Will your upcoming wedding include two brides? LGBTQ+ weddings are often perceived as different from traditional weddings but, aside from the sexual orientation of those involved, these events really aren’t that dissimilar. All wedding ceremonies and receptions require a lot of planning and preparation. You will still have to pick a date, select attire, find a venue, order food and drinks, hire a photographer, enlist a DJ, and invite all of your closest family and friends. It doesn’t matter who you are, where you come from, or who you love—if you’re getting married, you’ve got your work cut out for you!
While most wedding planning advice can be helpful for LGBTQ+ couples, there are a few factors that may be on your mind if you’re one of two brides getting married. Follow these five tips for any LGBTQ+ wedding to have the celebration you deserve!
Stay True to Who You Are
Beyond anything else, it’s imperative that the two of you stay true to who you are as a couple. One of the best aspects of planning a wedding is that you can pour yourself into it. Throw “tradition” out the window and embrace the beautiful, fun, and wacky idiosyncrasies that make the two of you the amazing pair you are. Now more than ever, couples all over the world are opting for personalized ceremonies and receptions. Not only will you enjoy the day more, but your love will shine through every aspect of your ceremony and reception.
Do you want a couple ideas to get you started? Keep the following in mind:
- Pick a wedding theme that suits both of you or is a throwback to how the two of you met
- Find vendors that offer the food and drink you enjoy eating and drinking together
- Look for a venue in a place that is emotionally significant to both of you
Be Open and Proud of Your Relationship
While it should be relatively obvious to venues and vendors that you’re coordinating a two-bride wedding, it’s important that everyone involved is on the same page. You’re getting married, so there’s little chance the two of you often hide your relationship, but making your intentions clear from the beginning can save a lot of potential time and frustration. Some individuals and companies do not support marriage equality, so don’t waste precious planning time on something that may fall through. Being open and proud about your relationship and seeking out venues and vendors that are LGBTQ-friendly will make the process immensely more enjoyable.
Wear What You Want
You and your significant other can wear whatever you want to your wedding. If one of you wants to wear a tux while the other prefers a dress, that’s totally fine. Do you prefer two tuxes? That’s cool, too! The same goes for two brides wearing wedding dresses. There is one factor you should keep in mind, however. If you both plan to wear the same kind of clothing, it’s important to ensure they complement one another. Colors can be deceiving. One white dress, for example, may actually look cream when placed next to another. This means that coordinating your dresses could be a little problematic. Before making a final selection, always ensure the colors are the same or complementary.
Invite the Right People
When you begin drawing up the guest list for your upcoming wedding, only invite the people you really want to take part in you big day. While you may feel pressure to invite distant relatives or all of your cousins, you don’t have to. Your wedding day is about you, so why bother surrounding yourself with people you don’t really want around? In fact, you may even want to consider eliminating the “plus one” option on the invitation. Not only does this mean you’ll be with only people you know and love, but you’ll save money. (In most cases, larger venues are expensive and caterers charge by the plate.)
Forget Bridesmaid and Groomsmen Titles
Just as traditional brides and grooms choose wedding party members, the two of you will likely want some of your closest family and friends intimately involved in your ceremony and reception. But this doesn’t mean that as brides you’re limited to a bunch of bridesmaids. In fact, many heterosexual couples ignore the “maid” and “men” titles for traditional weddings, as well. Who says brides only have female best friends, anyway? This is a particularly important element for an LGBTQ+ wedding. Forget titles and ask the people you care about most to be part of your wedding party. It doesn’t even matter if there’s an even ratio or not—it only matters that you have your closest loved ones actively involved in your wedding ceremony and reception.