As we get to the start of a new year, you’re probably making some resolutions, whether they’re related to your health, finances, or relationships. But if you’re getting married in 2019, you may want to think about some resolutions that are specifically related to your upcoming vows. Here’s some goals you may want to set for yourself, whether you just got engaged or you’re getting ready to walk down the aisle within a month or two. (And—bonus!—some of these new year resolutions will improve other areas of your life, too.)
1. Keep Your Wedding Paperwork Organized
The amount of paperwork involved in the wedding planning process is really quite remarkable: vendor contracts, guest lists, vows, menus, receipts…the list goes on! Making it one of your new year’s resolutions to keep yourself organized will make things so much easier on your big day. Keep a binder of important information, contacts, and duplicates of any paperwork you might need—and make sure to have it on hand on your wedding day, just in case. Hopefully everything will go perfectly and you won’t need any of it but if you do, you’ll be so thankful that you kept your wedding planning details organized this year.
2. Enjoy the Engagement Period
Wedding planning can be a flurry of decisions, questions, and expectations that can take over your mind. That’s normal, of course, but it’s important to also spend some time enjoying this period of your life when you’re simply engaged. Tell people about the proposal, show off the ring, wear cheesy t-shirts or buy cute mugs if that’s your style—whatever you do, take some time to just appreciate and enjoy this season of your life. Engagement is such a special time that you’ll never have again, so don’t get so wrapped up in planning that you forget to take a moment to just absorb this unique experience.
3. Don’t Go into Debt Paying for the Wedding
We all know that weddings are expensive—but is your wedding worth going into major debt? Take the time and effort this year to really crack down on your wedding budget and make sure you’re saving money for the things that are most important to you and your future husband or wife. An extravagant wedding seems fun in the moment, but it’s going to be a lot less great if you’re paying it off for the next two years of your lives. Just consider the true cost of putting something on a credit card or using a loan to pay for your day. Finding yourselves deep in debt at the very start of your marriage could cause some major conflict and friction in your relationship, so take the time this year to budget and plan properly and you’ll leave your reception with no bills haunting you.
4. Treat Your Body Well
It’s a common perception that all brides-to-be diet or begin a serious workout regime before the wedding—and if that’s your case, that’s totally fine! But it’s so incredibly essential to remember that the most important thing to do as you prepare for your wedding is to treat your body well. Eating healthy foods and moving your body are great ways to do that, but obsessing over your weight to the point of making unhealthy nutrition or exercise choices is extremely harmful to your physical and mental health. No dress, photo, or event is worth compromising your health and wellbeing, so be sure to take the time this year to focus on what really matters and take care of yourself.
5. Communicate Clearly and Kindly
Keeping your communication open, honest, and kind will make a huge difference during this process. Because wedding planning can be so stressful, it’s easy to slip into less-than-ideal communication patterns, especially with those closest to you like your partner, bridal party, and parents. Make it a goal to keep your communication positive, clear, and kind, and you’ll see how much more willing people are to work and cooperate with you, even in tricky or difficult circumstances. Keep in mind that the way you talk to others is as important, if not more so, than the information you’re relaying.
6. Relax and Have Fun Before You Get Married!
Life doesn’t have to revolve around your wedding once you’re engaged. Give yourself a break and make time for you and your partner to enjoy activities that have absolutely nothing to do with guest lists or vendor contacts. Go to the movies, watch a favorite TV show, take a hike, or plan a weekend vacation. A wedding is an exciting and wonderful thing. But don’t let yourself get so wrapped up in all of it that you disconnect from the reason you’re getting married in the first place. (That you love to be with your future husband or wife!) Let the fun start even before the big day and you’ll set yourselves up for happily ever after!