You’re getting married! Congratulations! Now, the real work begins. Of course, we’re referring to wedding planning. While planning your wedding is one of the most exciting times of your life, it can also be one of the most stressful. With so many decisions to make, from the dress to the decor to the cake, it’s so easy to feel overwhelmed and removed from the present moment. However, when you choose to focus on intention and your well-being throughout the process, you’ll quickly become more grounded and will see wedding planning more as a meaningful experience rather than a stressful one. Here are six mindfulness tips on how to keep sane during wedding planning.
1. Choose a Word of Intention
If you could choose any word to describe how you would like your wedding planning to go, what would it be? Joyful? Peaceful? Graceful? Choose a word that resonates with you and let it infuse your process. When it doubt, go back to that word and see how you can view a particular situation through that lens. For example, when the caterer keeps canceling appointments on you, how can you turn that around and see the grace in it? How can you embody and promote grace in this situation?
2. Have a Mantra
Mantras are powerful ways of affirming a certain state of being while bringing you right back to the present moment and calming your mind. Consider having a few mantras in your back pocket whenever you need a moment to decompress and stay rooted. A few good examples might include: “I feel peace now,” “All is well,” This too shall pass,” or “I am breathing in, and I am breathing out.”
3. Stick to a Meditation Routine
Meditation can seem overwhelming at first for those who have never tried, but its benefits are worth exploring it if you’ve never hit your meditation pillow. Meditation is known to reduce stress and anxiety symptoms, promote emotional health, enhance self-awareness, and also generate kindness—all amazing qualities any new bride-to-be can possess. There are a number of apps and YouTube videos to experiment with, so keep your options open until you find the right one for you. And don’t be discouraged! Meditation is a difficult practice for even the diehards. Remember, even taking five minutes out of your day to focus on your breathing and relaxing is powerful.
4. Eat a Nutritious Diet
Say no to crash dieting. Crash dieting, which usually means depriving yourself of certain foods as well as severely decreasing your caloric intake, will only make you grumpy. And the more grumpy you are, the more likely you’ll be on edge, which means the slightest wedding planning hiccup could set you off. So instead of depriving yourself, think of gifting yourself with nutritious and whole foods like fresh veggies, healthy fats, lean protein, and whole grains. Research has shown that healthy eating actually makes you happier. So lay off the processed and fast foods, and treat yourself to yummy meals that are good for your mind, body, and soul.
5. Remember the Love
When things start to get hairy (and they will) return to the love. After all, that’s why you’re getting married in the first place. When you focus on your heart and the love you share with your fiance, then it helps you to remember why you’re going through this anxiety-inducing process in the first place. Wedding planning isn’t easy, but if you’re able to take care of yourself by staying grounded and mentally and physically healthy, you’ll more than survive wedding planning—you’ll thrive.
6. Commit to an Exercise Regime
Exercise is another awesome stress-buster that’s not only great for the body (which you’re no doubt thinking about) but great for the mind. Elle Woods from Legally Blond was right: exercise gives you endorphins, and endorphins make you happy, which means you’ll be less anxious, agitated, and stressed out. Commit to a workout routine at least four to five times a week that incorporates both resistance training and cardio, and your bod and your mind will thank you.