The Tuesday after our wedding, Ben and I had left the frigid Midwest behind and were more than ready to board our cruise ship in Long Beach, California. Our itinerary was as follows: stop in Ensenada, Mexico on the way out, spend four nights at sea, have a day each in Oahu, Maui, Kauai, and the Big Island, and then head back to California over the next five nights. The height of overconsumption relaxation! The whole two weeks were glorious, but here’s a quick rundown of particularly notable moments.
ENSENADA: We did a wine tasting excursion in the morning (amazing and cheap), and hit up a local place known for their ceviche in the afternoon. So delicious.
Before we figured out how to turn off Ben’s weird face-tune filter
After our fun exit, we scrambled into a Town Car that we had reserved for the 10-minute drive to the hotel (LOL). We arrived and immediately laid into the champagne in our room, a delightful surprise courtesy of the Drake (and welcome, as we had each had maybe two drinks total at the reception). This was such a nice way to decompress together, and something about which we had been very intentional when we planned not to attend any sort of after-party.
The next morning, we got up, gathered our things, and made it to 8:00 AM mass (!) as it was Sunday and we are crazy Catholics. Then we headed to the Majestic where we were hosting our farewell brunch. My parents and sister helped us set up the delivery from Panera Bread, and we spent the next two hours chatting with our friends and family before everyone headed to the airport. This was a really nice way to thank our out-of-town guests for coming.
Slightly blurry Birthday Friend, taking home some candle holders along with a mistletoe-lookalike arrangement that I had ordered from our florist*
Of course, the thanking had really just begun. We had tried to keep up with writing our thank you cards as we received gifts, but even so, we had a pretty substantial list to tackle after the wedding.
I’ve gotten to the point where nothing planning related feels as good as checking something off my list. And I just knocked off a big (at least for me) one—I nailed down my bridal accessories.
If you read my post on accessories from a while back, you know I was seriously waffling about what to get. But at this point, I’ve got it nailed down…and I’m thrilled with the final look.
I ended up deciding to mix gold with pearls on my accessories—and even though the actual rings are silver (remember how pretty they are?!?) I think it’ll work. Of course, I don’t have a picture of my final “bridal look” on me…but as a refresher, here’s what I’m doing.
Hair:I fell in love with a couple of hundred-plus-buck hair combs at BHLDN, but given that my day-to-day look is a ponytail, I couldn’t justify the expense. Enter Etsy, and BridalShopCollection, a local (to me) vendor who does beautiful, affordable combs—and she’s QUICK with custom work, too.
I love the mixture of pearls and rhinestones, and it really pops against my hair color. It’s about five inches long and SO delicate. | Image via BridalShopCollection
I loved a lot in the shop, but I only wanted one longer, asymmetrical comb, so we worked on a custom piece that I’m obsessed with.
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I was in a LDR for about a year with my partner. About eight months in, we got engaged. By the time we were at our 11th month together, I relocated and started a new job to be closer to him. First, I moved into his apartment, but within a month, we were in our first house purchased together. All this to say that everything has been going very fast, but it was okay because I wanted all of this and I chose to go ahead with all of this.
We have now been living together for a little over two months, and I have noticed that we have been arguing quite a bit (huge arguments about every two weeks). I feel like most of our arguments stem from insecurities. This happened a few times when we were in an LDR, but I thought it was being apart that was causing his mind to go a bit wild. In fact, that is what he told me. So now that we are living together I am a bit surprised and disappointed that it seems like it will be going on for a while.
As our salad course was served, our DJ, Rachel, called for our maid-of-honor and best-man speeches. I knew my sister was nervous as she had never done one of these before, but she nailed it—her speech was a perfect mix of humor and touching sentiment, and just the right length.
Note that it was written on a cocktail napkin. From OUR cocktail hour.
Then the best man spoke. His speech is a memory that will live on, as his “funny anecdote” was an amazing story about Benjamin trying to “reinvent himself” in college freshman year. The two of them went to both high school and university together, and when it came to his attention that Ben had been trying to drop his diminutive nickname and go by something more “manly,” the best man just about died. Naturally, Ben’s attempts were thwarted after that, and he was to remain nicknamed for life. Our guests exploded with (not unkind) laughter upon this reveal and to Ben’s credit, he took it all very graciously.
So we’re having a semi-destination wedding—far from home for me, but someplace comfortable, easy, and familiar. After all, I grew up in Chicago, and I know full well that I can pick up any last-minute extras there.
As my dad always says…you’re not going to Siberia.*
But I’m always one to be hyper-prepared, because it helps keep my anxiety in check. And a big part of being prepared is keeping lists. I’ve got two different packing lists (one for Chicago, one for the honeymoon), a list of stuff to take care of on our trip to Chicago next weekend (where hopefully I meet the lovely Mrs. Sixpence for a beer), and then there’s the big list: things to do before leaving.
With a month until I fly to Chicago, there’s a lot to get done. Here’s what I’m looking at:
Heya, hive! We’re back today with some more bridal bouquet inspiration for you. Today, we’re sharing all the lovely non-floral bouquets you submitted. To learn more about this series, you can check out the first post here. And to submit your own bouquet, head here, or scroll to the bottom of this post.
From beads to paper to faux flowers, these non-floral bouquets are all gorgeous and unique.