First Look Debate
Ah, to first look or not to first look, that is the question. Plenty of other bees before me have weighed the pros and cons of doing one, and inevitably the question comes up on the Weddingbee boards all the time. The Dreamcatchers didn’t feel very strongly in either direction, and after carefully weighing our options, decided it would be a good fit for us.
Our reasons were pretty typical. It allowed more time for pictures, which was a huge priority for me. (We got SO many amazing photos—this really paid off!) We figured it would help calm both of our nerves if we could be together for a hot second before having 160 people staring at us. (We were absolutely right on this aspect!) Finally, we figured the moment would be a little more genuine since we’d be able to hug and chat, instead of having to stand rigidly in front of our officiant and guests. (Right again!) Ultimately, doing a first look was one of the best decisions we made for the day.
Like I said in my last post, we were running a tiny bit behind schedule, and I was starting to feel the nerves. I have never wanted so desperately to see Mr. Dreamcatcher in my whole life. I headed downstairs with our photographers/videographers, and they went outside to find the best location. That gave me a couple minutes alone where I think it finally hit me. This was our wedding day, the day I had dreamed about for so very long. Just as I started to get really nervous and a little teary eyed, I heard the door open and was thrilled to find my bridesmen coming in to escape the sun. Since our photo/video teams were outside setting up the first look, it didn’t get captured on film, but this was an ultra sweet moment with two of my best (and oldest!) friends since they hadn’t seen my dress at all yet.
Two of my favorite boys!
Soon after our little bonding moment, I was told it was time to come outside and meet Mr. Dreamcatcher. FINALLY. Disclaimer #1: All photos taken by the amazing Laurel Mountain Photography! Disclaimer #2: My face is RIDICULOUS in most of these. I must love you, hive, to make these public, haha.
Seriously, what is my face? But Mr. D is looking so handsome!
The “OMG you look so great” moment:
The Mrs. Dreamcatcher starts crying:
The Mr. Dreamcatcher makes me laugh:
The “You look so handsome/beautiful”:
And finally, The “I can’t believe we’re actually here” happiness:
Like I said, the first look was perfect for us. Mr. Dreamcatcher actually says it’s his favorite part of the whole day, and it’s pretty up there for me, too. I was so calm after seeing Mr. D, all of my cares completely melted away for the rest of the day. 😀
Dreamcatcher Tip #9: If the main reason you want to do a first look is to get that Pinterest-amazing-surprised-look from your groom, you may want to think again because you could be setting yourself up for disappointment. In our case, Mr. Dreamcatcher is not very expressive, especially around others, especially especially around others with cameras. And that’s perfectly OK! Our photos aren’t as tear-jerking as the Narwhals’ (few are, though!), but the moment was just as dear. And definitely don’t pressure your partner to look a certain way…it could end up being fake looking, which defeats the whole purpose anyway!
- My dress almost doesn’t happen.
- I get by with a little help from my friends.
- We stumble through a rehearsal.
- We give some awesome gifts.
- Flow it, show it, hair, hair, hair, hair.
- Stuff gets sprayed on my face and makes me pretty.
- It takes one mom and six bridesmaids to dress me.
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