I’m chiming in on the “Before and After” questionnaire that Miss Border Collie and Mrs. Barn so cleverly came up with. Here are my “Before” answers, and once the wedding is over, I’ll come back to revisit the questions and add my “After” answers. I think it’ll be interesting to see how similar or different they’ll be!
1. What is your biggest priority for the event (e.g., catering, photography)?
This is a tough one. Is “Everything” an acceptable answer? We want our guests to enjoy amazing food, amazing music, and have amazing pictures of all of it at the end of the day so it’s hard to pinpoint one priority. I guess if we were to make the direct correlation between importance and dollars, then the venue/catering is our top priority. But I also did a ridiculous amount of research on photography because capturing wedding memories was essential to us—especially after hearing over and over from veteran brides that the day goes by in a blur.
2. What is your biggest concern for the day (e.g., rain, nobody dancing, guests being bored)?
By far, my biggest concern is logistics and transportation. In a place like NYC or Brooklyn, getting from point A to point B is not so simple. Those who have cars need to contend with one way streets and street parking or expensive parking garages. Those who don’t have cars need to navigate the subway system or hail a taxi. Depending on the time of day and weather situation, taxis can be easy to come by or almost impossible to catch. And whether you have a car or not, you will always be on the losing end of a battle with traffic and/or construction. We’ve arranged for shuttle buses to transport guests to and from our various wedding sites to help with these issues, but with so many variables out of our control, I’m still nervous that our plans will go awry: shuttles will be late, traffic will cause delays, guests will get left behind, etc. Ack, let’s not dwell on the negative…moving on to question three.
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3. What DIY project do you care about the most?
I don’t know if it qualifies as a DIY project since all I did was some photo printing and cutting, but the memorial locket pins in honor of Mr. S’s mom, Momma Dukes, are most special to me. The invitations were our big DIY project, but they’ll eventually (hopefully not in the near future) be thrown away. (I can finally say that out loud without wanting to stab myself in the eye with a box cutter.) The locket pins though…I think the boys will keep those around for a long time. Mr. S even got a little teary-eyed when we pinned it to the inside of his tux jacket. That moment alone was worth so much more than letterpressed paper and gold envelope liners.
4. What is your worst wedding-related nightmare?
My worst wedding-related nightmare actually became my reality when our original venue, reBar, shut down unexpectedly. That whole fiasco feels like a lifetime ago (the wedding insurance definitely helped to make it a distant memory) and fortunately since then I haven’t been plagued by too many wedding nightmares. (Mr. S on the other hand…) When I do have them, they usually revolve around me forgetting a major component on the day of the wedding (no flowers, no cake, no dress, etc.), then waking up in a panic and rushing to my wedding checklist to make sure I hadn’t forgotten it in real life.
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5. Do you think you are going to eat?
I’m pretty sure there is no worse combination than Hangry + Bridezilla, so come hell or high water, I. Will. Eat. During our menu finalization meeting with the coordinator at the Liberty Warehouse, I made it expressly clear that I intend to eat all of the delicious food we had just discussed. I believe I actually asked, “So, how are we going to make sure I eat?” He assured me that the event captain will pull us aside and have plates of food ready so that we can chow down. And in case the event captain can’t catch me, I’ve already warned my bridesmaids that I reserve the right to commandeer a few bites of whatever they are eating from their plates. The girls are more than happy to indulge me.
6. What is the picture you think you have to have?
Our family photo: Mr. S, me, and Chunk. I was doubtful that we’d be able to figure out a way to make this happen, but with the help of our dog trainer we have a loose plan to get Chunk to our First Look. Yay!
7. What is your biggest fear about what could go wrong versus what was the worst thing that happened at your wedding?
My biggest fear is probably logistics / transportation related (see #2 above).
8. What are you looking forward to the most?
The mini-moon, duh! Just kidding…sort of. These 14 months of wedding planning have been fun, but I’ve reached the point where I just want to be married already. Still, looking forward to “being married already” is pretty broad, so I’ll narrow it down and say I’m most looking forward to the moment when the doors to the church open and I see all our friends and family looking back to me, my dad walking me down the aisle, and Mr. S waiting for me at the end of it. In my mind, that is the quintessential bride moment.
9. What do you think your guests will enjoy the most?
Let’s be real—the open bar.
10. What do you plan on doing after the wedding is over?
This is still TBD. Our reception ends at 11:30pm, and with bars normally closing at around 4:00am here, there’s still plenty of time to keep the party going with our guests who are willing. We’ve tossed around the idea of wrapping up the night at our go-to karaoke bar in Korea Town or congregating at a bar close to our hotel, but no plans have been set in stone as of yet. Of course, the option to just pass out is always appealing.
Bonus: Do you intend on donning lingerie for the evening?
Um, does Spanx count as lingerie?? Once I get out of my wedding dress at the end of the night, I’ll change into something more comfortable. (It could be long-sleeved flannel pajamas or it could be my birthday suit, but I’ll never tell here because my mother reads this blog.) But while that wedding dress is on, I am all about the suffocating shapewear. Mr. S already knows what’s up.
Me: Look what I bought for under my wedding dress!
Mr. S (looking hopeful, then dejected): Granny panties. Yay.
Me: Not just any granny panties…MAGIC granny panties!