Tackling the Thank You Notes: What to Send and What to Say

Thank you notes for wedding gifts

Thanking people for their generosity is a must in any case, but when it comes to your wedding guests and the gifts they lovingly gave, it’s needed. Saying thank you in person is nice, and texting is okay, but the best (and proper) way to say thank you is with a thank you note.

Thank you notes are quickly becoming a lost token of appreciation in our digital world. It may seem easier to send a text or even a quick email to all the people who were kind enough to celebrate your special day and support your love with a gift, but the proper thing to do is get out a pen and express your gratitude on paper.

If you find yourself wondering how to get started, don’t worry, it’s easier than you think.

Who Should You Send Them to?


You should send a thank you note to everyone who either gave you a gift, a card, or even just showed up to celebrate your special day.

To keep track of who gave what, keep a list nearby while opening your presents. A simple way to do this is to write a little reminder on either the card that came with the gift, or even on the envelope. You can also write it on a separate piece of paper or make a note in your phone.

Why Send Thank You Notes?


Sending a thank you note after any special occasion is just good manners. Baby showers, birthday parties, even job interviews, and especially weddings, are all events that should require sent thank you notes in return.


When you receive a gift, it’s a very special symbol of love, joy, and affection that the person is giving you. That is why it’s important to return the favor. Sending your guests thank you notes is a wonderful way to let them know how grateful you are and how much their generosity means to you.

How Should You Approach Writing Them?


Sure, the idea of sending a thank you note sounds easy, but there are a few things you should consider before you get started. One thing that you should always do is send a handwritten card. It might be easier to type it up, it might even seem classier to print it, but a handwritten card is so much more personal and will be much more appreciated. It shows that you really took the time to write to them specifically, rather than a simple name and gift edit on your computer.

From the Heart

When you get started, remember to write from the heart. Don’t just grab a template off the internet and fill in the gaps, but remember who exactly you are writing to and write to them as if you are speaking directly to them. How would you talk to your grandma or you best friend? Write in a way that is meaningful and from the heart.

What Should Be Included in Each Thank You Note?


Like any letter, you should start your thank you note with a greeting. You don’t have to get all fancy or stressed out about it; a simple greeting will work just fine. For example, you could say “Dear Grandma and Grandpa,” and that would suffice! In fact, it’s probably the best way to write your greeting as it is the correct form for thank you notes.

If you are writing a thank you note for someone you aren’t very familiar with, just remember to always double check the spelling of the person’s name.


Your first paragraph should express how happy, grateful, or excited you are for the gift. This is going to be the first thing the person reads, so it should be something that really makes them feel good and appreciated. So, for example, you can say something like, “We are so grateful for the…” or even, “Thank you so much for the…” Always make sure to include what the exact gift is in the first sentence, too.


The next part should include specific details about the gift you received. You can mention how the color works perfect in your living room or how you can’t wait to use it at your next dinner party. Even if it’s money that you received, you can let them know how you plan to spend it. This helps you show your gratitude even more because it gives them a sense of how much you actually like it by describing how or when you’re going to actually use it.


At this point, you should let them know you’re thinking about him or her, or if you know you will be seeing them soon, that you can’t wait. Mentioning this before ending your thank you note brings it back to the guest and how much he or she means to you.


Before ending your thank you note, make sure to say thank you again in a different way. You want your thank you note to start with a thank you, and end with one so it stays in their thoughts.


Now you can end your thank you note with a sign-off like “sincerely,” “yours truly,” “with love,” or “many thanks.”


And finally, of course, your signature.

When Should You Send Them?

These should be sent out as quickly as possible, preferably within a month after your wedding. It’s understandable when you have a large wedding party to take a few weeks, but any later than that is too late. You want your wedding to still be fresh in their minds, not something they attended half a year ago. However, if you do send it out a little later than you hoped, you can always add a short apology for the delay.

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