When you begin planning your wedding, you may be surprised to find that you will be faced with some pretty awkward questions. These may be from actual guests or people who are hoping to be guests at your party. Either way, figuring out how to reply to these tough inquisitions can be, well, tough. Thankfully, there are ways to get your point across without being rude.
Am I Invited?
People hoping to take part in your wedding festivities may not exactly be quiet about their wishes. That could put you in quite the pickle if someone whom you’re not planning on having on your guest list poses the question. When that happens, you’ll be struck with a moment of panic, leaving you to sweat it out as you conjure a polite answer.
Believe it or not, there are some ways you can answer this question tactfully. If you’re in the beginning of your planning process, you can simply tell the person that you’re still working on finalizing your guest list. If you’re further along and invites are close to going out
, the best policy is to be honest. Stress that you wish you could have included everyone you’re friendly with, but unfortunately there had to be a cut-off somewhere. You can also relay the reasons of wedding size or distance as a reason for not including them, depending on whether that’s applicable to the situation at hand.
Can I Bring a Plus One?
People often wonder whether or not they can bring a guest with them to a wedding. If this comes up for you as the hosts, realize the answer depends on the situation. Perhaps you are allotting for everyone on your guest list to have plus ones, in which case the answer will be easy. But if that’s not the case, you’ll want to be prepared with an answer.
If this comes up for you and you have to tell someone that they cannot bring a plus one, you’ll want to do so tactfully. Explain to them the reason that they are not allowed a plus one at your wedding; perhaps there are size constraints or you may just be looking to keep it a more intimate affair
If you’re denying someone the request of having a plus one, reassure them of how excited you are to celebrate with them and also give them encouragement that they’ll be seated with others they know, so not having a significant other or buddy with them won’t infringe on their ability to have fun.
Can I Bring My Kids?
If you elect to have a kid-free wedding
or are only allowing select children at the affair, you should prepare yourself for some guests to inquire as to whether or not they can bring their little ones.
If this occurs, be prepared with an answer. One of the best replies is to simply stress that while you love kids and particularly love theirs, your vision for the wedding is one for adults only and you hope that they’ll respect that. Also let them know that in the case they cannot find a babysitter, you completely understand them not being able to attend.
What Does Your Dress Look Like?
Guests can be pretty curious about all things bridal, so don’t be surprised if guests ask you what your dress looks like leading up to the big day. Whether or not you want to share details of your wedding day wardrobe is, of course, up to you. However, if you don’t, be ready to decline a detailed answer to these questions.
A good way to answer is to simply say you’re keeping the details of this special outfit
a secret until the big day and that you can’t wait for them to see it when the time comes. Or, if you want to get a bit cheeky with your answer, you could also opt to share the details that your dress is white and long. That will be sure to get a few laughs.
At the end of the day, while these difficult wedding-related questions may arise, you have to remember that your wedding is all about you. Your big day should mirror the vision you have for it, and you don’t need to feel guilty when you tell someone “no” or an answer that they may not want to hear. Use these answers to make the tough questions a little easier, but be sure to stand firm in your replies.