Scan All the Things! (Registering 101)

Remember how, as a kid, the Toys R Us holiday catalog would come in the mail and you’d go nuts circling everything you wanted? And, of course, you wanted everything? Well, I imagined that registering would pretty much be a grownup version of the Toys R Us holiday catalog—we’d scan ALL THE THINGS, and then people would buy them for us, and we’d all live happily ever after.

Here’s our current situation: Stallion and I have been cohabitating/living in sin for about three years now. Somewhere along the way, we stopped being heathens and acquired the trappings of adulthood such as dishes and forks. Shabby though it may be, we’ve more or less set up a household. We’ve got our basic needs covered.

So why register, you may ask?

The basic needs are covered, yes. The items meeting our needs? Not in the greatest condition. Chipped dishes, rusty forks, nonstick pans with peeling Teflon, knives barely sharp enough to cut through a stick of butter—you get the picture. Registering would be the perfect opportunity to upgrade our stuff to “keep forever” status.

That said, we needed to be choosy about what we put on the registry—at the end of the day, we still live in an apartment and will be doing so for the foreseeable future. So how to balance our desire for nice, new, shiny things with our limited space? Priorities, people! Before scanning an item, we decided that, given the item in question or its cash equivalent, which would we rather have? This way, only the things we really, truly want and/or need ended up on the registry. (Don’t even get me started on a rather distasteful practice I’ve heard of in which people register for items they don’t want at all, just so that they can return them for cash. Do people really do that? If you don’t need anything and you only want cash gifts, don’t register at all and tell people you’re saving for x/y/z goal. Don’t make people spend time going through your registry and making a selection for you that you don’t even want.)

Our registry items encompass three broad categories, as follows:

  1. Kitchen. I love to cook and spend a lot of time doing so, so having good quality kitchen equipment is important.
  2. Entertaining. This encompasses our everyday dishes/flatware (even meals for just the two of us are entertaining, you know) and special occasion china (because our families have made it clear that we’ll be stepping up to host holiday meals sooner rather than later). I’m not anticipating inheriting any family china, so I figure now would be as good a time as ever to get our own set.
  3. Linens. We’re ready to graduate from our threadbare, bleach-stained college dorm room towels to something a little nicer. As my BFF Donna would say”¦


For the record, do we expect to receive everything (or even most things) from the registry? Absolutely not. But for organizational purposes, it’s pretty helpful to list things we hope to upgrade in the future. Hello, Christmas and birthdays! Plus, the completion discounts following the wedding will be really helpful should we plan on doing some post-honeymoon shopping.

We opted to register at Crate & Barrel and Macy’s—both have a nationwide presence and are easily accessible for everyone, and they have everything we could possibly want. Since we started our registry on a whim, we didn’t think ahead and attend a registry event; we just showed up at the stores. The experiences couldn’t have been more different! At Crate & Barrel, they just gave us a scanning gun and let us loose, whereas at Macy’s, we had to sit down with a registry consultant first. Since we had no idea what we were doing, the Macy’s consultant (Loveeta at the Burlington Mall, for any Boston-area folks—an absolute gem!) ended up being extremely helpful. Both experiences were good, but if you’re not sure where to start with the registering process, I’d recommend hitting Macy’s or someplace with a consultant first.

What was your approach to registering? Any registry must-haves?

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  1. Bee
    buffalo 38 posts, Newbee @ 7:51 am

    We chose Macy’s and C&B too!! If you haven’t already registered, definitely go to their registry parties!! Mr. B was definitely a more agreeable person with free finger foods! Not to mention they ha giveaways and TONS of brand reps there!

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    Mila, Guest @ 7:54 am

    In defense of registering for things you dont want – we registered for more things bc there is a contingent of people who just dont like giving cash. They want to give STUFF regardless of the couples preference for cash. For those people, I wanted to make sure they had an option and didnt have to go out looking for a gift in the great wide world which might well turn out not to be something that we wanted.

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    jessc4343 103 posts, Blushing bee @ 8:13 am

    Registering for us was much the same approach – we’re both established adults who’ve recently moved in together. So, not only do we already have enough – some things we have two of (and I’m holding strong in keeping my spatulas, his are not pancake flipping quality!) We ended up going ahead and asking for some expensive items (10 place settings, a wine chiller, down comforter) and some less expensive things that I just haven’t been able to justify the purchase – a flour sifter or marble wine bottle cooler thingy – we’ve gotten along fine without them, but we’d just love to have either!

