Long time, no see, ladies.
For those of you who don’t know me, I’m Ms. Sloth, and I got married way back in May of 2011. I’m excited to come back for a quick visit to share my holiday gift plans for this year.
WHAT I’VE ASKED SANTA FOR
Every year, Mr. S requests that I create an online wishlist so that he’ll know what to get me for the holidays, and I have the hardest time, because there’s nothing that I need. But after a lot of thought, I managed to come up with a handful of items I wouldn’t mind unwrapping:
1. SleepPhones, $40
Because I like falling asleep to music but lying down with earbuds in is majorly uncomfortable.
Hi hive! I’m doubtful very many readers these days remember me, but I’m sneaking back on 10/10 to celebrate!!
Three years ago today, Mr. Thimble and I got married on 10.10.10. It was a beautiful day; we couldn’t have asked for better weather, more fun, better vendors, or greater guests who appreciated all the small details. Weddingbee was a HUGE part of what made my wedding planning and overall experience such a joy, and I’m embarrassed to admit I still haven’t recapped the whole day on the blog. I wanted to lead with our wedding video back when I began my recaps (the first time), but I thought that would be a cheat and would show off the whole thing before I could post each detail properly.
I should have trusted my first instinct. =)
So now without further ado, in celebration of weddings, Weddingbee, and three years with Mr. Thimble, join me in my yearly viewing of the video, by Well Spun Weddings:
And…because I always sheepishly rejoin the ‘Bee with a great excuse for my absence (although really, this isn’t such a good excuse for how long I’ve been gone), here’s a glimpse at what makes our third anniversary so very special:
If it weren’t for Thumbtack.com, we might have never found a caterer.
While I was attempting to find a caterer for a reception with six people, Thumbtack appeared in my Google search results, like manna from heaven. After answering a few questions about the type of service you need, Thumbtack sends that information to relevant service professionals, who then offer you quotes with a price estimate, verified reviews, and a personal message. It’s free and super easy to use; I can’t recommend it enough! Within an hour after I sent my request, Thumbtack emailed me, stating a caterer was available and interested in working with me.
Right off the bat, Adam from Thyme To Serve was willing to create a customized, vegetarian menu at a reasonable price. (Mr. Wellies and I decided early on that we would have a vegetarian reception: I’m a vegetarian, Mr. Wellies eats vegetarian at home, and having a vegetarian reception keeps it kosher.) Adam’s enthusiasm was contagious. When he suggested a tapas-style main course, with eight or nine small plates, I was sold. Like Will’s dad on Will & Grace, I can make a meal just from appetizers. Once I told Adam what kind of food Mr. Wellies and I like, he presented us with these options:
I love food. It’s the reason I’ve struggled with my weight throughout my life. When I tell Mr. Wellies I love him, I say things like, “I love you more than I love sushi.” He jokes that the number one way I show him I love him is by sharing my food with him. After all:
Image via Rebloggy
Consequently, I knew that food was going to be one of the most important parts of our wedding. What I didn’t realize, however, was how difficult it would be to find a wedding caterer for a party of six.
Since we’re getting married in February, I plan on buying a sweater to wear when we take photos outside. I’d love to have it match our wedding colors: either pink, light blue, or silver. Given that I spent $25 on my wedding dress and $50 on my shoes, I’d also love for it to be relatively cheap. Unfortunately, that’s where my confidence ends.
The possibilities for sweater styles are endless. Seriously. There are shrugs, boleros, wraps, and buttoned cardigans. They have long sleeves, three-quarter sleeves, and short sleeves. The materials include cotton, mohair, and sequins. With all the different variables to choose from, I can’t decide!
Image via Erin Hearts Court
I’m a planner. I love making lists and spreadsheets, to see how everything adds up and fits together. I am not even remotely spontaneous. Therefore, when Mr. Wellies and I first started talking about getting married, I began to research how much our wedding would cost. Since I had absolutely no experience with wedding planning, I pulled a number out of thin air, and thought $10,000 sounded reasonable. We could definitely afford it, as I had been saving up money since I was 16. (My dad always joked I had money hidden under my mattress. Actually, it was in my sock drawer.) Once I received prices from potential vendors, however, $10,000 seemed unrealistic. Our backyard wedding required rentals, food, yard maintenance, and generators. I bumped the budget up to $14,000 and hoped that it would be enough.
After we decided to elope, most of those extra expenses fell away. We’re not having any guests, so we don’t need to worry about invitations, favors, or gifts for our parents and the bridal party. The number of meals has been reduced by 80%. Still, I worry that our current budget of $11,000 is too much to spend on one day. We’re eloping, I think. Shouldn’t we cancel everything and just run off to the nearest courthouse?
Exchange of Rings — During the exchange of rings, Mr. Wellies and I will recite the traditional marriage formula in Hebrew, which is translated as, “By this ring you are consecrated to me in accordance with the traditions of Moses and Israel.” This formula, called the haray aht, contains 32 letters. In Hebrew, the number 32 is written with the same letters that spell the word “heart.” Thus, Mr. Wellies and I will give our hearts to each other as we recite the words. Traditionally, the wedding ring is placed on the right index finger so that witnesses will see the ring is received; it is also believed that the index finger is the most direct link to the heart.
Image via Helen Maybanks Photography
Wrapping in the Tallis — The tallis, or prayer shawl, represents the 613 commandments which are the pillar of the Jewish faith. By wrapping ourselves in my grandfather’s tallis, we will be protected by the commandments and the spiritual strength of Judaism. The tallis will also bring us together as a couple in our first symbolic home—the chuppah.
As I previously mentioned, Judaism has played a major role in our wedding planning. When Mr. Wellies and I discussed our ceremony, we knew without a doubt that we would have a religious Jewish ceremony. We’re both very excited to incorporate so many different aspects of Judaism into our wedding; since everything is rich with meaning and history, it will give our day an even deeper resonance.
