A while back I talked about my extensive search for the perfect wedding shoes. Don’t worry, I haven’t changed my mind—I’m still super excited about my Kate Spade heels! But now it’s Mr. Plane’s turn to find his perfect wedding shoes…
I’m sure some grooms don’t care what they wear on their feet. Some rent shoes with their tuxes, some wear dress shoes they already own, and some just go along with whatever the bride tells them. Not Mr. Plane. He had his perfect shoes picked out for a long time. They looked like this:
I’m positive a little explanation is in order. Orange is Mr. Plane’s favorite color. Originally, our wedding colors were gray, yellow, and orange. But as the wedding planning moved forward, I was drawn more toward different shades of gray and yellow, and not a whole lot of orange. Mr. Plane, determined to keep the orange dream alive, took it upon himself to not only insist on the damn bird of paradise boutonniere, but also find the most show-stoppingly bright shoes he could.
I have a shoe obsession. I’ll admit it to you easily and proudly. I love the things that go on my feet! (I’m not alone…right? Right?!)
What this means is that when I first started thinking about shoes for my wedding, I knew they had to be fancy.
I talked to you already about the shoes I’ll wear at the reception, but I always knew that I’d wear heels for the pictures and the ceremony. I mean, bum knee aside, why wouldn’t I want to be fancy?
When I first started looked for shoes, I was drawn toward the blue shoe trend. I’m a pop-of-color kind of gal, so I wanted to carry that into my wedding look.
Evie was the first shoe I fell in love with. The low heel promised long wear and the color was beautiful. I happened to find a pair (in white) on eBay, which I purchased. I wore them to my first couple of bridal appointments, but then I realized something important: they didn’t wow me (particularly because I hadn’t been able to find the blue pair on sale). So I moved on.
The next pair of shoes I found was love at first sight. I fell hard for them and have coveted them ever since. The price, though, was unbearable. How could I justify spending $755 on a pair of shoes?
With the dress procured, what else to wear was still up for debate.
Let’s start from the bottom and head up.
When I tried on my dress I was wearing three-inch heels (pretty standard for me), and they were just about perfect for the existing hem. While they are not the shoes I will be wearing on the day of the wedding, they at least gave me an idea of what I needed to look for.
Have you ever wondered how much room your shoe collection spans? | personal photo
To say that I have a thing for shoes would be putting it mildly. I haven’t counted recently (there’s been no good reason to), but the last time I wondered enough to do so I counted 85 pairs, and I’ve bought several since then. I’m definitely in the triple digits by now. And most of them are heels because I find it painful to wear flats for more than a day. (I have Achilles tendinitis in both heels that developed several years ago, amusingly enough while I was wearing flats a lot thanks the multiple dance practices a week—usually it’s caused by wearing heels too often, not the other way around.) I also just love the confidence boost a good pair of heels can offer, and definitely have my favorites for when there’s an important meeting at the office.
No one will see my wedding shoes unless they happen to be looking in the corner of the reception as I break it down on the dance floor, barefoot. Right? Wrong. Wedding shoes have become such a “thing,” and even though I never intended to let it become anything I waste effort on, it certainly has. And I probably have my sister to blame (sorry!).
My sister/MOH NYC has a good friend who works in the shoe department at Bergdorf Goodman. She made a big deal about how he wanted to help me pick out shoes and that he could get me a good deal, yada, yada, yada. I went in with a pretty open mind and only a few requirements: navy or gold (or neutral) and not too expensive. Have you guys ever looked at the Bergdorf shoe section? Their shoes are certainly not within my regular shoe budget, and I was pretty confident they wouldn’t be within my wedding shoe budget, either. My sister told me just to send her friend some ideas and we would go from there. OK, I can do that! I scoured their site and stumbled upon the shoe of my dreams, the Valentino Jewelry-Bow Couture d’Orsay:
Image via Bergdorf Goodman
You. Guys. Seriously. How gorgeous is that shoe? Well, it is approximately $1,095 worth of gorgeous. Yeah, no. Not happening. I sent him that shoe with the request to find something like that but for cheaper. I wish I was here to tell you that you can get a stunning Valentino gold bow situation for—like—$200. But you can’t. According to my sister’s friend, you can’t really get anything good for “under $1,000.” HAH! Then I guess I will go barefoot?
Back to the drawing board I went. My Gchats were filled with shoe suggestions to and from NYC and Bridesmaid BOC.
