The Pros and Cons of Eloping

A bride and groom overlooking the Eiffel Tower in Paris, France on their elopement.

Are you and your partner considering eloping? It’s a big decision to make. Maybe you’re struggling with a budget, or maybe you’re having trouble whittling down your potential guest list. Or maybe you’re older and getting married for the second time, so you don’t need a big spectacular wedding. Or maybe you just want to experience an intimate ceremony with just the two of you. Whatever the reason, an elopement is a huge thing to consider and with any major life decision, it comes with its own set of pros and cons, which is why we’ve come up with this list to help you make the best decision for you and your partner.

Pro: It Costs Less than a Traditional Wedding

With the average cost of a wedding in America hovering above $30,000, an elopement is the more budget-friendly option.

Con: You Won’t Be Able to Share Your Special Day With Loved Ones

Not only will your nearest and dearest not be in attendance to watch you say “I do,” but you also will miss out on such traditions as dancing with your father or having a parent walk the bride down the aisle. It also means you won’t be dancing silly with your best friends all night long, nor will you have any other special moments and shenanigans to look back on together.

Pro: You Can Do Your Wedding Your Way

A bride and groom saying vows at their elopement overlooking a river.

You won’t have to contend with input from friends or family about how your wedding should be, what your wedding gown should look like, etc. Every decision made for your wedding will be exactly what you and your partner want, without any compromising or influences from outside sources.

Pro: You Can Elope and Honeymoon at the Same Location

Doubling up on the actual ceremony and honeymoon means you’ll save money and time. When you get married at the same place where you honeymoon, you can also fully relax and take your time with the whole process. While many couples feel stressed on their wedding day, you will probably feel quite refreshed.

Con: You May Still Have to Host a Post-Elopement Party

It’s customary and courteous to hold some sort of celebration for friends and family after the elopement, which kind of goes against the whole point of eloping, anyway. Technically, you may still have to plan a party and that may be annoying considering you didn’t want to have one in the first place.

Con: You Might Hurt Your Family and Friends

If your friends and family—especially your parents—were looking forward to seeing you get married, then be prepared to experience some hurt feelings concerning your elopement. It might even cause some family drama if some members believe they’re “owed” a traditional wedding, which might cause strain between you and your inner circle.

Pro: It’s Not as Stressful

A young couple who just eloped with a cityscape in the background.

If you’re someone who doesn’t like to plan big occasions or who gets easily stressed and overwhelmed when you’re the center of attention, then eloping could be the perfect solution for you. You can take your time and do things how you want to without feeling any external pressure of how your wedding should be. It’s still a special occasion (you are getting married after all!), but one that feels more stress-free than stressful.

Con: Your Wedding Might Not Feel as Special

Without the positive group energy of your family and friends, your wedding might not feel as momentous to you and your partner. It might even feel a little casual, and could feel less meaningful because you’re not celebrating it in a bigger and bolder way.

Pro: It’s Romantic

Let’s face it: you and your favorite person in the world are getting married, and it’s just the two of you. You’re having the wedding of your dreams, and it’s a memory only you two will have. There’s something so romantic and special about that.

Whether you decide to elope or not, there are a number of things to consider. However, if you see more pros in doing so, then you know that you’re having the most perfect wedding for both you and your beloved, and that’s the best decision you can ever make.

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