Chuppah – The ceremony takes place under the chuppah, a canopy that represents the home Mr. Wellies and I will build together. It is open on all sides, symbolizing that friends and family are always welcome. I really love the imagery (both literal and metaphorical) of the chuppah. Although there are several vendors in the area who would be able to create a chuppah for us, we’re going to build it ourselves, to make it even more personal.
I love the idea of having a “signature scent” that will always remind you of your wedding day. Although I adore my current fragrance, it took me a while to find it. Just as I don’t wear a lot of makeup, I also hardly ever wear perfume. In fact, I’ve only bought three bottles in my entire life, and two of them now sit unused on my dresser.
The very first perfume I ever bought was Sui Dreams by Anna Sui. When I was in middle school, I read a teen magazine that featured a review of recently released perfumes. The description of Sui Dreams included vanilla. I thought, “Ooh, I love vanilla!” and went out to buy it. (Ah, the simplicity of adolescent decisions!) Over time, it became way too strong for me, so I stopped wearing it. I went to take a whiff of it just now and reeled back. That stuff is potent.
Image via Top Perfume
I’ve gone back and forth on whether or not I should do my own makeup (DIY) or hire a makeup artist (MUA) for my wedding. On the one hand, I hardly know anything about makeup. I wear next to nothing on a daily basis: just foundation, blush, and lipstick—and that’s only if I’m leaving the house. I’m worried that I’ll look washed out if I don’t wear enough, while it won’t look professional if I don’t apply it correctly.
On the other hand, makeup artists are expensive; although the makeup I’d buy to do it myself would also be expensive, at least I’d use it over and over. Furthermore, I’m worried that they’d put too much makeup on and I won’t look like myself.
Image via Fanpop
I have a confession to make: I bought my wedding shoes before I even got engaged. Growing up, I dreamed of wearing a Badgley Mischka wedding dress when I got married. Mark Badgley and James Mischka design flawless gowns; I love seeing their new designs each year on the red carpet! After glancing at their prices, however, I quickly realized there was no way I could ever afford them. Like, ever. Still, instead of giving up entirely, I decided to incorporate Badgley Mischka into my wedding day another way: shoes. As soon as I saw the Randee heel, it was love at first sight.
Image via My Glass Slipper
“Looking for cute and affordable favors? Put the treat of your choice in adorable boxes from Weddingbee Favors!”
Mr. Wellies and I found our photographers and videographers on the first try. With our venue, second time was the charm. Although we both loved Holly Hedge Estate, I wasn’t comfortable booking it without looking at at least one more venue, for comparison’s sake. I spent hours searching “barn wedding venues in Pennsylvania” online, trying to find an alternative. It was surprisingly difficult to find a location that fit our criteria; the barns were either too big, too ornate, or too far away. I had almost given up when I came across Rosaleda Farm, nestled on 20 acres of land in Pottstown. As soon as I saw the chandelier hanging in the barn, I was hooked. I quickly called Rose, the co-owner of the farm, and scheduled an appointment. I was so anxious to see it, I went the next day while Mr. Wellies was at work (with his blessing, of course, and the promise to take lots of pictures).
All photos personal
When Rose took me into the barn, I was so excited I could barely keep my hands steady to send photos to Mr. Wellies. The barn was reconstructed five years ago by professional Amish barn builders (gotta love Pennsylvania)! It’s the Goldilocks of barns: not too big, not too small, but just right. As Rose was talking, I was already deciding where our reception table would go, and imagining our first dance under the chandelier. That chandelier. Rose said she traveled all the way to New York to find the right one. It’s definitely my favorite feature of the barn.
When we started looking for our venue, Mr. Wellies and I had several specifics in mind. We knew we wanted a barn, preferably one that was local and small enough that it would suit our party of six. The interior would be simple, rather than elaborate, and wouldn’t need much personalization. Our photographers, M2 Photography, had shot a lot of weddings at Holly Hedge Estate and highly recommended it, so we scheduled a tour to view the property.
All photos personal
Located in New Hope, Holly Hedge is a quiet, secluded estate with gorgeous grounds. Our tour guide, Wendy, showed us the barn, the honeymoon suite, and the main house. Mr. Wellies and I absolutely loved the barn. We pictured ourselves getting married in front of the stone fireplace, surrounded by candles and string lights. It had just the atmosphere we were looking for.
As with our photographers, Mr. Wellies and I only had one choice for our videographer. The difference was we didn’t originally plan to have a videographer at all! We believed photos would sufficiently capture the day; moreover, professional videographer packages were expensive, and we thought the money would be better spent elsewhere. Then, my friend Jessica posted her wedding video on Facebook, and I immediately became a videographer convert.
Can we talk about how awesome this wedding video is? It perfectly balances the fun aspects of the day with the more emotional moments, simultaneously making me laugh and bringing tears to my eyes. You can feel the love radiating from everyone, especially the happy couple. (And yes, that’s Ian Somerhalder officiating the ceremony!)
It was Mr. Wellies’s idea to take my last name after we got married.
When he first suggested it, I was bemused. I didn’t understand why he would want to take my name. I had never thought of it before, mainly because I had never heard of it before. The only options I knew of were the woman taking the man’s name; the woman keeping her name; the couple hyphenating their names; or, more recently, the couple blending their names. But a man taking a woman’s name? Outrageous!
Then Mr. Wellies explained his reasoning. He knows how much my last name means to me. I had previously expressed my worry about carrying on the family name, since I only have one male cousin who might continue it. Mr. Wellies saw taking my last name as a way to honor my dad and my grandfather, two of the most important men in my life.