I decided to give you a break from looking at my face for a while (after I inundated you with my engagement photos). Instead, I’ll talk to you about shoes again!
I mentioned previously that I was thinking about creating a pair of hand-painted Toms. I was a bit nervous about doing it myself because Toms are not exactly the least expensive shoe around.
I took some time to think about what I was hoping for and to sketch it out.
I traced the shoe and sketched what the top looks like.
I went with a Moroccan pattern because I thought it was simple but fun. I found the pattern through a Google image search, printed it on card stock, and cut out the pattern to make a stencil.
Once I was happy with how it looked on paper, I used a pencil and traced the pattern onto the shoe using my stencil.
I have been a bit stressed. I can’t lie. But I managed to fit in just a couple more DIY projects at the last minute, so I’ve got some pretty picture for you! Hopefully I’ll find some time to snap pictures of the others, but my favorite project by far has been my painted shoes.
This is a project I’ve been thinking about since we first got engaged! I can’t believe I saved it right up until the last minute. So how did go down?
Since we were on the topic of shoes in my last post…
Most people who have spent some time with me (and most definitely if they have been shopping with me or even just looked in my closet) know that I love shoes. (I know that I’m not the only one, right? Right?!) This, of course, meant that finding shoes for the wedding was going to be a fun and important process.
Personal photo of my favorite pair of shoes
One thing that holds me back on shoes is that I have a bad knee, which makes high heels a problem for long wear. I knew I wanted heels for the ceremony and pictures, but I also knew that it wasn’t realistic for me to wear heels for the whole day.
One of my bridesmaids had a thing on her personal blog for a while where she would pick a shoe that reminded her of a specific friend and explain why the shoe was representative of the friend. I always thought this was a neat idea.
Since I’ve spent a goodly amount of time looking at shoes in order to put together what I’d like to look like on our wedding day*, it has given me ample opportunity to find shoes that remind me of my bridesmaids.
So, without further ado, introducing the bridal party with shoes!
Maid Of Honor Tart has been my friend since I was five years old. I was originally better friends with her older sister (Tart is two years younger than I am), but over the years I grew closer and closer to Tart. Tart understands me better than most people and has been there for me through thick and thin. She’s practical but fun and (like this all around adorable shoe) is great to have in many different situations. This shoe especially reminds me of her because her favorite color is pink.
While James, our photographer, was out taking photos with the guys, I was busy inside the parlor of the church getting ready for the ceremony.
Like I said before, we didn’t really get many photos of me and my girls “getting ready,” which was totally my fault for being so behind schedule. James did run into the parlor after I had done my hair and makeup to snap a few photos of me before I put on my dress, though.
Here I am writing my love letter to Mr. A. This is kind of funny, because I had been bugging/reminding him to write his all week, and I ended up waiting until the last possible minute to write mine! Typical Mrs. A behavior, right there.
I wore the Plum Pretty Sugar robe Mr. A got me for Valentine’s Day while I was getting ready, and I’m so glad James was able to capture a few pictures of me in it! And although I had only about an hour and a half to get my hair and makeup done, I didn’t really feel rushed at all. The only snafu was realizing I had not brought the eyelash glue for my falsies, so BM Dancer ran to the nearest CVS to pick some up for me. Aside from that, the whole getting ready process was golden, and I was so glad I decided to DIY my hair and makeup. Being able to concentrate on something so familiar and routine for me like putting on my makeup really took away a huge chunk of the stress I had been feeling. And the DIY makeup trials I had done before were completely irrelevant by the time our day rolled around. I simply did a heavier version of my everyday makeup with liquid liner and false eyelashes. Badabing, badaboom. Done and done.
I like shoes and all, but finding the perfect shoes for my wedding outfit has never been at the top of my to-do list. I know a lot of girls are super interested in the search for the perfect shoe—check out Miss Airplane’s posts on her shoe search if you feel like this post leaves you lacking in enough shoe envy for the day! This post is keeping it simple, so consider yourself warned.
I decided a while back to wear flats for the wedding. It’s less of a height issue than a comfort issue—but I don’t mind not having to worry about pictures making me look taller than Mr. Lemur (I’m not!) or towering over anyone (which I wouldn’t, since I’m only 5’5″…). But flats it was, and since it’s a late spring/early summer wedding, I was leaning toward wearing sandals. The casual vibe of the wedding lends itself toward dressy sandals, I think, and I happen to be very partial to that style.
