Weddingbee Boards Terms of Service and Conduct
Here at Weddingbee, our mission is to create a friendly, supportive place where brides and grooms can ask questions, share resources, and make friends during their wedding planning process and beyond. We value robust discussion and encourage support between our community members who come from many backgrounds and have many different viewpoints. It is inevitable that from time to time members may have differences of opinion. It is easy for those differences to dissolve into petty arguments, name calling, and judgment, instead of supportive and respectful dialogue. While we value the differences that make us individuals, we also cherish the sense of community that the hive represents.
We prefer a hands-off approach to moderation, and give great consideration to the moderation decisions we have to make. In order to facilitate our moderation philosophy we encourage members of the Weddingbee Community to self-moderate and to help keep this a civil, supportive, and positive site! We also encourage members to use the flag feature to provide feedback to the moderation team. More about the flag feature can be found here. Comments that clearly violate the terms of this commenting policy may be edited or removed by the moderation team as necessary.
Commenting Guidelines for All Members
i. We don’t allow posts that are intended to be rude, sarcastic, insulting, berating, argumentative, condescending, or personally attacking, or that otherwise harass users of the Weddingbee site. Please do not post threads or comments for the sole purpose of criticizing, mocking, or otherwise disparaging others’ wedding, waiting, or nesting choices. Weddingbee is a diverse community with members across the globe. No single culture is better than any other, and we value every member’s perspective. We reserve the right to remove such posts as necessary.
ii. While individuals sometimes disagree, we expect such disagreements to be handled in a mature manner. Please refrain from leaving comments that exhibit intolerance for individuals or groups of people including excessive rudeness, defamatory remarks, racist remarks, threats, or profanity directed at other members.
iii. While Weddingbee is an adult site and we do allow the use of profanity in an expressionistic way, please refrain from swearing at other members or using unnecessary profanity in thread titles, as many of our members use the site in a professional setting.
iv. Please refrain from name calling. Whether it’s directed toward another community member with whom you’re having a disagreement, or toward someone you suspect is only here to cause trouble (a.k.a. a “troll”), it’s never acceptable to call another member names on Weddingbee.
v. Please refrain from baiting. Baiting is the act of encouraging responses or replies in order to cause dissent or discord; to instigate participation in a negative way. Anytime you call attention to drama you’re amplifying it and actively participating in it, which is a violation of these policies. This includes “last wording” or refusing to let an argument go. For more information about name calling and baiting, please see this thread.
vi. Anyone “trolling” or posting solely to create drama or conflict for Weddingbee, our members, hostesses, bloggers, or our volunteer moderators will be immediately banned.
vii. Users are only allowed one account. If you feel the need to post something very personal or very private, you may create a secondary account for that purpose; but we ask that you stop using that account after your question is answered. Additional accounts opened for the sake of starting drama, being rude anonymously, or responding to yourself will be closed immediately. The user will be warned and, depending on the nature of what happened, risks losing their main account. You can read more about sockpuppets on Weddingbee here.
viii. We do not allow members to self promote on the boards. This includes but is not limited to the following: links to your personal blog or website (outside of the monthly “Share Your Blogs” thread), contests that you, your friends, or your family are a part of, your or your friends’ or family members’ Etsy shops or other business ventures, your classified ads or other sale items, invite codes for sale sites, and other links that may afford you, your friends, or your family members tangible gain. This also includes links to websites for the purpose of fundraising for charities, political causes, or any other projects or causes, as well as links to online petitions. We also request that members not use the site to conduct market research, school research, or other information gathering for personal gain. Signature lines are not permitted. For information on the history of our self promotion policy, you can see the original discussions here and here.
ix. Please use photos with discretion. This means you should avoid using photos of individuals who are not aware that you are posting their image. Stock photos, advertisements, and inspiration photos are acceptable. It is often helpful to post a link for attribution. If you are unsure whether it is okay to use a certain photo, please ask the photographer or publisher prior to using it.
x. Please avoid threadjacking on Weddingbee. Be courteous of threads that others have started, and focus on the original question or discussion. If you would like to start a discussion about a subject tangential to a thread, please start a new thread to pursue it. You can see this thread for more information.
