Mailing your wedding invitations is an exciting time in the wedding planning process. Once those invites go into the mail, everything starts to feel more “real”—and once the RSVPs start arriving, the party really starts taking shape!
It’s not surprising that many couples are in a big hurry to design their invitations and get them out the door. However, rushing out your invitations can lead to some embarrassing mistakes. Before you put anything into the mailbox, take a moment to check that your wedding invites don’t have any of these major errors.
There’s Misspelled Words (Or Names)
It happens to the best of us. A typo here, a misspelling there—they’re harmless mistakes that prove we’re human. However, there are some documents that don’t allow for any mistakes, and wedding invitations are most definitely among them.Your wedding invitation is more than just a sheet of paper; it’s the first impression your guests will get of your special day. If you have a word misspelled—or worse, if you misspell your guest’s name—it’s going to give them a poor impression of the whole event.
All wedding invitations should go through at least three rounds of proofreading before they are mailed out. That means you need to look them over, your partner needs to proofread, and another trusted friend or relative needs to give them a quick glance! This will ensure that someone catches any mistakes that slipped past your own eyes.
There’s Missing Information About Your Wedding
Your wedding invitation has one main goal: to give your guests the essential information they need for the big day. This includes:
- Your partner’s and your name
- The wedding date
- The ceremony venue address
- The reception venue address (if different from the ceremony location)
- The ceremony start time
- Reply-by date
- Any other important details (dress code, wedding website link, etc.)
All this information MUST be on your wedding invitation—no exceptions! If you leave something out, your guests may be confused and frustrated (and you’ll end up getting a lot of phone calls asking the exact same questions). Take the time to read over your invitation and make sure you’ve included all the most pertinent info before you seal a single envelope.
It’s Unclear Exactly Who’s Invited
Creating a wedding guest list can be a difficult process. You have to factor in budgets, expectations from family members, and a hundred other details before you settle on the final list. But once you get it set in stone, it’s important to be very clear about who made the final cut—especially when it’s time to address your invitations.
For example, let’s say you’ve decided to have a kid-free wedding. If you want to invite friends who have children, DON’T address their invite to “The Jones Family.” This wording might give them the impression that the kids are invited to the wedding, and it can lead to awkwardness and confusion when they learn that only mom and dad are welcome. The best thing you can do is address your invitations specifically to the people who are invited. This will make everything perfectly clear and avoid any guest list drama.
You Forgot to Include RSVP Stamps
So, you think you’re finally ready to mail those invitations. You’ve gone over the text with a fine-toothed comb and made sure it’s absolutely perfect. All the necessary information is printed clearly, plain as day. Every envelope is addressed to your guests by name. Looks like everything is in good order…except for one thing: your reply cards don’t have any stamps!
This is a pretty minor mistake, but it can make a big difference for your wedding head count. It’s considered very poor etiquette to ask your guests to pay for their RSVP (even if it is just a little stamp), which means you need to provide postage for each and every reply. If you don’t, some guests may postpone sending in their RSVPs—and some may forget to send them altogether.
You’re Mailing Them too Late (or too Early)
We’re just about there—your invitations look perfect, every envelope is stamped and ready to go…now can you put those puppies in the mail? Not so fast; the next thing you need to do is check your calendar. Wedding invitations are a little like Goldilocks—they can’t be sent too late and they can’t be sent too early. If you send them too close to your wedding date, guests may not have time to make the necessary arrangements (request time off work, find a babysitter, etc.). If you send the invitations too early, your guests may forget about the wedding by the time the date arrives!
The best time to send your wedding invitations is eight weeks before the big day (12 weeks if you’re having a destination wedding). If your invites are ready before that time, it’s best to hold onto them for a while.