    Anyways, we ended up using the site as it allows us to pull in registries from multiple stores (C&B, SurLa Table, Target, ANNNND it let us link up a PayPal account in case anyone felt compelled to give us cash – they could do so pretty efficiently! It’s been a wonderful tool so far; I highly recommend it for those who haven’t already informed the masses of their registry address!

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    lac125 23 posts, Newbee @ 9:03 am

    We registered at Macy’s too. Went to the one in Herald Square because it has absolutely everything!

    Did you download their app? It’s fantastic and doubles as a scanner on your smartphone.

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    candy apple 441 posts, Helper bee @ 11:32 am

    We were also in the ‘living together for several years prior’ category, but we decided it wouldn’t hurt to update all of our old, chipped Ikea dishware and cheap flatware! 🙂

    Also, I know there are different thoughts on china, but I am so happy that we ended up registering for china!! Love mine.

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    Mrs. Pyramid 60 posts, Worker bee @ 12:39 pm

    We’ll be taking the chance to upgrade too! Mostly kitchen things, since that’s where the we need improvement or we need multiples of things.
    And that gif…the best! I don’t regularly watch Parks and Rec but I’ve seen that one and it’s hilarious.

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    msmeow 2000 posts, Buzzing bee @ 1:37 pm

    I like your plan, very smart!
    We won’t register. We come from a country where most people ask for money and it was only after joining Weddingbee that I found out most people on the other side of the planet considered that rude. Go figure!
    We will be getting a few household items from family though. My parents have offered to buy us a clothes dryer, for example. And whoever takes it upon themselves to buy us an iRobot Roomba robotic vacuum cleaner will be my hero for ever and ever and ever 😀

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    Mrs. Filly 28 posts, Newbee @ 4:11 pm

    @Mrs. Buffalo: We totally missed the boat on those! We didn’t plan ahead at all – we literally showed up at the mall and went, those stores look good. We’ll have to try and catch a registry party to finesse our registry a little, haha.

    @Mila: That’s something I didn’t think about! I know I have a lot of family that prefers to give physical gifts too. I guess I’ll see how quickly things are getting fulfilled and see if I should add anything else.

    @jessc4343: Funny you mention spatulas – I just broke one flipping pancakes a few weeks ago 🙁 sounds pretty neat; I’ll definitely check that out!

    @lac125: The Herald Square Macy’s is amazingggg. Jealous!! I did not know about the smartphone app, but I’ll definitely check it out!

    @Mrs. Candy Apple: Call me old-school, but I’m SO excited for my china! I figure at the very least, I’ll be using it a few times a year for the holidays, so it’ll be worth it.

    @Miss Pyramid: We have mostly kitchen stuff too. I cook a lot, and since we’re not in our “forever home” yet, I didn’t want to register for too much home decor type stuff, power tools, etc. Parks and Rec is AMAZING – I highly recommend watching it more often 🙂

    @MsMeow: It’s actually kind of a generational thing in my family – the older folks are big on boxed gifts, hence the registry, but people my age tend to give cash. I don’t have a Roomba on my registry yet – I keep going back and forth about it. We have a perfectly good vacuum, not a Dyson or anything, but it does the job … but a Roomba would be heaven for me. Like, I would sell my soul to never have to vacuum again.

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    Miss_Mimosa 3 posts, Wannabee @ 7:36 pm

    I love the clip you added, too funny! It is so true though, treat yourself a little, people are going to buy you gifts whether you pick them yourselves or not so you mine as well just get something that you want!

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    gondola 8 posts, Newbee @ 6:22 am

    Donna is my BFF too. Haha! Treat yo self Miss Filly!!

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    Mrs. Filly 28 posts, Newbee @ 2:40 pm

    @Miss_Mimosa: Exactly! And if something doesn’t get purchased, that’s what Christmas and birthdays are for!

    @Miss Gondola: BEST. SHOW. EVER. So bummed that it’s going on hiatus 🙁

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