A honeymoon can be one of the most fun and exciting parts about wedding planning. When you’re struggling with a decision or frustrated by a conflict with your future in-laws, you can sit back for a moment and dream about what it will be like when you and your husband or wife are finally married and can sprawl out on a beach somewhere. But is it actually a good idea to honeymoon immediately after your wedding? Well, maybe. But here are five reasons why waiting a few weeks (or even a few months) after the big day might be a better option for you.
You May Want to Spend Extra Time With Wedding Guests
Your wedding may very well be one of the only days in your life where all of your favorite people are all together in one place. Leaving for your honeymoon directly after the wedding can mean that you lose out on potential time spent with your family and friends, especially those who may have traveled a long way to be there for you. In this case, even a cushion of a week between events can give you the time you need to see your people before you head out on your honeymoon adventure.
You May Not Have the Finances Available After a Big Wedding
A wedding is not cheap, that’s something we all know for sure—and neither is a lavish honeymoon. If you put a little distance between your wedding and your honeymoon, you will not only have more time to save funds for it, but will also have the ability to use any monetary wedding gifts you may have received. Sometimes unexpected costs can come up even as close as a day or two before the wedding, and if those unexpected expenses eat into the cost of your trip, you may have a stressful, anxiety-ridden vacation instead of the exciting, comfortable experience you and your partner planned on.
You May Not Have Enough Time off from Work
Another big potential factor in waiting to take a honeymoon is having enough time off from work to both have a wedding and go on a vacation. Most jobs have a finite number of days someone can take off around a single time period and it may be tricky to take both a honeymoon and a few days off before the wedding (and trust me, you will want to take a few days off before the wedding!). This is especially relevant if you know you’d like to go somewhere that has a major time difference involved and will therefore require a longer trip—you don’t want to spend your entire honeymoon jet lagged! By waiting a few months (or even a year), you can accrue days off from work and take an epic vacation away together, rather than scrounging for days and trying to piece together enough for everything you need both pre- and post-wedding.
The Timing May Not Be Right if You Need to Move
If you and your new husband or wife didn’t live together before the wedding, or even if you did but you’re choosing a new place now that you’re hitched, it’s important to factor the stresses and adjustments of moving into the equation. It’s stressful to have a wedding, move into an apartment, and go on a honeymoon all within two weeks. And if you decided to wait until after the trip to move in together, this would mean that you’ll be returning from paradise to all of your things in boxes and potentially no furniture in place in your new home. Giving a bit of time between your wedding and honeymoon will allow you and your partner to put together your new home and feel settled before you run off on your adventure.
You May Be too Exhausted Right After the Wedding
Weddings are amazingly fun and fantastic, but it would be incorrect to say that they also aren’t a little stressful and exhausting. And after the wedding high has subsided, you might honestly just want to take a long nap or sleep in the next day, rather than get yourself packed, dressed, and off to the airport for a long flight! Many couples who postpone their honeymoon, even just by a few days or a week, express that they had a super calm, relaxed honeymoon experience without the residual stress and exhaustion from the wedding.
Now, all of these reasons to postpone a honeymoon are, of course, not reasons to skip the trip altogether! Time together relaxing and celebrating your marriage as a couple is something you definitely don’t want to skip out on, so it’s good to make sure that you get some dates and ideas set in stone, even if those dates are six months after the big day. This way, life won’t get ahead of you (many couples say they’re going to take a honeymoon later and actually never do) but you can still have some breathing time between the celebration and the relaxation.