Second Wedding Issues and Planning

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Are you in the process of planning your second wedding? Today, it’s not uncommon for either the bride or groom to have been married once before. Just because it’s the second time walking down the aisle doesn’t mean it’s any less special. Nevertheless, deciding how to approach a second wedding can be tricky for various reasons. If you aren’t quite sure how to proceed, don’t get discouraged! Keep the following in mind when planning for your special day to avoid any potential issues.

The Logistics Are Mostly the Same

Luckily, planning for a second wedding isn’t that different from planning your first. In fact, it’s likely you’ll have an easier time when it comes to the logistics. After all, you’ve gone through the process once before and likely have a clearer understanding of what is to be expected. You still need to find a venue, send invitations, pick attire, secure catering services, and acquire a marriage license. You’ve done these things once before, so it shouldn’t be too hard to do them again.

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Additional Documentation May Be Required

While the logistics are mostly the same, you may find there are a few minor differences the second time around. One example of this pertains to your marriage license. You should expect the clerk to need additional documentation—either a printed and notarized divorce degree or a death certificate if your previous spouse passed away.

You’ll Likely Need to Finance the Wedding Yourself

It’s not uncommon for parents to take part in financing your first wedding, but this isn’t always the case when you remarry. Many couples in this situation opt to pay for the ceremony and reception themselves. Depending on the state of your finances, this may impact the size and extravagance of your event. Keep your means in mind when planning the budget for your second wedding.

Wear What You Want

That’s right, you can wear whatever you want for your second wedding. Some brides and grooms worry that traditional white isn’t appropriate when remarrying, but this simply isn’t the case. You’re free to wear any color you want to. In fact, second weddings are sometimes less formal and, as a result, you can be even more creative with your attire decisions. The important thing to remember is that there is no right or wrong way to approach this particular element. Opt for what you and your spouse-to-be feel most comfortable with.

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The Children Should Know Early

Another potential difference between your first wedding and your second one is the involvement of children from previous marriages. Don’t avoid the topic of your wedding, as it can sometimes take additional time for children to adjust to the idea. Be open and honest about your plans from the start and take their desire to participate in the ceremony to heart. If they are hesitant, it’s probably best not to press the issue. If they’re excited, however, let them contribute as much as possible. This will ensure their feelings toward your second wedding are positive.

While a second marriage is a time of great joy and celebration, it’s a little different than getting married the first time through. There is a lot less pressure and protocol to the ceremony and there are more choices on how to celebrate the event. Here are some of the things to consider if you are planning a second (or third) wedding day.

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