xi. Members come and go, but we discourage “flounce” posts (hasty goodbyes criticizing Weddingbee or its users that are written to stir up drama). We reserve the right to delete or close these posts if they are particularly disruptive to the community.
xii. Please do not link to or reference other discussion boards with the intent to disparage their members, content, or staff.
xiii. Private messages (PMs) are private. Please do not repost PMs you receive on the boards and do not share PMs with other members without permission from the original sender.
xiv. Hostesses and moderators volunteer their time/efforts and work hard to make Weddingbee a fun, helpful, and supportive community. We welcome discussion about our policies, but opinions and statements about individual moderators, the moderation team as a whole, or moderation decisions should be made to Mrs. Mouse by private message. We expect moderators, as a group and as individuals, to be treated with the same respect as other board members and the same rules apply regarding personal attacks.
xv. Discussions involving the following will be closed and/or deleted: (1) illegal content; (2) content in facilitation of the creation, advertising, distribution, provision or receipt of illegal goods or services; (3) offensive content (including, without limitation, court ordered defamatory statements, threatening, hateful or pornographic content); (4) content that discloses another’s personal, confidential or proprietary information; (5) false or fraudulent content (including but not limited to false, fraudulent or misleading responses to user ads transmitted via our sites and services); (6) malicious content (including, without limitation, malware or spyware); (7) content that offers, promotes, advertises, or provides links to posting or auto-posting products or services, account creation or auto-creation products or services, flagging or auto-flagging products or services, bulk telephone numbers, or any other product or service that if utilized with respect to our sites and services would violate these TOU or our other legal rights; and (8) content that offers, promotes, advertises or provides links to unsolicited products or services.
There are times when a member remains unresponsive to our requests to abide by the commenting policy. When this occurs it may become necessary for a member to be banned. Members will be made aware that this is a possibility and given an opportunity to abide by the commenting policy. If they are unable to do so, then the ban will go into effect.
Weddingbee currently supports the ability for members to edit any post you create within one hour’s time by clicking the “Edit” button beneath the post you’re attempting to change. After that time, information you’ve posted can only be deleted if you have disclosed your full name, street address, or other clearly identifying information. To have such information removed, please visit this support thread and follow the steps to request removal. If your request does not meet this criteria it will not be removed. Personal information in your username is not grounds for deletion; we strongly recommend selecting a username that does not reveal your identity. It is strongly recommended that you not post personal information on the boards and use caution when sharing personal information by Private Message. You are responsible for the personal information you share online.
For more, visit the Weddingbee boards user-deletion function FAQ.
All members are allowed a one time username change. It is strongly recommended you do not use any personally identifying information in your username. This option is only available one time per account.
Review of Flagged Boards Topics
When the number of flags on a thread exceeds the volume that our volunteer moderation team is available to handle at that moment, and the moderation team determines that content on one or more threads contains multiple issues that need to be addressed in a manner that can’t be accomplished in live-time, the thread will be removed from the site until adequate moderation of the thread can occur. When a thread is removed from the site, a closed thread with an identical topic name to the original topic (“placeholder thread”) will be posted publicly to the boards, with a note from admin that the thread has been taken down off the site for review and will return when adequate moderation of the flagged posts has occurred.
The thread may return either as an open or closed thread, depending on whether the discussion has stayed on course of its intended/original topic or not. Any new threads generated for the sole purpose of discussing the moderated thread that has been pulled down for review will be closed and/or removed, with a reference to the the “placeholder thread” added before closure/removal.”
Leaving Vendor Reviews
Our brides often wish to share their experiences with wedding vendors to help other brides. You can do this by visiting our Vendor Reviews section and entering your own review, where it will be easy for other brides to find while researching their vendors. However, if you wish to also post on the boards about your experience with a vendor, the following guidelines apply:
iv. When posting about vendors, be responsible and fair. It’s never appropriate to talk about “destroying” a vendor. Any such statements may result in your post being removed.
Vendor Participation on Weddingbee
Vendors are welcome to use the site for personal use, but not to promote their own company on the Boards, Blog, Bios, DIY, Classifieds, or Gallery pages – including links to their website, store, blog, or Facebook page. We also do not allow vendors to post their email address or phone number on the boards or blog. Vendors who fail to comply with the following rules may have their accounts revoked at any time without warning.
v. Post contact information in the location field of their profile.