You’re standing at the altar, the love of your life across from you. You’ve said your vows and exchanged your rings. Every part of the wedding planning process has led up to this very moment: the moment when your officiant says, “You may now kiss the bride.”
Your first kiss as a married couple is a big deal—that’s why it’s used to punctuate the wedding ceremony. It’s an iconic moment and one that everyone looks forward to. But how can you make sure that the first kiss is truly memorable for everyone? Here are a few ideas that can help turn your first kiss from a simple moment at the end of your ceremony into a showstopper that everyone will be talking about!
Get Some Alone Time
One of the strangest things about your first kiss is just how public it is. Your officiant is right there, only a few feet away. Your parents and grandparents are in the front row! This is the ultimate PDA, which can make for an awkward experience no matter how excited you are to kiss your new spouse. If you want your first kiss to be memorable, one great option is to keep it private.
Some couples (usually religious couples, but the idea is fair game to anyone) save their first kiss for after they’ve walked up the aisle and gotten away from the cheering crowd. Not only does this private smooch seem awfully sweet and romantic, but it can also help couples with anxiety avoid the stress of an awkward kiss in front of a crowd. And if you choose to save your kiss for a private moment, your guests will certainly never forget it!
Even if you don’t feel the need for a fully private kiss, you can still make sure things are a little more private when the big moment comes. Talk to your officiant during the rehearsal and ask him or her to step aside during the kiss so you don’t feel like you’re being watched so closely. This can make you feel more comfortable, and it will also help your photographer get that perfect shot.
Get a Unique Perspective
Let’s say you don’t want to ask your officiant to step aside. Maybe you think it’s rude, or maybe you’re not concerned about kissing with them so nearby. That’s OK; in fact, that might make it even easier to have a memorable first kiss. Your officiant sees the first kiss from a unique angle (you in the foreground with your guests behind), and that means they’re in the perfect place for a one-of-a-kind photo.
Ask your officiant to have a digital or disposable camera on them during the ceremony. When it’s time for the big kiss, ask them to snap a photo of you two with your loved ones’ real-time reactions in the background! The result will be a fun, sweet photo you’ll cherish forever and a unique first kiss moment that everyone will appreciate.
Keep it Simple
You might feel like your first kiss needs to be a big, dramatic moment. You imagine your partner sweeping you off your feet, dropping you into an elegant dip, and kissing you so deeply you see stars—but in reality, that’s not always how it works. Sure, a few couples might be into the grand, cinematic kiss, but if you’re not prepared to do it, you’re just going to end up looking awkward and silly.
Focus on creating a first kiss moment that feels natural to you and your sweetheart. Instead of going for dramatic poses and sweeping gestures, keep it simple: slow down, look into each other’s eyes, and hold each other as you would on any other day. In fact, you may want to slow down your kiss even more than usual, as this will give your photographer more opportunities to get a great shot. By going for a simple, understated kiss (provided that’s the norm), you’ll probably end up capturing the love you feel for each other more authentically—and trust me, your guests will notice.
…Or Go Big!
On the other side of the spectrum, we have those couples who aren’t into low-key, intimate displays of affection. They’re in love and they want to shout it from the rooftops! If you and your fiancé fall into this category, it’s time to really up the ante: ask your wedding party to throw confetti as your lips touch, hire a band to burst into song, rig some literal fireworks to go off (assuming there’s enough space and your venue is OK with it). These big, exciting moments will amplify the joy of your first kiss and really get your guests swept up in the magic.
Whether you’re looking for a simple, private moment of romance or a big, beautiful display, your first kiss should be a moment you cherish for the rest of your life. Make sure that whatever you do, it’s something you truly love.