Well, folks, we’ve now come to my favorite part of our wedding ceremony: the promises and the bling. Since we both decided to write our own vows independently and not share them until the big day, the thing I was most looking forward to (even more than drinking wine and eating chocolate!) was hearing what Mr. Star had written as his marital promises. And let me tell you, the man did not disappoint.
Now, I am not a crier. I did not expect to cry. I did not expect to chuckle. But he made me and everyone else who was there do both.
I made cute little booklets in about five minutes just so we wouldn’t be reading from ugly scraps of paper. You have no idea how hard it is to make vows you’re not allowed to read into a pretty booklet!
After the very moving Circle of Love, we made our way back up onstage and continued on to what would be considered the “marriage address”, in traditional ceremony terms.
What it really was for us was a short section written mostly by Momma Star and my Stepdad about what marriage meant to them, and it included a reading from Madeleine L’Engle that I really wanted to incorporate. … read more
Something that I wanted to incorporate which has become quite popular in wedding ceremonies these days is what’s called the “declaration of support”, or the section of the ceremony where the officiant asks the wedding guests to promise to support the couple in their marriage.
I loved the idea of getting our wedding guests involved like that, but wanted to make it a little more powerful than just getting them to say, “we do,” so we decided to have a moment where we created a literal circle of love.
Way back when, I told you all about how I was writing the entire ceremony from scratch. I promised to share the end result with you, in the hopes that it might help some of you who are as overwhelmed as I was by the whole process, and also as a way of thanking you for your input and influence on our wedding ceremony.
I’ve decided that the best way to do this is by working the text of our ceremony into my recaps, interspersed with pictures and commentary from the major moments — and I will do my best not to bore you!
For anyone who is currently undertaking their own similar adventure in ceremony writing, I highly recommend The Wedding Ceremony Planner by Judith Johnson as a good place to start. I mostly just used it to outline the basic structure of our ceremony, and then chose meaningful readings and wrote my own words on what each section of the ceremony meant to us.
If you do get the chance to write your own ceremony, I can’t stress enough what an incredible experience it is. … read more
Dear hive — please play the following song as you read this post, if you are able. I promise it’s a worthwhile listen!
Thank you, Lifehouse.
Now that all of our besties had their moment and were standing onstage waiting patiently, there was only one person missing (well, two, if you count my Dad!): the bride!
I went back and forth on what music I wanted to walk down the aisle to for most of our engagement. Much like Miss Nachos, I have always love love LOVED Pachebel’s Canon in D, and Momma Star and I used to play it as a piano duet when I was little, so it has a lot of sentimental value to me. The problem was, it really didn’t fit in with any of the rest of our music or with the overall feel of our wedding, so it just wasn’t right for the big showstopper moment in the ceremony. … read more
Like I’ve mentioned before, there were many times in my wedding planning when I caught some flack for forgoing the traditional wedding day limo ride, in favor of a more affordable and more authentic New York taxi, which is where the inspiration for this set of photos came from:
I just really wanted that iconic yellow in the background of some of our photos.