Bridesmaids are as ubiquitous to weddings as cake and champagne. But here’s the thing: you don’t have to have them. If the idea of choosing a bridal party makes you break out in hives, don’t worry. Not every bride wants to have a group of her besties at the altar with her, and there is nothing wrong with that! As a former bridesmaid-less bride, I’m here to tell you that going solo is totally fine, and here are five reasons why.
1. You Have too Many Friends
Maybe your pledge class was the biggest your sorority had ever seen. Maybe you’re one of five sisters. Whatever the cause, you’re facing a serious problem: there are too many women to choose from for your wedding party! No matter who you pick, someone’s feeling will be hurt. If you can’t bring yourself to choose a select few from your squad, one smart solution is to do away with the bridesmaid tradition entirely. Trust me, you don’t need the headache of choosing your “best” friends, or the inevitable drama with the women you don’t choose. Your friends will still enjoy your special day if they’re in the crowd during the ceremony!
2. You Want to Save Money
As a society, we’ve all basically accepted that weddings are a colossal expense. But the fact is that many of the things we pay for on our wedding day are unnecessary, and bridesmaids rank high on the list. Having a bridesmaid means buying her a gift, paying for her meal at the rehearsal dinner, paying for her hair and makeup—the list goes on and on. Eliminating the bridal party will save you a nice chunk of change. And you won’t be the only one seeing the savings—most bridesmaids spend an average of $1,500 to participate in a friend’s wedding. If you decide to go bridesmaid-free, chances are high that your girlfriends (and their wallets) will be relieved.
3. You Don’t Want to Share the Spotlight
The phrase is repeated over and over as you plan your wedding: “It’s your special day.” There’s no doubt that this is true. You’re the one making a life-long commitment with the love of your life. While some couples don’t mind sharing the spotlight with their closest friends, others want the ceremony to be all about the two of them. And what’s one way to ensure that all eyes are on the happy couple? Don’t have any bridesmaids or groomsmen!
4. You’re a Lone Wolf
Don’t get me wrong—I know having bridesmaids can be a lot of fun. You can pick out dresses together, have a wild bachelorette weekend, hit the spa for some pre-wedding pampering, and get ready together on the big day. If you’re a social butterfly, these fun activities with your best girlfriends can give you some much needed stress relief! However, if you happen to be an introvert, the idea of a packed social calendar can make you want to hide under the bed until your wedding day. And you know what? That’s OK. Not every bride is up for the constant pre-nuptial partying, and some would rather spend their final morning as a single woman getting ready on their own. If you treasure your alone time, the “no-bridesmaids” route is perfect for you.
5. You Want Your Friends to Have a Good Time
Actress Mindy Kaling said it best: “When you’re a bridesmaid at a wedding…you’re essentially a maid.” While the position is typically reserved for the bride’s closest friends, it does come with responsibilities. It costs money. It can be time-consuming. Some would even argue that being a bridesmaid can take away from the fun of the wedding entirely. A wedding guest, however, has nothing to do except have a good time. For this reason, many brides are blowing off the bridesmaid tradition and letting their friends live it up at the celebration! Without bridesmaids, there is no bridesmaid drama and no disgruntled girlfriends—just a happy bunch of friends ready to celebrate your love and dance the night away.
Your wedding day is a celebration of you and your sweetheart, and that means you should do it your way. If you want to share the experience with a bridal party of your besties, go for it! But if you’d rather walk down that aisle with your girls in the crowd, that’s OK, too! As long as you choose the right wedding for you and your future spouse, you can’t go wrong.