No, this post is not about venue choice. I wish it had been that straightforward at the beginning. This post is about cities. What city would we physically have the wedding in? Our three choices were:
1. Cincinnati, Ohio
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- My hometown.
- I lived there for 18 years of my life.
- It would be easy for a number of people from my family to attend.
- My mom and sisters could be my wedding slaves helpers.
- I hadn’t lived in there for seven years, and as an adult I didn’t have any ties to the location, just the people.
- I would feel pressure to invite A LOT more people to the wedding—old family friends, neighbors, etc.
- Mr. Squirrel and I would have to plan everything from afar.
2. Little Rock, Arkansas
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- This was where Mr. Squirrel and I met and we have so many favorite spots and great memories as a couple.
- It would be convenient for Mr. Squirrel’s family and, since my family outnumbers his by about 4:1, it was very important to me that his family has a good showing.
- Plus, Mr. Squirrel’s family could help with a lot of the planning.
- Little Rock is very difficult to fly into (small city, lots of connections, and pricey flights).
- It would be a big investment for all out-of-town guests.
- We would have to plan everything from afar.
3. Tampa, Florida
Image by JMany Fine Art Photography
- Having our wedding in this new city would help us make memories and feel connected to Tampa.
- I could craft to my heart’s desire because I wouldn’t have to bring everything on an airplane.
- Tampa is easy to fly into (and there are three other airports nearby).
- There is a beach! Who doesn’t love a beach?
- 100% of the guests would have to travel.
- Neither of our families would be close to help with the planning.
Ugh. It was hard, because no city was perfect. Regardless of which one we chose, someone was going to lose out or pay more.
So many people said, “Well, aren’t you just having it in Cincinnati?” because that is the traditional thing to do, have it in the bride’s hometown. But we didn’t feel like we automatically had to jump on the tradition boat, and we decided to have the wedding in:
We knew in our hearts this was the best choice for us. We both feel great about this decision. I know I would have been bummed delegating tasks to people in another city, and we have found some really neat areas in our wedding-vendor search. Our families have been really supportive, and I have been crafting up a storm.
Did anyone else feel pressure about choosing a city based on family obligations or tradition?