One of my biggest pet peeves, in wedding planning and life, is the One-Upper. When you mention something in casual conversation, and they have to take it a step further. It’s worst when it’s a fellow bride. She asks about your invitations, and you mention that you’re doing them yourself.
So she says, “You’re designing your own invitations? Oh, I did too. I have a PhD in graphic design, and I’ve been featured in MSW seventeen times. My invitations are being letterpressed by Oprah, with calligraphy by the guy who did Angelina Jolie’s tattoos. We’re putting confetti inside the invites, only it’s not confetti—it’s real gold shavings.”
The only thing worse than a Penelope is person who says: “Oh, I wish I had time for that.”
It’s always said in the most patronizing way possible. You know—the type of girl who always has so much going on. “OMG, I’m so swamped with work right now, and I’m volunteering, and I’m blahblahblah. What’s that? You’re designing your own invitations? Oh, I wish I had time for that.”
Last time I checked, everyone on the planet has the exact same amount of time.
24 hours in a day. 7 days in a week. Yes, most of us work at least 40 hours a week. Some people also go to school. Or have kids. Maybe all 3, I don’t know. What I do know is that we make CHOICES for what we do with our time. When you say “Oh I wish I had time for that,” what you mean is: “I don’t budget the time I do have for it.” It means it’s not a priority for you. And that’s FINE. But should we really make another bride feel bad for putting time into the details?
There are a lot—a LOT—of wedding things that I’m simply unwilling to make time for. I have as much time as the next person who works full-time…but I just don’t care enough to spend my spare time on it. I already have a few beloved ways that I spend my extra time, and I’m not willing to sacrifice them for wedding crafts or whatever. But if I come across a bride who is devoting her spare time to thoughtful little details, I would never, EVER try to tell her that I don’t have time. I am just lazy. That is what I would tell her.
Have you encountered any One-Uppers or OMG-I’m-so-swamped types?