Wedding invitations are a big part of planning your special day, and this has been tradition for quite some time. But, that doesn’t mean invites haven’t evolved over the past few years, especially. Particularly when it comes to invitation wording, there are new customs in this aspect of your wedding stationery that you should be aware of before you approve your proof and stamp the envelopes.
Wedding Website Information
A new wedding tradition that has really blown up in recent years is the addition of a wedding website. These have become the expectation and they’re a simple place to post pertinent information and updates for your guests. But, how will your friends and family know you even have a website or how to get there? Your invitation, of course! This is something to add into your invitation suite, but it’s most commonly mentioned on an insert that is separate from your actual invitation. On the insert, you can denote something like, “Please visit our wedding website for further details” and then include the URL.
Ditch the Formalities
While it’s still perfectly acceptable to be formal on your wedding invitations, many couples are now ditching the line traditionally stated, “We request the honor of your presence.” Instead, brides and grooms are going with a more casual line such as, “We’d love nothing more than for you to share in our celebration,” or even cheekier language such as, “Please join us as we get hitched.” Really, the new tradition is that anything goes for this line, which allows couples to show their personality!
Denoting the Hosts
While traditionally the parents of the bride would pay for the wedding, things are so different these days. While sometimes that’s still the case, other times the groom’s family pays, it’s a combination of the two—or many couples even pay for their own wedding! With that being said, there are new rules surrounding how you should denote the hosts of your wedding on the invitation.
First of all, you can be less formal than what tradition calls for. If one set of parents is hosting, you can write something like, “John and Jane Smith invite you to share in the marriage of their daughter, Samantha Marie, to Jacob Michael Johnson, son of Jared and Lisa Johnson.”
If both parents are contributing financially, you can write something like, “John and Jane Smith and Jared and Lisa Johnson invite you to share in the marriage of their children.” Both of these are more casual as they don’t use the Mr. and Mrs. titles (although you can if you want to) and they include both sets of parents.
If the couple is paying for the wedding as well, the invitation can say something like, “Together with their families, Samantha Smith and Jacob Johnson invite you to share in and celebrate their marriage.” This is a great blanket term that covers all bases when multiple parties are contributing financially to the event.
Finally, if the couple is hosting the wedding for themselves, something simple like, “Join us for the wedding of Samantha Smith and Jacob Johnson,” is a great way to denote this on an invitation. If you want something more clever or unique, you can go with, “We are tying the knot. Join us for the wedding of Samantha Smith and Jacob Johnson.” Really, you can get as creative as you want to with this.
Are Kids Invited?
Many couples are opting to add a line to their invitation suite about whether kids are included in the festivities. If kids are not invited, you can add something more cheeky like, “We love kids! Just not on our big day.” If you want something more formal, you can add a line like, “To allow all guests to relax and enjoy themselves, we have chosen to make our special day adults only. We thank you for your understanding.” Either way, it’s totally appropriate to include this information on your invitations.
If you want to let guests know that children are welcome at your event, you can also denote that on the invitation. Something like, “We’re so excited to celebrate our marriage with your entire family!” would be appropriate.
The bottom line for wedding invitation traditions is that they’ve become a lot more lax in recent years. Much of the formality has disappeared—although you can still go formal if you want to! Do what feels right to you and your personality as a couple when it comes to your wedding invitation, and you’ll never regret it.