I actually know exactly what shoe I want. I owned it once. It was a flat gray sandal from New York & Company with ruffled flowers down the front of the strap. I bought the pair two years ago for less than $10 on sale and wore them four times a week for the rest of the summer—no joke. They fit perfectly, were flattering, went with everything, and were super comfortable. I frequently would walk to work (three miles round trip) without blisters or sore feet.
Not surprisingly, given how much I wore them and the fact that I didn’t pay much for them to begin with, they wore out by the end of the year. I went back to New York & Company the next summer to find another pair, but I couldn’t even find anything similar.
This week it’s all about the accessories! To find out about the headpiece and jewelry that I’ll be wearing, please check out my last post here!
I think there are two camps of women concerning wedding shoes. The ones who are shoe addicts who can’t wait to splurge on a pair of designer heels for their wedding and the ones who hate shoe shopping and just want to pick a pair and get it over with. Yup, I’m in the second camp. I like shoes alright, but I don’t go out of my way to lust over them. I like high quality, stylish, and well-made shoes that are comfortable and versatile. Not many bridal shoes fit all those criteria, but there are so many beautiful pairs of shoes out there and marketing has worked its magic on me. As such, I am somehow only drawn to shoes in the $250.00—$350.00 range. Yikes! (BHLDN, I’m looking at you.) Unfortunately such luxurious shoes simply don’t fit into my meager teacher budget.
Let’s take a moment and stare wistfully at shoes that are completely out of my budget. Can you hear me sighing pathetically?
|All shoes via BHLDN|
I tried checking out the used shoe sections of websites (like here on Weddingbee’s Classifieds or preownedweddingdresses.com) and I barely lost out on an ebay auction for an amazing pair of used Badgley Mischka’s. But it is a serious time investment and honestly guys, ain’t nobody got time for that. This is referred to as search costs in microeconomics. At some point the cost of searching the internet for used shoes in the correct color, size, and condition outweighed the benefit of the deal I would conceivably score. Essentially I got frustrated and gave up. That’s when I spied these unconventional beauties on StyleMePretty a few weeks ago:
I apologize if shoes aren’t your thing. And if a two-part shoe saga really isn’t your thing, then maybe you should skip this next part.
But if shoes really are your thing, then stay tuned for shoe porn!
After the disappointment of losing my first shoe love, I rebounded—hard. I ordered three new pairs of shoes hoping to feel that spark again.
Kristin Cavallari for Chinese Laundry, Copertina in New Nude via Zappos
Bees, I am so sad to report…that I had to return the wedding shoes of my dreams.
Ha! Did I get ya?
Seriously, though, I’m majorly bumming. I thought I had found the perfect pair of shoes for my wedding-day ensemble, but alas, the story has an unhappy ending—for now, anyway.
I have this list of things that I want to do before I turn 30. One of them is own a designer pair of shoes. I’ve always dreamed of such a ridiculously frivolous purchase as a pair of Manolos or one day having that flash of Christian Louboutin red on my soles.
iWant / Christian Louboutin Angelique in Black / Photo: Neiman Marcus
I knew Mr. Plane wouldn’t allow me a $1,000 line for shoes on the wedding budget, but I figured spending a little bit of my own money on a really awesome pair of shoes wouldn’t hurt.
My initial search was a lengthy one. I wanted something different, something bold, something that would look amazing in wedding photographs! But also something comfortable—if I’m going to spend a few benjies, I want to wear these things all night. I looked for shoes in our wedding colors (yellow and orange), but the colors were too bright. I finally settled on blush pink, and in desperation entered “most comfortable heels” into Google. Somehow I ended up with these:
Remember how I bought a pair of custom designed shoes from a shop on Etsy three and a half months before our wedding? Well, I did. I had a great experience with the owner of the shop and I paid $200 for my gorgeous crystal-covered, tartan highlighted heels.
Warning: Shoe porn ahead. All you recovering addicts, look away.
Hello, my name is Miss Camera and I am addicted to shoes (hiii Miss Cameraaaa).
It’s a little unreasonable. I buy shoes three or four pairs at a time sometimes (for the record, not since our engagement!), and sometimes I don’t even have an event in mind when I buy them. I just HAVE TO HAVE them. I have flats, flip-flops, sneakers, high heels, wedges, and boots, like any good shoe addict.
For the past 20-plus years, I have been planning a wedding in my head in general terms, but I had a picture of a certain shoe that I just KNEW I would have:
Badgley Mischka Randee / Image via Heels.com
I die. Literally, I am dead. Someone call an ambulance.