Well hive, it’s time. It’s been a year since I made my debut on the Weddingbee blog as Miss Squid, Mr. S and I have been married five months now, I got one of those obligatory post-wedding chop haircuts, and with our recaps done and dusted, I think farewells are upon us.
I’ve returned to familiar ombre highlights, but I can’t remember the last time my hair was above boob length.
I can’t seem to fully express how being a part of this community has enriched our whole wedding / wedding-planning experience. From the happiest moments to the darkest times, DIY successes and disasters, you were there for me. And for that, I sincerely thank you.
So what’s next for the Squids? A house! Yes, a whole house in New Jersey with multiple bedrooms, a dining table, washer/dryer, and dishwasher. Imagine that!
Our little ranch house in the suburbs
But this is not just any house. This is the house directly across the street from my parents. It’s like my own personal version of Everybody Loves Raymond. Hilarity is sure to ensue.
You thought I was exaggerating? I’m not.
There’s a long story to how we ended up buying the house across the street, but the short story is that the opportunity for a great deal suddenly presented itself and Mr. S and I sorta, kinda threw caution to the wind and decided to go for it. Yes, our first home was an impulse purchase. We are very bad at being grown-ups.
We haven’t actually, officially moved in yet (I’m holding on to my NYC status for as long as I can / until the lease on our rental is up at the end of this month), but renovating our new home is where all our energy has been re-directed to for these past five months. And similar to planning our wedding, homeownership comes with a whole new set of ups, downs, and budget battles—moments of delight and satisfaction coupled with “Holy shit, what did we get ourselves into?!?” and occasional outbursts of “WE KNOW NOTHING!!!”
But we have made great strides, I think, in making the 1950s ranch house our home, and with each completed project I find it easier to say goodbye to NYC and hello to the New Jersey suburbs. (Well, not completely goodbye to NYC since we’ll still be commuting to the city for work.) And every time I see Chunk frolicking in the grass or chasing down the ever elusive neighborhood cat (we still don’t know if he wants to play with it or eat it, but we’re not going to try and find out), I know we made the right decision.
The living room when we purchased the house
Work in progress after removing a wall and gutting the kitchen
Our open concept living/dining area and kitchen today
As for blogging, my time here on the ‘Bee has made me realize just how much I enjoy writing and storytelling, so I’m returning to my roots at my personal blog, the Urban Rice Ball, with renewed energy and commitment to chronicle our little and large everyday adventures. Feel free to drop by and say hello; I would be thrilled to have you there!
I’ll also continue to wax poetic about all things wedding at eventrie—a start-up online event planning resource in the pre-launch stages of life. I’ve been good friends with the mastermind behind eventrie for years now, and she’s asked me to come on board as the website’s resident blogger to help her grow the business. Of course, I’m honored and flattered to join her.
Aside from all that, it’s just back to normal life for Mr. S and me. Some friends ask if I miss planning our wedding and I can honestly say, “Not really.” Of course I still enjoy perusing wedding blogs, and it’s interesting to see what’s trending in bridal fashion nowadays, but I’m happy to return to a time when our wedding wasn’t at the forefront of my mind 24/7, when every conversation didn’t begin with “So, how’s the wedding planning going?” and when we could carelessly spend our money without feeling guilty about how it would affect our wedding budget. Obsession can be exhausting. (I mean, of course all those things could now be applied to our new house, but that project is still fresh enough that the novelty hasn’t yet worn off. Obsession can also be addicting.)
But this, blogging for Weddingbee and interacting with you all, I can say with certainty that I will absolutely miss it. Terribly. So it’s not a forever farewell—I’ll still be around, reading and commenting on the blog, following along with all the current and new bees, and checking out what’s buzzing in the boards. I’ve been a fan of Weddingbee long before I was engaged, and I foresee myself being a fan for long after our wedding.
To the hive and my fellow blogger bees—thank you for having me, for letting me share our story, for always being a friendly ear and a kind voice. It has been an honor and a privilege.
Mrs. Squid / Erika