Almost every couple considers eloping at some point. Maybe it’s the first idea that crosses your mind, moments after putting on your engagement ring. Maybe you’ll discuss it halfway through planning, once decision fatigue sets in. Maybe you haven’t even thought about eloping yet (but believe me, you will). Of course, eloping isn’t right for everyone, and many couples who entertain the idea will opt for a traditional wedding instead. But for some couples, an elopement might be the best way to celebrate this next step in their relationship. How will you know if it’s right for you? Here’s a few hints.
1. You’re an Introvert
On your wedding day, there’s no getting around being the center of attention. People will stare at you, they’ll make toasts to you, they’ll clink their champagne glasses to force you to kiss your partner (the horror). If the couple loves the spotlight, this can be lots of fun—but if even one of you is introverted, the very thought can be nerve-racking. Your wedding day should be about what makes you and the love of your life happy. And if one (or both) of you doesn’t like attention, an elopement is a perfect, anxiety-free way to celebrate your love for one another. Instead of throwing a great big hullabaloo with everyone you know, you can have a sweet, simple wedding ceremony for just the two of you. What could be more romantic than that?
2. You’re on a Budget
It’s no secret that weddings are expensive, even prohibitively so. Not everyone has $30k to spend on a lavish party, not when there are bills to pay and futures to plan! If you don’t have the means to put on a traditional wedding ceremony (or even if you do, but you don’t want to spend so much), eloping can be a low-cost way to tie the knot. When you elope, you don’t need to rent a large venue, hire a DJ, or get catered meals for 100 people. In fact, you don’t even need to buy a new dress (though you can if you want to). Instead of planning the “normal” wedding that everyone expects, you and your partner can create the unique affair that is as simple or as lavish as your budget allows.
3. Your Family Doesn’t Mind
Look, I know that your wedding day should be about you and your sweetheart and no one else’s opinion matters. But if you ask me, it is important to give a moment’s consideration to the people that are (usually) closest to you both: your families. Many parents want to watch their children get married, and it might break their hearts to know that their kids ran off and got hitched without them. However, if you know that your family is fine with an elopement (based on previous conversations you’ve had or their general attitude toward weddings), I say go for it! You can always share photos of the big day, and it will be even more special knowing that it happened exactly how you two wanted it to be.
4. You Want to Travel
As far as I’m concerned, there is nothing better than exploring a new city with the person you love. We live in a big, beautiful world full of incredible sights, so why wouldn’t you want to see as much of it as possible with your best friend at your side? These days, many couples are getting a head start on the exploring by having a destination elopement. Traveling to a foreign country and getting married while you’re there can be fun, exciting, and incredibly romantic. You can start your life together while enjoying a relaxing vacation; it’s like having a wedding and honeymoon all in one!
5. You’re Not Interested in the Drama of Weddings
When you’re planning a wedding, it’s common to hear vendors say something like, “I bet you’ve been dreaming about this since you were a little girl.” While this is the case for many brides-to-be, some of us simply aren’t interested in having a big party—particularly not one full of commercialized traditions.
Obviously, if you have been dreaming about your wedding day for years, you have every right to throw the most incredible party your family and friends have ever seen. But if you’re not that excited about selecting napkin colors or choosing a song for you first dance, you don’t have to! Eloping strips away all the usual wedding stuff and leaves you with the heart of the matter: you and the love of your life. And at the end of the day, that’s all that truly matters.
So, the next time you find yourself tired of wedding planning and dreaming of sneaking off to an island in Greece for a wedding by the water, don’t laugh it off as silly wishful thinking. An elopement just might be the perfect choice for you and your other half.