There are SO many possibilities for any wedding, and while that freedom can be really liberating—it can also be overwhelming. I feel like, especially at the beginning, a lot of our planning consisted of “planning by omission.” Here’s a sampling, and why:
This is mainly because we couldn’t think of what we’d do with them. This might seem silly—of course you get engagement pictures done!—but beyond making a Facebook album and sending some to our folks, I was afraid they’d be sort of wasted. I knew early on I didn’t want to incorporate them into any of our paper products, and we chose a photographer largely based on her flexibility in exchanging an engagement shoot for extra wedding coverage. No regrets here.
Bouquet Toss/Garter Toss/Big Reception Entrance
We’re really trying to minimize the amount of time that 1) people’s eyes are on us and 2) is taken away from the party. I also get really nervous about logistics. What if my toss is not long enough? What if the garter gets stuck? Things like that. This just saves me some of that.
Flower Girl/Ring Bearer
Neither of us knows any little kids as most of our family members are grown. We could probably think of someone if we really put our minds to it, but I didn’t want to incorporate a child I wasn’t already close to into our ceremony.
Wedding Cake/Cake Cutting
Neither of us is big on dessert, and the cake cutting is yet another small moment that takes away from the party. Plus, cakes are so expensive! I know there’s symbolism in the cutting”¦but I honestly cannot tell you what it means. Plus, the donut thing sounds awesome.
What about you? Anything you’re NOT doing? Did anyone else “plan by omission” in the beginning?