Hive, what can I say? Thanks for the warm welcome, for reading, for your comments and suggestions, and for being such a great community.
Wedding planning was an interesting but good journey with a lot of ups, downs, and lessons learned. I would, in spite of the hiccups, do it all over again if I could as our wedding was truly an amazing day for Mr. Horseshoe and me. Our honeymoon was really the icing on the cake.
Our spring wedding was pretty awesome. | Photo by PMG Image
I wanted to share a few final pieces of advice as a married lady…
Make decisions for you and your fiancé(e). What I mean by this is that you’re probably going to hear, or have already heard, a whole lot of different opinions on how you should plan your wedding. You should do this, or you should only do that, etc. I encourage you to simplify things a bit and think, “Will this decision make my fiancé(e) and me happy?” If yes, go for it. The one caveat I would add to this piece of advice is to keep common sense and the comfort of your guests in mind when making these decisions.
Don’t be afraid to speak up. I think a lot of us are scared of being called a “bridezilla” and end up biting our tongues and not speaking up. We don’t want to seem too demanding or whatnot. I learned that not speaking up and being a “chillzilla” isn’t the best course of action either. There were a few times during wedding planning that I should have just listened to my gut and politely spoken up. I, instead, didn’t want to be a bother…but ended up not feeling entirely satisfied with that outcome.
Specifically speaking, I really should’ve listened to my gut regarding my bridal bouquet and followed up with the new owners of the floral company I was using. I instead thought, okay, let’s not be too demanding or picky here—it’ll work out. As you may know, the style of my bouquet ended up being quite a surprise for me and not at all what I had ordered. Sure, the cost of my bouquet was refunded…but I would have much rather had a bouquet that I really, really loved in all of our wedding photos. Don’t be afraid to check up on things—your vendors are professionals and can handle you following up on something.
One final shot of our ceremony | Photo by PMG Image
Mountains will become mole hills. I feel like, no matter how hard you try, something will inevitably go “wrong” on your wedding day. I asked my friends if their wedding days were 100% perfect, and not a single one said yes. One had red napkins show up instead of burgundy napkins, another ran out of wine and had to send friends to get more, and so forth. They all admitted that they were really upset by these things at the time, but they now just shrug at their misfortune and remember the good things about their wedding day. I’m now in the same boat. Just remember that “this too shall pass.”
Don’t overextend yourself. I had grand plans for lots of DIY projects. How quickly that went out the window! Be realistic about what you can and can’t do for your wedding. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from those who are offering it. And, finally, don’t overextend yourself financially when it comes to your wedding. You’d be amazed at how quickly things can add up when you think, “Well, it’s just an extra $100 to do this…”
Extend gratitude to those around you. I think this goes without saying. I am eternally grateful to those who offered help to Mr. Horseshoe and me.
Well, hive, it’s been a slice. I wish all of your success in your wedding planning, and hope that you have wonderful, fulfilling marriages.
All the best,