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I’m not really superstitious or one to believe in “luck”, but I may just use this lucky penny on the wedding day - if not just for picture-taking purposes.

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Hello everyone at WeddingBee!

I have a question that I hope to get some insight on. MY FI and I hope to get married sometime in the middle of next year The date has not been set. My mother is gung ho and is trying to do everything super Chinese…in spite of the fact my FI isn’t. She bought up a point that, traditionally with the Chinese, when there is a death in the family (she is worried that may happen next year since both my grandmothers are quite old), the wedding must be postponed for 1000 days (or 3 years). She insists that if either one of my grandmothers passes away, that I have to postpone the wedding.

Now, to me, this is just not practical. After all, if invites are out and venues and things have been booked, to postpone for three years is asking too much. My FI and I have been dating since our first year of university. We would like to get married and yet I am afraid our refusal to postpone a wedding will cause some family rift.

I was wondering if any of the bees or readers are worried about this problem? Or perhaps, if such an unfortunate event was to occur next year, what we can do? I should also add that my mother and father are very inflexible to any suggestions made by me.

Help!

As always,
Paige (^_^)

Part I

My grandfather came back into town yesterday and he asked me when my wedding was. He then commenced to open his “special asian calendar voo-doo book” as I like to call it.

Grandfather: “OOOH! You picked a really good date! It’s one of the best days you could’ve picked out of the whole year - it falls on a full moon……. If you had picked the day after (Saturday = my mother’s choosing), it would’ve been a really bad day! Not lucky at all - it’s a really ugly day!”

Go figure.

Regardless, everything is already set it stone - I signed all the contracts, paid all my deposits/vendors. The end!

Wedding voo-doo- guru edition

Background story: My grandfather checked with 2 different “elders” to see what dates would be auspicious for our wedding. They both said our date and the weekend before our date were great dates, so I went ahead and picked one and booked all my vendors.

Yesterday evening, my mother calls me from Vietnam. She tells me that she went to consult 2 MORE of those monks that tell your “fortune” / look for an auspicious wedding date for you.

This is what she tells me:

“You can’t get married on the date that you chose! Don’t tell FI, but he was born on a very dark day! If you marry him on the date you picked, then you’ll DIE!

I know it’s too late because you can’t back out of this marriage since you two are already in love, but I thought you should know…. I already consulted with 2 different guys and they said the same thing!”

Me: WTF - why would you tell me that?!?

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Are any brides who are not ordinarily superstitious, but are nonetheless following any wedding-related superstitions?

There are some culturally-originating superstitions in the family I am marrying into. Although I do not personally feel that anything ominous will happen if I do or fail to do such-and-such, I find myself respecting these little traditional superstitions all the same, maybe just to avoid the criticism/teasing for not being aware of them. (Or heaven forbid something does go wrong, and somehow it will be attributed to my failure to respect the superstition!)

Anyone else following suit or abiding by any superstitions of your own?

Iris