Now that Mr. M and I are in double-digit territory, I thought I’d share some lessons I’ve learned and things I’ve realized throughout this crazy wedding-planning process.
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- Your budget can easily be larger than what you originally thought it would be if 1) you’ve never planned a wedding before or 2) you have no idea the true cost of wedding things.
- You and your SO may argue about the most RIDICULOUS things for the wedding. How you overcome these arguments is probably good practice for your marriage.
- Establish with your family from the very beginning what you and your SO want for your wedding (whether that’s no children, or a circus act during the reception). This will save you from much stress later on when everyone and their mother thinks they can tell you what to do.
- Organization is key—it’s what holds everything together and helps you keep your sanity.
- Communication is key—if you are pissed at your bridesmaid (for example), take a step back before you snap and calmly assess the best way to handle the situation.
- Pick your battles wisely. Very wisely.
- No matter how strict you are, mom and dad will always manage to add extra guests to the guest list.
- If they do, only you can judge if the drama will pass or if it’ll cause World War 3 amongst your family.
- Some vendors just do not understand the value and stress relief of a prompt reply, but make sure you can spot the different between a vendor who just occasionally drops the ball on communication and one that communicates with you frequently until the deposit is paid and then falls off the face of the earth.
- Try not to let the little details sneak up on you. It’s better to do some tasks wayyy earlier in the planning game than to let them wait until the last minute.
- Resist the urge to talk about your wedding all the time…unless someone asks, of course.
- Don’t be afraid to make up your own rules when it comes to invitation wording. You’ll thank yourself later for it.
- A few invitations will get lost in the mail (for whatever reason). Once the invites have been out for at least two or three weeks, start following up with people who have not yet returned the RSVP card to ensure they’ve actually received the invite.
- Make sure you ordered a few extra invitations in case the above happens so you can re-send the invites if need be.
- Some guests are just incapable of returning the RSVP card despite how simple you make it for them. Kindly remind guests a few times that you’d really appreciate them mailing in their response (texting you or writing on your Facebook wall that they will be coming is not acceptable).
I imagine the next few months will bring even more lessons my way, so I’ll make sure to write a follow-up post.
Have any of the things above happened to you as well? Are there any other key lessons you’ve learned so far as you get closer to your wedding date?