I’m sure you can imagine posting something like this isn’t very easy. Money already is awkward to discuss, but now I’m sharing how much we spent on the most expensive day of our lives. I’m not ashamed of our final number, but I also understand that this is something that people have a lot of opinions about—and those opinions and priorities can be very different from my own—so it’s definitely scary to put out there. But I also really appreciated knowing upfront how much things cost going into wedding planning (and I love compiling numbers), so we’re going through with this post. Please be gentle?
I’d like to start off with a few comments and clarifications to make myself feel better before we get into the nitty gritty numbers.
- The final total is high. I realize that, and I’m not trying to pass this off as necessary or a smart use of this much money. You might think I’m dumb or frivolous or wasteful, and believe me, I could definitely see your side of it. But the fact of the matter is that these are the true numbers, we were able to fund it without going into debt, we had the wedding of our dreams, and I would defend (nearly) every single purchase that we made. However, I don’t want this to be a defensive post. I want it to be helpful. If you are having a similar wedding, this might help you plan a budget. If your wedding is different than ours, I hope it’s a testament to how quickly all of these costs add up, even when you feel like you’re doing all the right research and making smart decisions.