked me to go to the concert with him. It was the first time that I realized we were kinda, sorta, totally a thing. He stopped me in the hallway at work one June afternoon and asked what I was doing July 17th.