I haven’t mentioned our stance on the name-change game in all of the months I’ve been blogging on Weddingbee. I’m not quite sure why: it just never came up, I suppose. We’ve been wedding planning for such a long time now that we sort of just “forgot” about a few things that are going to be happening soon—making a decision about my surname being one of them.
I’m a primary school teacher. My kids this year are in year 1 and 2, so they range between the ages of 5-8, depending on when they started kindergarten. Kids that age are funny with teacher names. I think they grow up with so many older teachers that “Mrs” becomes something that they automatically associate with female teachers. That’s why, ever since I first started teaching, I’m used to being called “Mrs S.” It doesn’t matter how many times I correct them, or remind them that I’m not married yet and that I go by “Miss S”—they just instinctively call me whatever rolls off the tongue. They’re littlies, it happens. I go by all sorts of abbreviations; I’ve even been called “Mr. S” before—seriously.
Little Miss? Mr.? Mrs? Image via: Wikispaces
I’m not in a career where I’m building a name for myself with my surname. And while I’m very attached to my name (it’s my name!), after the wedding I will be taking Mr. Jaguar’s surname. There are a million reasons why I’e decided to do it, just as there are a million other reasons why keeping my maiden name would be as perfectly good a choice. At the end of the day though, I want us to form our own family—and if we have wee cubs in the future, I want us all to share the same name. (Also, I may or may not have been practising a signature with my new surname since oh, a few years before we got engaged? True story. Mr. Jaguar has a pretty name.)
Just because making the decision was a fairly easy one though, doesn’t mean that the transition will be. Mr. Jaguar has been teasing me lately by calling me “Mrs. D”—and it just doesn’t feel like ME yet. In my eyes, “Mrs. D” = future mother-in-law. And for as long as I can remember, whilst teaching I’ve always been “Miss (or Mrs!) S.” Coming back after the honeymoon as “Mrs D” is going to be SO WEIRD. And don’t even get me started on the trillions of documents I’ll need to switch over once the honeymoon is over—that’s going to be painful, I can tell.
Did you, or do you plan to, keep or change your surname after marriage?