Weddings are major events that bring out excitement and joy for most people. But what about folks who are very superstitious? What are some common wedding-related superstitions and should you pay attention to them or ignore them altogether? Although there are truly countless traditions and predictions of good or bad luck surrounding weddings, here are a few of the most common ones and their origins. You’ll have to decide for yourself whether you want to follow them or leave them behind!
1. It’s Bad Luck to Use a Married Name or Monogram Before the Big Day
If you or your partner are going to change surnames when you get married, just know there’s a superstition around using your married name before the actual wedding. It is said that using your married name or initials before the change officially takes place is tempting fate and that the wedding won’t actually happen. Many couples will wait to make items with new names or monograms for this reason although, for the record, there’s no evidence that says this tradition is in any way accurate!
2. It’s Bad Luck to See Each Other Before the Ceremony
This is a superstition that everyone knows about—and that many people still follow today. But where does it come from? This actually comes from way back in the day, when marriages were essentially business deals and they were arranged by families beforehand. Since many of the couples didn’t know each other and had never even seen each other before their wedding day, it was said to be bad luck for them to meet before the ceremony itself, in case they changed their mind and ran away or called off the wedding. (This is also said to be one of the reasons why women wore veils covering their faces—even less time to fully see each other and change your mind!) Nowadays, many couples still feel strongly that it’s bad luck to see each other before the walk down the aisle, although it’s becoming more and more popular to ditch this superstition altogether and have a “First Look,” where the couple sees each other for the first time separately before the ceremony, usually taking some photos. This is one superstition you’ll have to weigh out and decide for yourself what’s best.
3. It’s Good Luck to Cry at Your Wedding
Most couples nowadays have some expectation that their wedding will likely be a little emotional for them; it’s an exciting day, after all! The good news is that crying on your wedding day is actually considered good luck! Traditionally, if a bride shed tears on her big day, it’s symbolic that she is “getting all of her crying out” that day, and that she’ll have no tears left for her marriage, meaning that it will be happy and completely tear-free! So if you weren’t planning on it already, grab some waterproof mascara and let the happy tears flow.
4. It’s Good Luck to Wear Something Old, New, Borrowed, and Blue
This superstition, unlike many others, is about good luck rather than bad luck. It’s considered good luck for a bride to wear each of the items in the old line “Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue” and, depending on who you ask, they might add “and a silver sixpence in her shoe” as well! Each piece of this adage holds a separate meaning. “Something old” is meant to represent a continued positive connection to the couple’s families of origin, even as they embark on creating a new family together. “Something new” is a representation of health and happiness for the couple’s brand new union. “Something borrowed” is a token of love and support of the marriage from someone in the bride’s family. And “Something blue” represents trust and fidelity going forward in the relationship. The additional line, “and a silver sixpence in her shoe,” is not always included along with the traditional four but, yes, it is literally about putting a coin in your shoe, meant to bring good fortune to the bride.
5. It’s Good Luck to Carry the Bride Over the Threshold
This may seem like just a cute and fun way to begin your first night of married life, but this tradition actually comes from a medieval superstition that the bride, being extra vulnerable to evil spirits on her wedding day—particularly ones that might try to get at her from the soles of her feet—needed to be carried into the house to avoid bringing those spirits into their new home with her. Another interpretation of this superstition that came later was that it would bring bad luck to the marriage if the bride tripped or fell when entering her married home for the first time—thus the groom should carry her in. Either way, this tradition is clearly not a superstition to worry about, although it certainly can be fun, if you and your partner want to do it!
So there you have it—some of the most common wedding superstitions that are still followed today. Do you believe in any of them? Do you plan to follow or avoid any of these things for your wedding? Let us know in the comments below!