Everyone has a certain ideal surrounding their wedding day and planning process. While it may all seem likely before you delve into the planning process that it will be a fairy tale, you’ll soon find that nothing is perfect. This is totally normal, and every couple experiences hiccups when it comes to planning the day of their dreams. To help adjust your expectations, here are some things that will undoubtedly go wrong along the way on the road to tying the knot—and how to combat them.
1. Differences of Opinions
Planning a wedding is an emotional process that usually involves an abundance of opinions from yourself, your fiancé, and your loved ones. There’s bound to be a difference of opinion on some topics that come up during the planning process. While this can be frustrating, it’s to be expected. It’s important to prepare yourself for these differences and to think through how you will handle these conversations, whether they’re with your fiancé, your parents, in-laws, or wedding party. It can certainly be uncomfortable navigating these waters, but it’s important to hear everyone out and let everyone know their thoughts and support is important to you during this process.
2. Vendor Issues
A lot of wedding planning relies on choosing vendors and working with them to create your perfect day. What you may not realize, however, is that working seamlessly with your vendors is not a guarantee. In fact, just the process of getting in touch with vendors that you’re interested in can be tricky. You’d be surprised how many vendors can be hard to nail down or communicate with. You also may end up disappointed by the availability or pricing of some vendors on your wish list. But don’t be discouraged—the process may just take longer and require more research than you originally anticipated.
3. Heightened Emotions
As mentioned above, planning a wedding encompasses a wide range of emotions throughout the entirety of the process. While (hopefully) the majority of these emotions will be happy ones, there will of course be some low moments. It’s completely normal to end up in little fights and disagreements with your fiancé, to end up frustrated, or to find yourself overwhelmed and upset throughout this process. Know your limits, understand when it’s time to take a break, and indulge yourself in these emotional moments during this process.
4. The Planning Timeline
Many brides think that everything about planning a wedding runs on a specific schedule, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Everyone has a different experience. While you may expect your cake tasting to occur at a certain time or you may hope to get your invitations stamped and mailed by a certain date, things rarely go exactly according to plan. This could be due to hiccups in your own schedule or vendors running behind. Don’t let this get the best of you; remember that everything will work out and you’re the only one that will know if things don’t run exactly aligned with the timeline you set.
5. The Budget
Everyone goes into a wedding with an idea of what their budget is for the event as a whole. However, things rarely cost exactly what you expect them to. While some aspects of your wedding may come in under budget, others may be more expensive than you anticipated. There will also be unexpected expenses that arise associated with your festivities. Be prepared to be a little bit flexible on your budget or have contingency plans in place, allowing for sacrifices that might need to be made in order to account for these unforeseen expenses.
6. Your Groom’s Opinions
Many brides find that while they thought their groom wouldn’t have strong opinions about certain things pertaining to the wedding day, they couldn’t have been more wrong. Be prepared to hear out your groom’s opinions and stances on all things wedding planning. It’s a big day for him, too, so you want to be sensitive to letting him have a seat at the planning table.
7. Last-Minute Chaos
Even if you’re the most proactive bride out there, there’s bound to be last-minute chaos in the days leading up to your event. Something will go wrong or you’ll end up frantic over some kind of detail. Again, this is normal and pretty much unavoidable. Go into the week of your wedding expecting minor hiccups and going by the mantra that you’re not going to let anything ruin your big moment.
8. RSVP Issues
Every couple experiences the dreaded RSVP issues, finding that guests aren’t prompt or on time in letting you know whether they’ll attend the event. To counter that, some guests will ask to come (after replying no) at the last minute while other guests will be unexpectedly unable to make it. Remember that the guest list will even itself out and try to go with the flow of these (sometimes annoying) delays in communication or last-minute adds.
Even with these items going differently than you probably expected, planning your wedding should still be an exciting and exhilarating process. You’ll remember this time for the rest of your life and it’ll be over before you know it, so soak up every moment—even when things turn out differently than you envisioned.